ok I have been with my husband for 4 years, but we have been married for 2 1/2 months. but he always tells me that everyone wants him. and that I am a fat ***. ,and that I'm a no body. , he calls me a ***** all the time. just this last weekend we got into a fight, and I broke my knee, he let me lay there on the floor crying and sceaming and all he was doing was telling me that I was a *****, and that I was faking in. and I had to get up all myself. but when we did go to the hospital they told us that I tore my ACL,PCL, and my menisus, he even went as far as taking the house keys, the truck keys and the storage keys away from me. the storage has all my thing in it. he goes though my mail, my e-mail, my cell phone, and my purse. is this abuse or is it normal?
2007-06-06 15:10:19 · 12 answers · asked by bkgracia70 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask yourself,How does that make me feel when he treats me like this? Then ask yourself, How does it make him feel? If your answer is anything but happy, and it makes him happy then it can be considered abuse. Abuse comes in many forms other than physical. There is emotional abuse. That is what it sounds like to me. If he loves you ,then he should treat you with respect,and care enough about you and your feeling to not be treating you like this! Get some help from someone you trust:your mother, a sister, a good friend, or a health care provider. There is no excuse for the way he is treating you!!!! Oh, and one more thing , you deserve someone who knows how to treat you better. Hang in there through the help and things will definently get better for you- he's not going to change ,so you need to make the change!!!!
2007-06-06 15:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by spicygal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really hope this is a joke,and not real. But if it is, you certainly don't deserve this treatment. LEAVE! There is so much life waiting for you. Physical abuse starts with verbal abuse, then isolation (taking away your keys), then hitting you. Please talk to supportive family and friends, get them to help you pack up and get the heck out now!!! (If you had kids, would you want them treated this way? No way. Nor should you be.)
2007-06-06 23:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by lakesideleah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell? You ought to get out of that relationship now, before it gets to another level, this is way too much. You r just being blind by love. Wake up and smell the coffee girl. That man is a maniac, he so out of your life. He would not allow no one to do something like that to a sister of his or his mom so why does he do it to you? In every city or state there is a phone where you can call for help. That is call psychological abuse. you can get a court order for the divorce based on that abuse. Let me put it this way : Do you like being TREATED LIKE THAT HOE DOES IT MAKE U FEEL, DO YOU THINK THIS IS WHAT U DESERVE? IS THIS WHAT U WANT FOR YOURSELF THOUGHT OUT YOUR LIFE? AND FOR YOUR KIDS?
2007-06-06 22:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by mexlavanderlover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This certainly does sound like abuse. Just because he is not hitting you now does not mean he will not in the future. Abuse often starts out as emotional and turns physical. He is obviously very controlling and degrading to you. Please find a friend or family member that you can confide in and get help.
2007-06-06 22:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by LT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes this is abuse it is called mental abuse and you should get out now before you have it develop into something far more serious and if he allowed you to lay there with a broken leg with not much concern then yes you are abused
2007-06-06 22:19:41 · answer #5 · answered by billc4u 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not normal. Think about it; if you had a kid who talked to people that way, you'd tell them to watch their mouth and apologize, wouldn't you? A grown man should know better. And everybody has a right to some privacy when they want it and freedom to go places.
2007-06-06 22:18:35 · answer #6 · answered by Ambivalence 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing normal about his behavior towards you.Do yourself a favor and leave before his words turn into punches.Pack your stuff and leave.Also start looking into your legal rights and laws regarding domestic violence in your area.
2007-06-06 23:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by Brandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell? .
Its an emotionally abusive relationship. end of story.
Taking keys away? you need to get help. If you shoot me an email I can try to locate a local place for you to contact.
2007-06-06 22:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by Money Shot 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Abuse duh ? you'd have to be stupid not to know that this is an abusive man !!! sorry to be so direct but honey this is terrible that you would put up with this crap ! you don't have to you know !! now days there is more help so i hope you will get some help !! and try and get out of there before it's to late !!
2007-06-06 22:44:09 · answer #9 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is DEFINITELY mental abuse and neglect!
You don't deserve this treatment, forget your stuff and GET AWAY!
2007-06-06 22:33:16 · answer #10 · answered by Matt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋