i dont know why this is but my whole life and even now, i have not been able to be be with just one guy. like right now i am married and love my husband but i cannot stop thinking of being with other guys than him. and it was that way even before marriage even with my ex boyfriend i really loved him as well and was happy with him but i had thoughts of cheating on him to, and had a hard time commiting to just one man. why is this i hate this lifestyle. i dont cheat on them but often think about it. i always wish i was with some other men than the ones im with, but the ones im with and was with were good to me so whats the problem. i feel insecure please tell me why i feel the need to go from man to man and have a hard time settling down. i also have a 2 year old daughter with my husband. but i still feel im longing for something else . whats wrong with me please help me
2007-06-06 14:45:43 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When i'm not happy with what i have it's because i'm not happy with me.Marriage is no longer for me because,every relationship i've everhad i give so much of myself that i loose me & i'm never happy. So now i have a bf/lover who does his thing & i do mine. We don't get in each other's way. When i of us ready to leave we do.My last husband died in 2003& since then i have grown so much.For the 1st time i love myself. I know that i'm content & happy most of the time.I keep a journal & have for many years to write out all my feelings. I also pray alot.that helps.You will find your answers inside..TO THINE OWN SELF BE TRUE!!!!!!!! BIG HUGS,
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2007-06-06 15:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by texasstar1974 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason you feel this way...I have been married for 6 years and there have been times I thought of leaving because I wanted some other men to look at me or just for the attention. I mean come on marriage is suppose to be a good time but after the honeymoon it just another day. They say your beautiful but yet your thinking in the back of your mind he is just saying that he doesnt really think it. Or that this is it...no more really good times...it is marriage you go to work, take care of the kids, make dinner get a shower and the kids to bed and then just to start another borning day. Not that spending time with the kids are borning but you know what I mean. It isnt like a night out to dinner or anything. I understand but I dont think it is your longing for another...I think it is lack of attention. Not that you need much just a little would be nice.
2007-06-06 14:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe it's just that u think that by making a commitment u r losing some of ur freedom. when u commit 2 a guy, u feel hemmed in...like u don't have an option anymore. that u have 2 stick w/ him and that may bother u becuz u want 2 have that freedom, that liberty, 2 b able 2 choose other guys.
2007-06-06 14:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, if I get this right you love your husband whom you have a child with but think of being with other men all the time...okay what is wrong with you? If you want to be with only your husband then you should learn to deal with the idea of one man only. If not you should not have married in the first place and had a child....I think your thinking is a bit mixed.
2007-06-06 14:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by taljalea 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, only a psychologist or therapist should answer this one.
And its gonna take a lot of work.
In the meantime, remember, the grass always looks greener on the other side... but it usually doesn't have a job, and is only interested in sex.
Bad grass, bad!
2007-06-06 14:54:44 · answer #5 · answered by KGene1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you suffer evidently from an inferiority complex or low self-esteem and need others besides the one you have to decide your self worth for you. It sounds like you will one day be cheating on them so i think you would benefit from therapy for this problem it is a self destructive activity
2007-06-06 15:31:54 · answer #6 · answered by billc4u 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is due to your childhood and the relationship(s) your mom had.. Not sure on the exact story but you have 2 choices...
)get some professional therapy (they can really help) or
)drive to dallas and spend an afternoon getting "serviced". =)
2007-06-06 14:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by Money Shot 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-07 19:22:44 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the chase is more fulfilling to you than the catch
or maybe its the thrill of doing someone behind your partners back along with the excitement and risk of being caught that gets you off
2007-06-06 14:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be in your best interest to discuss with your hubby your feelings. Based on your discussion, having a child, you have alot invested in the family. Trust is important and discussing with your husband may help you in your resolve.
2007-06-06 14:50:50 · answer #10 · answered by Noe F 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋