I just found out my sister's boyfriend of 14 years had a baby by another woman (this is not his first time doing this)He has done it before and has an 11 year old from his previous affair (my sister forgave him for this one) but now i heard he has a 3 mos. old by another woman (My sister has three kids from him). My question is do i tell her about his new baby? or maybe she already knows but is to ashame to tell me? I have told her before that i heard rumors of him cheating again but she never believed me. Any suggestions? Thanks!
2007-06-06 14:41:44 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, He should have already told her but if he didn't you should make sure he did. If he didn't she should really start to think about what kind of relationship they are having and does she really want to be with him. Tell her to ask him and to check his phone and if he is cheating kick his *** to the curve.
2007-06-06 14:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by Eddison S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best Advice ... Leave well enough alone let her deal with this in her own way and let her come to you for help when she needs you to be. You are better of not even letting on that you know. act suprised and offer her a lot of sympathy. Do not put this man down in front of her it will only make her defend him and this will backfire. Just be there thats all you can do when the going gets bad..
2007-06-06 14:46:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes , tell her but make sure your info is correct first , she has the right to know and not to be made a fool of , if it is true he is a dog and not much of a husband or father to anyone . She would be better off alone , or at least putting and end to his cheating ,
but be careful how you approach telling her , you may have to set it up that she finds out for herself so she do sent think your just making it up !
2007-06-06 14:49:47 · answer #3 · answered by toolmanpei06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you hit the nail on the head. what if it is just a rumor. you break up something that may have been fixed 11 years ago.I would wait it out and if you ever get real proof then bring it to her otherwise you risk losing her as a sister and she risks losing the father of her children.
2007-06-06 14:45:49 · answer #4 · answered by debbie f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! How close are you to your sister? Because I know with MY sisters, they probably would first get angry with me, then confront the guy, then come back at me with either a "Waaah! It's no fair!" or a "He's such a JERK!!" (depending on what the guy says!) If you have a lot of information and you know it's true--then I probably would take the chance and talk to her in private--just you and her. Who knows? Maybe she does know. BUT, if she doesn't, then she needs to know.
2007-06-06 14:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by April W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while murder is illegal & I would never condone killing another human being.... this guy really stretches my ethics to the limit.
What a f*ck!
She should bring him to the doctor for some "check-up" and have those vasdeferens (sp) snipped
Once a cheater... always a cheater. Guys like this don't change, and if your sister is too blinded by hormones & pheremones to see that, then there's not a lot you can do about it.
She can't change him, and you can't change her.
You should talk to her about it, but if she chooses not to believe you, there's not a whole lot you can do about it.
2007-06-06 14:46:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you tell her. also get proof, like the baby mother's name. so if she denies it you can give her more information to work with. she might have heard the woman's name before or heard similar rumors.
2007-06-06 14:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by nikkij 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have learned from personal experience not to be the bearer of bad tiddings best to let your sister discover the facts for herself or she may take the side of the cheater against you cause no one likes to believe that they can fall for the same line time after time
2007-06-06 14:45:27 · answer #8 · answered by billc4u 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gees, Generally I would say to stay out of it but it's your sister so I would speak up because if she finds out that you knew before she found out......you need to tell her.
2007-06-06 14:45:20 · answer #9 · answered by Becky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell because its your sister and wouldnt you want to know? just make sure you sit her down and act mature about it and let her know you are telling her because you care about her and not trying to ruin the relationship.
good luck and hopefully she gets rid of this guy but by what you said i doubt it
2007-06-06 14:45:29 · answer #10 · answered by surfcarolinagurl26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋