ok heres the deal... i recently got married to my bf of five years. things have been rough for us the last 3 yeasr, we both went through a addiction to painkillers and he hurt his back seriosuly 3 years ago and it recently has gotten worse bc he kep tm working. now he cant work at all and might need to have surgery. anyways when we got married he promised things would chnage, he would work harder to get his back fixed and i have not seen any progress. it is soo frustrating bc i do love him but i think im strating to become soo stressed out bc im paying for everything and there never is enough money and im only 25 and i did not envision life like this. i know life is not perfect and u have to work through problems but i feel like all there ever is is problems. i met this guy at work that reminds me of how it felt to feel happy and i am afraid of that bc my husband should be doing that. when i try to talk to my husband he gets defensiveand says i am nagging him, i cant take it !
2007-06-06 13:41:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You married him for better or for worse. Stop looking for a way out, and start dealing with what you have.
2007-06-06 13:44:53 · answer #1 · answered by Lady M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your missing the larger picture here, remember for better or worse in sickness and health? Why do you think those issues are mentioned during a wedding, it comes with committment...and now your back sliding basically saying you didn't actually think it would happen...The position your in is a test of your loyalty, not just to your husband but to your own integrity...To Jesus Christ if your marriage was blessed in a Church... So now your feeling weakened by the added stress and another man, ( remember hearing let no man come between this union), has now taken you back before these vows were made...Heres the deal, you honor your vows...good will come from doing so, but patience is required..or let your husband go through this on his own while you enjoy the comforts of another man...which I can gaurantee will leave you with much less dignity than option one...the choice is yours...its your marriage.
2007-06-06 20:59:21 · answer #2 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You knew you had the problems but you signed on for the deal anyway. What were you thinking? Now you are already looking for someone else to take you away. Before you bring children into this relationship, end it. You didn't go into it for the long haul and you obviously haven't committed. Save all of you the long drawn out affairs and divorces and get it over with.
2007-06-06 20:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not have married him. You knew what you were getting yourself into. No matter what anyone says Love isn't all you need to survive. You also need someone who cares about you enough to get up and do his best to support you. You should have made him straighten up and earn you, but you didn't. Not to say you are stuck, but you do not get to just walk away. You have to try now. Here comes counseling and rehab and whatever else it takes. You promised....and so did he. And yeah it's nagging, and it's what he needs. Nag away sister. You deserve to be happy. And that means he has to get his lazy butt up and do his part to make a happy home. Best of luck.
2007-06-06 20:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by ambergail1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is depressed
try to tell him to go to the dr and get some help
you have to tell him that this is killing you marriage
when did you get married?
you have asked this so many times looking for the answer you want to hear you know that this other guy at work is just an infatuation and you know it is the wrong answer but you are looking for a reason to leave and that is the wrong thing to do.
dont look here cause the answer is within you
2007-06-06 20:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem was you married him before things changed, so he has no real reason to change. If this isn't how you envisioned life, you married him too soon-- you married an idea, rather than a fact.
Since you exchanged vows, you promised in sickness & in health, for richer for poorer.
2007-06-06 20:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let your husband no how you feek\l first and if you dont want yall love to come to an end then just keep working through you problems and maybe your not showing to much of your love and affection for him
2007-06-06 20:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by In love! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answered this question just a few minutes ago. Go back to see my opinion.
2007-06-06 20:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out before he sucks you completely under.
2007-06-06 20:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋