Has anyone ever felt like they just dont belong anywhere?

Question

My school is very cliquey everyone is either a slu t, prep, emo, "wish I was a prep/ sl ut," or rich bratt. I am more of a tomboy in a sense on the outside because emos arents accepted around here even the emos arent really emo. I am I think emo on the inside, I get depressed and suicidal a lot and I am abused and I tried telling a friend but because this is a wealthy area where I live its just not the norm, like in health we were asked if we think people get abused in my town or hit and everyone said no and I was sitting there thinking you are all wrong anyway my entire life I have never fit in anywhere and I have ALWAYS been made fun of, I dont remember a day when I wasn't. Has anyone ever felt like they dont belong and how did they cope with it? Thanks so much

Answer 1

well congratulate yourself on being unique......... be yourself.... that's the way to go.

Answer 2

Aw hunny. I think first of all you should talk to someone you trust about the abuse. Noone should be made to suffer in silence. Maybe your school has a councelling service, or you could talk to a teacher you like, a family member or your doctor. They will take what you say seriously and try and help you. If you feel like you need to talk to someone tonight or just need a friendly chat, try the samaritans or childline.
You don't say how old you are, but during your teens it is quite difficult to fit in, and even though they dont show it, I'm sure everyone feels the pressure sometimes! It gets easier as you get older- trust me! I'm sure there is someone else who doesn't have a certain clique. Even if now you think you would have nothing in common, try and talk to them and you may be suprised. Noones going to not want to have a new friend! Maybe at school you can get involved in the school play/ art club etc. and that way you can meet some new people with similar interests to you. When I was about 14 I moved to a new school and the same thing happened. I just latched onto people (not too much though). You become friends with someone if you have a history together- when you know whats going on in each others lives. Try and make that bond with people. I used to also think of conversation topics before I went to bed. I know that sounds really sad, but now at 18, I have all the friends I could wish for and its just all alot better!
Please don't fret! Good luck xxxx

Answer 3

I never felt like I belonged on Earth. But, in school I was quiet and hung out with the artsy types eventually. How are you abused? Who is abusing you?? I think that this is the problem, and that you feel even more isolated by the rich phony's you are in school with.

You need to tell an adult like a counselor or if you have a teacher or some adult you trust that you are being abused, not your uncaring classmates, honey. Kids sometimes are just worried about their own lives and don't have the capacity to see that someone needs help.

Just don't do something drastic, please! At least check this site out: http://www.yellowribbon.org/

Answer 4

Remember this honey: On the last day of your life, money won't mean $hit. No one can take even a single penny with them. If they think they're better than you because of money they are sadly mistaken. You are who you are for a reason. There is a lot of other "wealth" in this world. There is the wealth of love. There is the wealth of honor. There is the wealth of contentment.

Concentrate on your school, graduate and get out of there. Then find a career path of your own to make yourself happy.
I'm an American living in Japan so I know what it's like to feel like an outsider. Be tough! Don't let them win!

Answer 5

Oh dear! You do have some problems, don't you. First, and most importantly, you really MUST speak with someone if you're being physically abused! It's wrong, it's against the law, and you really don't have to put up with it. Is there a teacher you like and trust to whom you could confide this problem? If not a teacher, go to any Church, any Minister of any Religion and talk to them. You may be able to ask them if there's a female person you could confide in. Don't feel ashamed to share this - it's not your fault, you're the innocent victim here.
When, and I know you'll do this, you've got rid of all that garbage you've been carrying around with you, you'll find your self-image will improve, it will change your perspective, and you'll find that there are good people around you who are willing to help you out.

Answer 6

Absolultely. I have been an outcast most of my life, but because I was different it made me realize something. I realized that since I was different, I was in a class by myself. Later on in life, people saw that my difference was what they were lacking and started to come to me for friendship. I was taken advantage of sometimes but my true friends would come to my aid. Just because you dont fit into a click, doesnt mean that you dont belong anywhere. It just may mean that it will take a while for someone to notice your unique traits. Most of all, dont compare yourself to others. Its a blind comparison. You dont know their faults because all you see is the good on the outside. Thats why you feel being around one person brings out the best in them and the worst in you. Your great the way you are. I know its cliche, but its true.

Answer 7

Its cool to be a loner as long as you don't fell bad about who you are.. Its not cool to accept abuse from anyone be sure you understand the nature of true abuse. Look it up ask your school counselor what is abuse and if it is determined you are truly being abused you have to be strong and tell someone that can help you. Like a police officer or the school counselor. Good luck...

Answer 8

I think that is just high school. I always felt like I was the only person who didn't "fit" into a group. I had a friends...but I thought I was the odd one and like no one understood me. It took me many years to realize that I was not the only person who felt that way. All those people that I knew, whom I thought "fit" into their groups and never had a care in the world were just as lost and uncertain as I was. I was just too worried about what people thought about me to notice.....and they never noticed I felt that way for the same reason. Just give it about 5 years. Things will smooth out. Trust me.

Answer 9

I always feel like I don't belong. But then you have to realize that you have to please yourself. Then I feel like I belong when I am true to who I am. I am depressed at times, and have been suicidal. But you have to force yourself to think positive. Nothing will change unless you make it happen. It doesn't matter what anyone says or thinks about you because in the end none of it will matter. If you ever need to talk you can email me.

Answer 10

Okay forget the click thing you have a bigger problem. If your being hit or abused you have to get out of there. Tell a teacher, a cop, or some other adult.

Answer 11

We all feel like that sometimes, and some of us (me included) feel like that all of the time. You just suck it up, unfortunately. There's nothing else to do.

On that note, if you are seriously being abused, you need to speak with someone. There are teen hotlines where you can talk to someone totally anonomously about your situation and what the solutions might be. Please try one. Nobody deserves to be abused.