I'm starting to get sick of?

Question

two of my friends who have NO confidence whatsoever. It's absolutely ridiculous at how depressed they are because guys don't flock over them, or they have un perfect skin, how they think they look like monsters walking down the street or something, how paranoid they are about people always talking and saying stuff about them....I try to tell them stuff to lift them up, but it's like a seashell with holes and just goes right through them and the next day they're the same. I'm trying my best to keep hanging out with them, but they're starting to make me even more depressed and adding on to my own problems in life. I want them to be happy and realize that they don't need stupid guys in their lives and that they have they are BEAUTIFUL but they always say the opposite. They need serious therapy and I don't know what to do. They're semi-anti social and don't like to go anywhere (to parties and stuff or the mall) I ♥ them w/all my heart, but what can I do??

I'm not about to just move on to different friends. That's retarded.

Answer 1

Hey, I think I might be able to help.

I was going through the same thing. I felt depressed all the time and nothing my friends seemed to say seemed to help. The trick I found out to help me not feel depressed, is to just be around people more. I mean, if they like to be antisocial, that's not goting to help. Take baby steps. Like, talk on the phone, slowly invite them over to your house often. Then maybe they'll work their way up to going to the mall and stuff. By being around people, they will find people like them for who they are, and how they look on the outside may be last on their list of worries. I know from personal experience, by slowly trying to be more social, soon you will be more comfortable in your own skin. And people who never really noticed you before will talk to you more, and they might find more people to socialize with.

You could also try finding them a hobby, or atleast helping them find something they enjoy.

Being social helps everything. But take it slowww

BTW-My parents force me to get outside and do something instead of sitting around feeling sorry for myself. Be aggressive, but not pushy!

Answer 2

Your don't have to get different friends but limit you exposure to them. I was in the same situation when I was younger and all it did for me was bring me down and I didn't like the way it made me feel. You can only do so much before you will eventually start doubting yourself too.

Answer 3

I would try to get therapy for them becuase they are your friends. You could just try and find other friends who won't make you so depressed. Maybe when they realize you aren't around any more they will change their attitude. My best advice is just try and talk to them.

Answer 4

You're probably more mature than your friends. They're going through a normal adolescence. Be patient, they will grow out of it. Meanwhile, try to be sympathetic, while providing some interesting things to do to get their minds off their problems.

Answer 5

You nice to worried about them,but you should move on and get better friends to hang out with.

Answer 6

Energy seeks it's own level, so seek out people with positive energy, and your life will be more positve. Stay with friends who are constantly a downer, and they will more than likely bring you down.

Answer 7

You are a great friend.... continue to be there for them and try to not allow yourself to be effected by their low-self-esteem! Good Luck

Answer 8

your a good friend maybe they just wanna be like you are confident so they feel bad they dont get as much attention as you would....