What do male partners say to their fat women ?

Question

When they are living with or married to them and see them getting more and more obese ? What on earth size beds do these couple need to buy or have built even ? But...how do the men sweet talk their partners into feeling alright all the time when they are getting rapidly and horribly worse? Just keep telling them that they are "cuddly " or some odd crap like that ?

I am 49 yrs old.and slim with a careful diet and exercise, mental physical and spiritual. I agree with that bit that says no one should tolerate living with someone who lets themself go. I think it is a disgusting way for someone to be and an insult to the one they are chosing to share life with. I just think there must be some skilled sweet talkers around in men, who really are looking and going elsewhere but keep the peace for their own comfort ? Fat women are gross basically !

Answer 1

ok....i gained of weight over the past 2 years and i felt awful, my self esteem went on an all time low and i lost my confidence and sparkle, none of my clothes fitted me, i was buying clothes that were baggy or elasticated and i tried to hide it as much as i could, a few friends did mention that i'd gained weight which made me feel even worse and i cried alot about it...it had nothing to do with stuffing my face with fatty junk food or lack of excercise, it was a hormone imbalance and i gained 2 stone, (28 pounds) hitting 12 stone, i know it does not seem like alot but i am pretty tall and i have a medium frame, so i looked huge, i had the double chin and the rolls of fat on my body, my butt was massive, i hated my body and i would not let my partner see me like that, so things got a little bit stale between us, it got that bad that we fought about it alot, eventually it destroyed us, so after 11 years in a pretty good relationship with this man i decided to end it because it was obvious that he was not happy with me looking the way i did, in fights he'd called me fat and other nasty names and told me that he was not attracted to me any more, being told by someone you love that your fat is a horrible feeling and it made me feel worse, i went to see my doctor and he put me on HRT...i am only in my early 40's and i was hitting the menopause already, my ex didn't understand any of this and just thought that i was getting lazy....anyways 2 years down the road i am back to my svelt 9 st 8 and i look teriffic, my weight has dropped dramatically and i feel fantastic, and men are interested in me.... pity for my ex partner, because every time he sees me now, he's gutted, this man will not be getting a piece of me any more because he was so mean to me when i gained the weight, so if you want to keep your wife/partner, be supportive and help her through this instead of whining about how big and grotesque she is, otherwise she may just do what i did and dump the ignorant sod....give her some encouragement and suggest that she diets, she must know that she's gained weight and she must be feeling pretty crappy about it, so the least you can do is help her out....instead of calling her names, it's not easy when you gain weight and it knocks your confidence for 10, so be there for her, otherwise get out if you don't like the way she looks, she may have gained weight, but she's still the same woman you married...maybe you should buy yourself a single bed just incase she dumps your sorry a*se...stop being so cruel and help your wife to lose weight....

Answer 2

You are 49 yrs old. And slim with a careful diet and exercise.
You are also what is called colloquially, "a complete b itch". Just because you don't like fat women doesn't mean everybody doesn't, I actually know quite a few guys who only go out with fat girls because it's what they find beautiful. Personally, I prefer thin people and I am thin, but it doesn't take a genius to see that often when two people eat the same amount one puts on weight and the other stays the same. Overeating is an eating disorder, and it can be as incredibly difficult to give up as anorexia, they are both underlyingly the same. The anorexic knows (towards the end, o sometimes right from the start) that she is killing herself, the fat person knows she is getting fat, but neither can stop. Going on a diet isn't easy, you don't just wake up and say to yourself, "ooh, look at that spare tyre! I know, I'll go on a diet and be thin to please my partner!"and 24 hours later you're a walking twig. And if a fat person is going out with a thin guy, then either he actually prefers fat people, she is a GENUINELY KIND person and they are COMPATIBLE, so what they look like doesnt matter (it's difficult to understand if you're as materialistic and plastic as you clearly are, I almost sympathise), or if the guy cares that much they should just break up so that she can go and find a guy who appreciates her for who she is.

Get a life.

Answer 3

I'm a big woman (I'm 5' 7" and 210lbs)and my husband is a big guy.He is 6 ' 5" and weighs over 300 lbs and he is not a fat slob.I fully admit that I should lose some weight but I don't obsess over it and he has no problem with it.We sleep in a Queen size bed the only issue is he's so tall his feet stick out between the posts of the foot board. If you are not attracted to heavier women don't date them there's plenty of men out there who like what they see inside and out,and don't need a barbie doll on their arm to prove their masculinity.

Answer 4

I asked my husband if I look big and he says yes and gives this look of discuss so I know I need to lose weight. He has also told me when I didn't ask he just said hunny you are getting a little chunky. I am not that chunky 139 5'3 but I am glad he is honest cause I don't want to get to the point were I wake up and look at myself and think how did I become such a fat ***

Answer 5

It all depends. First, one must ask themselves on what is their love or relationship based? Is it all on looks or is it about the real person. It's weird for thin people to think this, but fat people have exactly the same feelings as any one else. They have the same dreams and desires and they even have the exact same sex drive. There have been studies that show that as a society the one bias we have that's stronger than any other, even stronger than any type of racism, is our bigotry toward people who are over-weight.

And, by-the-way, some guys love fat women and think that skinny women are absolutely and totally disgusting. In fact, in most parts of the world skinny women equals women who are poor and ignorant. Fat women are wealthy and cultured, because if a woman had money, they'd eat.

Answer 6

i think you are very insecure maybe you lack the confidence to chat up the beautiful slim blond woman so you try your luck with an over weight women and she gave you the knock back as well and now your low self esteem and poor looks mean your confidence is at an all tome low and you are over the hill a bit time is slipping you by so you knock fat women to get your revenge but the thing is a fat woman can loose weight but you my friend will always be a sad old fart

Answer 7

Some people have no prejudice against overweight women as you do...they are happy with their woman no matter what size. And some women are happy and accept themselves overweight no matter what our anorexic obsessed media says.

I suggest that you find a woman that has the same priorities as you do about staying fit.

Most obese people that I know are absolutely beautiful on the inside, ...which is the most important thing....to me.

And most "hollywood" looking people I know are complete a$$holes, totally self-absorbed and fake.....they are very ugly and unattractive to me.

It's admirable that you take good care of yourself, I respect that. You'll be happiest with a woman that does the same.

Answer 8

Actually they throw subtle hints to let you know that you are starting to spread out. Sometimes it hurts your feelings and sometimes it gets your attention. Of course there are probally some guys out there who just let it happen cause they figure if their woman is fat then other guys won't look at her. As far as bed size they would have to get really huge for this to be an issue.

Answer 9

Hilarious. Nothing like being frank and out with it fellow ! You mean the difference between subtle hint and self centred lies I guess ? Well who knows who keeps who down but there are a lot of beaten looking men dragging about with huge wives and spouses. Maybe it is the fetish that works or that the men too have just given up and bury into their own indulgences for comfort. You have come up with another good one there mr.herbalist ! The bedroom secrets of compliant men and obese women ? You are a star.

Answer 10

Stand up and walk atleast 5 mins after evry 2 hours while working