2007-06-06 12:21:52 · 17 answers · asked by loveitdet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont think that there is any magic way of getting over someone that you love. It is a process that takes time. Losing someone that you truly love is devastating, but it will become easier with each passing day. Just try to make yourself busy, and try not to think of that person each minute of the day. Good Luck!
2007-06-06 12:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by anjoli16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to get over him? Has he hurt you emotionally in the past? If your best friend were in the same situation, what would you say to her? I was with a guy, my first love, for 3.5 years. He ended up just being to immature in the long run and we had to break up. I went to Barnes and Noble or Borders and went to the self-help section and sat there and read books about how to get over him. Read that one "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" I really got a lot out of that book. It takes time and you never think you will get over him or be able to love anyone else, but it just happens, and I have loved again.......
2007-06-06 19:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by BrusselSprouts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to be willing to give yourself time. Losing a love relationship isn't that different from losing a person you love in death. It takes one full year (or longer) to begin to heal after a death, and yes, it takes time to heal after losing someone you love, even if you agree it's the best thing. There is mourning process that has to be gone through.
Second, you might want to, in a few weeks, take a good look at you and this relationship. It sounds as if there are over-tones of obsession, and obsession should not be misunderstood as being love. It's not.
But mainly, give yourself time.
2007-06-06 19:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell me. Does it hurt "him" ? If not, you had a different level of emotional involvment than him, that can hurt the most.
Reality, truth, is a hard thing to face, we expect everyone to be as we are "but" we are all different emotionally because of life experiences, the way we were raised, lots of reasons.
Some have no sense of the depths of love, some do, some are so distant that they don't care one way or the other.
"Try" to put "fact", "faith", with "emotions" as the caboose and it will help. Reality sucks, but it does help us grow in character and discernment. "Love" suffers much, without the suffering for the sake of love, it would not be love.
Is "he" suffering ? Is he willing to for you ?... in that is your answer.
Read 1 Corinthians chapter 13, it tells what love is, if he hasn't those qualities then he wasn't worth loving "but" love has to "try" and not "all" will be responsive.
2007-06-06 19:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by dad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never truly get over any one person you loved. There will always be a song on the radio, a restaurant, a dream, a quick flash of memory. Time is essential, it never heals just helps you over the rough spots. What cannot be mended must be endured.
Just remember there are different types of loves, and all can be rewarding.,
2007-06-06 21:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by sparky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u ever find the answer let me know.Its hard 2 get over someone just like that.Only u can influence the decision,People can help but deep down its u who has to make the progress and decide weather u can do it or not. it will take time.
2007-06-06 19:31:15 · answer #6 · answered by Emma xXx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I have found that hanging out with someone new sometimes gets your mind off the ex. Here is why. #1 it allows you to see what else is out there and most times you will find someone new that has what the ex was missing. #2 You'll realize it's a good thing you broke up.
2007-06-06 19:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, here's what you do:
Gather all of the things that remind you of him and make sure they are in one place (a box), so you don't see them randomly and want to stab yourself.
Get some new music to listen to for a while that you never heard together.
Allow yourself time to write, cry, vent, freak out, when need be.
Spend some time taking care of yourself and being nice to yourself...mani/pedi/a full body massage.
Get out of the house and walk the dog!
Remember that it hurts now, but you will heal! Hang in there!
2007-06-06 19:26:49 · answer #8 · answered by pola 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time
2007-06-06 19:25:34 · answer #9 · answered by LJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally know how you feel. I primise that you will be ok. You'll realize one day that it was for the best. Think of it this way, don't yon want to be with someone who wants to be with you as you want to be with them?
You'll find that person one day. And you'll be happier than you've ever been.
Without experiencing this sadness, you wouldn't be able to appreciate happy times as much as you do.
Hug yourself and remind yourself of all of the great things about you. Talk to friends, they'll be there for you.
Parents probably would be willing to do anything you need, milk it for all it's worth!
2007-06-06 19:37:33 · answer #10 · answered by megan f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋