We have been together for a few years now (living together), and I sometimes wonder if he's in another world. For example, When I want to do something, he doesn't feel like it...but if his friends call, he suddenly has energy to do things. So then I say to him, "Hey, we should really do more together", he's all like, but we do a lot together (we really don't...an occasional dinner/movie). So, I'm not really sure what that's all about. Also, his eating habits really bother me. He just got results back from a physical, and he has really high colesterol...but he still eats lots of pizza and fast food (and he's gaining weight). I try to work out together, but he never feels like it and wants to play video games instead (I love video games myself, but he likes games that we can't really play together).
It seems like maybe he's getting bored. Anyone else been through this?
2007-06-06 12:12:46 · 11 answers · asked by vanessabfly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OMG you sound just like ME!!! What I did was sit him down and explained what I was feeling, about EVERYTHING. For some reason it clicked with him that time. I guess it was because i didn't ry to do it at the moment it was happening but rather when we were both colled off and ready to have an Adult conversation (not an argument) . It worked with my husband and now we are doing so much better. Talk to him and give him time to do some thing about it. If he just doesn't do anything then he's not interested in keeping you, then you should leave.
2007-06-06 12:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by mrs.v259 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are a man who has no interest in women, then I suppose you could be quite happy. However, I do not know any men like that personally. The straight men I know are quite keen on the company of women, and the queer men I know have lots of women friends and I don't think would be happy in an exclusively male world either. You might also bear in mind that it is women who do most of the childcare, most of the looking after the old and the sick, who form the bulk of teachers, nurses, social workers, carers etc. You might consider that without women, men would have to take on these jobs themselves. Also it is women who produce most of the clothing we wear. How handy are you with a sewing machine? My husband doesn't like sports or beer, so I don't know how amusing he would find your world. He would miss me, I think, and I would miss him, and I would miss my sons. I think these worlds would be rather sad places. Are there really no women at all whose company you would miss? No female relatives, no female friends? And I think you are exaggerating just a little when you suggest that the women's world would have no science, technology, or math. While women may be less inventive in these areas than men, there would certainly be enough women who would be capable of reproducing the things that have been invented by certain men (most men are not inventors, any more than are most women). And there would certainly be literature, that is one field where there are plenty of distinguished women. And do you seriously imagine that women are not capabel of making fires? Come now, you're getting a bit carried away, aren't you? In the pre-industrial world, it was largely women who would have been responsible for making fires in the first place.
2016-04-01 06:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are different than women. I know that's the old saying, men are from mars (war-like) women are from venus (loving), but it really is true. Men like to be alone with their own thoughts and they also like to bond with their male friends. Guys hate to be told they have to go hang out with their girl's friends or family because for them it's doing something they just don't want to do.
This is not a problem, it's just a different way of looking at things. Guys just look at it differently.
2007-06-06 12:24:19 · answer #3 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I think age really comes into play here. Also, from experience, really analyze how his parents brought him up. Guys bottle up their emotions and push it all the way back. Well let me tell you, sooner or later it comes out...... The little things he is doing now need to be discussed and figured out or else he won't know how badly he's hurting your feelings. What's the point of living an unhappy life??
2007-06-06 12:24:34 · answer #4 · answered by BrusselSprouts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you live with him, he may count the time you have together that you aren't doing anything as doing something. Relationships do tend to cool off after a few years. You should wear something really sexy to get his attention.
2007-06-06 12:17:33 · answer #5 · answered by sandstone901 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to move on. He wants to hang out with the guys, eat pizza and sit on his rear being a kid.
He's taking you for granted and you're allowing it.
2007-06-06 12:17:36 · answer #6 · answered by Luv2RIDE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey dont worry I thought this was normal arent all men from a different planet cos I thought they were
2007-06-06 12:16:13 · answer #7 · answered by lisawrbiatch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Luckily you are not married to him...you really need to move on...There are too many negative things you mentioned about him and not anything positive to make me think he would ever change...Honestly what is keeping you there?!?
2007-06-06 12:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by poker_fan_in_nyc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a lousy relationship, you have nothing in common, take to break it off.
2007-06-06 12:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be dating and seeing him about 3 x a week, not pretending you are old mom and dad. he's not ready for that.
2007-06-06 12:27:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋