through out my marriage there has been alot of physical and verbal abuse,alcohol,and infiedilty from him! And now he has change completly but the love is not there.
2007-06-06 12:03:35 · 17 answers · asked by bunny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it is really a personal decision, but do you really think that you deserve to be treated like this? i have studied abusive relationships, an abuser is ALWAYS an abuser, no matter what. if he's nice now, it won't be for long. please, you deserve so much better, get out of this destructive relationship before you get killed.
2007-06-06 12:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
in a way...yes. you are wrong. love is not supposed to hurt. love is not supposed to be physical and verbal abuse. if there are children involved then you are definelty wrong for staying in an abusive relationship as you are not setting a good example for your children. by you staying in this relationship you are teling your children that it's alright to get beat up and be verbally abused. you already know what you need to do as i will not say it. you will be in the hospital or dead before you realize that you could have gotten out but didn't.
2007-06-06 12:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard one i have been where you are now.i left my first husband because of his abuse and cruelty finally ,i filed for divorce 5 times over the course of 24 years and gave birth to 5 wonderful children with him.he is their father.i loved him and was commited to make it work.i wanted my kids to have a mom and dad and didnt really believe in divorce.when he started an affair and there was no doubt about it ,i almost had a nervous breakdown!it is amazing what you get used to its almost like you become paralyzed with fear to do anything differently.only you really know how you feel.if your husband truly loves you and you feel this change is for real it bears some consideration.maybe you just dont want to love him cause its easier to tell yourself that you dont.that's what i did because i didn't want to love someone who treated me like he did.it hurt too much! ask yourself if you are better off with him or without him and why.be honest with yourself.pray about it then decide you will be fine.good luck.
2007-06-06 12:24:00 · answer #3 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel you 100%, there is alot of infiedilty online alot. very verbal and physical no alcohol, he is just a young minded child that doesnt want to grow up... and he says he really loves me but its not there anymore... same thing your going through.. GET OUT sweety he isnt gonna change. you know that... let go now..
2007-06-06 12:10:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if he has changed like you said, you are not wrong staying in the marriage, however u said the love is not there, who does not love who, is it mutual lack of love or you that no longer loves him? either way, love can be renutured if the parties are willing to save the marriage, but if you are not ready to groom love, there is no point staying in the marriage just for the sake of it. A christian is allowed to separate from his/her partner where adultery is alleged, but then cannot remarry until the death of the erstwhile spouse.
2007-06-06 12:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by molly, marmalade 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In my last relationship even though she changed, it was too late because I'd fallen out of love. Sometimes a break will work, but in my case it didn't and I had to move on. I'm very happy now and glad I did.
If you have a family (kids) it's probably worth trying extra hard to fix.
2007-06-06 12:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by aqsgtriad 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Good question.
It's not right to leave since he's already changed but at the same time who wouldn't fall out of love after taking so much abuse?
2007-06-06 12:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by Bobbie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow he has changed completely -that wasnt easy. sounds you just like a challenge. look, be wise --you cannot undo life once you leave. he is ripe for the right girl to come along now, you went through all the lumps and bumps, you deserve the good times now, relax, you are afraid to trust the future.
he did all that out of love for you, you will not find another man to love you like that. he proved his love. live in today--not yesterday.
2007-06-06 12:17:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-12 13:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean past experience.
When the time comes you will know what to do , your like a time bomb inside this how i class it as and then you will know then.
Your only human like the rest of us with emotions , it will be in your favour soon enough .
Good luck
2007-06-06 12:25:36 · answer #10 · answered by lisawrbiatch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋