Can I get some support here?

Question

I finally did the "right" thing and told my married girlfriend I couldn't be involved with her anymore. At the time I met her she was separated and circumstances (kids and she lost her job) caused her to move back in with him. She promised it was only temporary and she wasn't sleeping with him but she strung me along LONG enough ....I know I did the right thing but I miss her. I really miss her and what we shared. Just looking for a little bit of support for my decision. Thanks for listening.

I really appreciate all the great answers and support. Thank you all very much!

Answer 1

You did the right thing. She's a skanky who was screwing around on her husband and harming her own children.

Answer 2

In your heart you know you did the right thing.

You had something special with this lady, but she has made her decision ~ and that decision means you do not have a true place in her life.

Whether she strung you along because she felt sorry for you or because she still has feelings, you know that you do not want a life in which you must always take second place to her 'real' life with another man and their children.

You are a person of dignity and principle, and while that may not be something people admire in movie stars, in real life such a person is a treasure.

Make a complete break by finding a totally new group of people to spend time with ~ whether by joining a club, taking up charity work or going to night school. Spend some time being so busy you have no time to think of her.

When the dust settles, you may find you have some new friends and if none of them are potential life partners, well ... they have friends, brothers, sisters, and work colleagues too! Any of them could be the 'one' ~ or the person who introduces you to that special person YOU can have your 'real' life with.

Congratulations on being a fine person and good luck! :-)

Answer 3

Yes, you did the right thing. You do not have to be second to anyone. When she shows you some divorce papers and has a job, then maybe things could change. However, you sound like a good person, would you ever really be able to trust her in a relationship with you? You did what is best for you in the end. You will hurt for awhile because you felt strongly for her, but now you can be free to receive the blessing of your real true love without her in the way. Good Luck!

Answer 4

You did the right thing. You gotta go cold turkey. Don't be tempted. You'll get thru it and it's better than a lifetime of being strung along and not knowing what she'll do next. Sure you miss the good times but do you miss being lied to? The right one will come along and then you'll be so over her.

Answer 5

You did the right thing! Yes, youre gonna miss her but I bet you can moved on and find the right one for you. You sound like a wonderful person and I am sure that if you tell your story to some girls, they will be proud of you, like me, I am actually proud of you!!! In one relationship, both of you must be honest and both trust each other. For the things that you shared together, just think of it as a beautiful remembrance and happiness that she brought when you were together, (in times that you miss her, just think of her then just smile, the pain will go away, its just takes awhile...oh well, be happy, ok! you did a good job!

Answer 6

From a man who DIDN'T "do the right thing" decades ago, and have suffered the consequences for decades, you have my wholehearted congratulations and appreciation for the tough decision you made and actions to follow through with it. My married girlfriend and I broke up anyway, also decades ago, but not for "the right reasons", and so I came out an "all round loser". I'm happily married now, and I feel have truly been forgiven by God, but I think He will always want me to do whatever I can to help others not follow in my footsteps. If I can do that for you by giving you support in one way or another, you have it. "My hat's off to ya!" God Bless you.

Answer 7

if her relationship with her hubby was really over i think she would have moved in with you...so yes id say that you did do the right thing for yourself..it might hurt for alittle while but you will thank yourself in the long run..i mean how can you be happy knowing that she is living and probably sleeping with another man and not only you...be happy knowing you did the right thing..move on and find you someone that isent married

Answer 8

Under the circumstances, whatever you did was right thing to do and "yes" by saying you miss her, which is so obvious, means you are grieving, that's alright you are not alone we all do, we are human and we have feelings, but trust me it will go away, time heals the biggest wounds and life goes on.

Answer 9

You for sure made the right decision! Trust me....she will not leave him anytime soon and you need to be strong and move on! You deserve so much better! You never know what could happen if the jealous finds out, be careful and move on!

Answer 10

Is she back with the guy she was orginally married to? I would tend to say dont get involved when ppl come to you for advice in relationships cause when and if you give them the advice to leave in certain circumstances they will take your advice for so long then go back then you will look like the bad guy. Been in that situation before

Answer 11

you did the right thing. never date anyone who is married, they are just playin you and will string you along for as long as you will let them. think about it, she is getting what ever she wants from 2 people, what are you gettin? nothin because she is too greedy to even let you know that she doesnt want to be with you. that takes a really heartless person. you're better off without that in your life.