and i dont' understand beacuse we had been married for 11 yrs and we have a child that we both have share custody i get the child from wed night until sun morn which i dont understand why/ we will be going back to court in july they call it a custodial evaluation.what can i do.
2007-06-06 11:07:48 · 12 answers · asked by baby562 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You pretty much barely qualified for alimony....you have to married a minimum of 10 years and not working during that time. So, feel lucky you got almost a years worth. You can appeal that decision with a new judge..but that's hit or miss. Your custodial evaluation is to see how things are going in relation to custody. There going to have both of you go by yourself in a room and a psychologist or another trained professional is going to ask you questions regarding the care of your kid and so fourth. They might even do one with your kid alone. In the end both of you (you and your ex) will be in there trying to agree on custody. If your ex is a good daddy to your kid, let him see the kid. If he's not you know what to do. But definitely get a lawyer to help you.
2007-06-06 11:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by CJ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Actually, you are pretty lucky to get that. Considering the fact that you have split custody, that is. You don't say how old the child is. If the child is in a pre-school or school, there is no reason why you can't get a job to support yourself and 1/2 a kid, like your husband has to do, the judge apparently thinks this also.. There should only be child support payments if you have primary custody and the burden of raising the child rests primarily on you, but it doesn't. Spousal support should only come in to play if you have an infant and/or are incapable of working because of a permanent disability.
2007-06-06 19:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by foodieNY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could do what the judge suggested you do.FIND A JOB THAT WILL SUPPORT YOU! He has shared custody therefre it evens out.You support the kid while you have him and he does the same.He does not owe YOU A LIVING.The one year alimony was granted to you to allow you time to get your **** together.
2007-06-06 20:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by thejrzdevil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a job-take care of yourself if you agreed to joint custody well then-he shouldnt have to pay child support either if you both have custody
2007-06-06 18:22:25 · answer #4 · answered by SEAN R 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In this day and age you are lucky you get alimony at all. He isn't your husband anymore, he shouldn't have to support you AND your child. You should be working and supporting yourself and only having child support being paid to you.
2007-06-06 18:12:51 · answer #5 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
as a man this may tick some people off
stop relying on your ex and get a job and the other stuff get used to it till your child is 18
2007-06-06 18:11:16 · answer #6 · answered by rage6996 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Lets be real.
You got money from him because you had sex with him.
Divorce him and no sex, no money.
You do understand that alimony is spousal support and different from CHILD support.
2007-06-06 18:32:27 · answer #7 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You signed the divorce papers? Agreeing to what was in them or what they stated?
2007-06-06 18:11:44 · answer #8 · answered by Magicman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you concented to divorce
alimony is rare now adays
get a job and take care of yourself
2007-06-06 18:13:30 · answer #9 · answered by ann s 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Um, You could get a job.
2007-06-06 18:18:35 · answer #10 · answered by mystery_me 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋