My son lives with me on the weekdays and sees his dad pretty much every weekend. Since my son will be starting first grade in the fall, his father wants to reverse the agreement, where he'll spend weekdays with his dad and weekends with me. My ex reasons are that he earns more money, lives in a better neighborhood and school district, and so he thinks he could provide a better environment. I can't imagine separating from my son. I don't want him to feel abandoned. I also don't want my ex's live in girlfriend playing "mom" to my son. My ex gave me the summer to think about it so the transition can be easy on my son. Should I go along with the idea?
2007-06-06 11:04:51 · 10 answers · asked by Nikki B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As a single dad with his two children , I feel the best is for the children to be in the best environment possible . If my ex was in a better Poisson well then they would be with her, yes I would be unhappy ... But our own selfish attitude sometimes gets in the way for what is truly best. The courts see it the same way, and will give custody to whom can provide the best home as well as the best parent.
2007-06-06 11:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by yourmallthat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he's only 5-6 years old, he still needs to be with mom more than dad. SOrry guys, it's true; kids are more attached to their mother until about 10-12.
You have to decide this one on your own. As stated before, courts won't take his argument and so he is hoping you will agree to this on your own. If your son really WILL be in a better environment and all that jazz MAYBE you should consider it, but honestly? Kids don't need the BEST of the best, they just need "decent" and until about 10-12 they need mom.
About your ex earning more? Nothing is stopping him from giving more than the court-mandated child support money. He is free to contribute more if he wants to, just like he's free to pick up his son and take him shopping to buy whatever he thinks the boy needs. What a crock! He only said that part to make you feel guilty.
2007-06-06 12:51:19 · answer #2 · answered by Cassandra G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a fit mother, don't do drugs, not an alcoholic and are getting by just fine, there is no reason in the world for you to agree to a change in custody. You are providing a perfectly good environment for him.
The reason he is asking you to agree to it outside of court is because if he has done his homework, he knows a judge won't change the custody based on those reasons alone. He is also probably trying to get out of paying child support.
Do not agree, and if by chance he does try to take it to court, in your counter petition request that his request be denied AND that his girlfriend has to either has to move out,or not be around when your son is there (regardless of where the child's primary residence is) because you feel it is an immoral environment for him to be in. (mind you then, that will mean you can'tlivewith someone untill marriage either)
2007-06-06 11:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Granted, there are many well meaning people on this site, but this is a huge life decision that should not be based on public opinion, especially those of strangers.
In your decision making process, do consider the best interest of your son and not of anyone else (including yourself).
2007-06-06 11:16:14 · answer #4 · answered by J T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what is wrong with that--if you are pretty mutual on raising your child together what is the problem-and the step parent thing--maybe your mom and dad stayed together forever but divorcing parents happen if he doesnt like his stepmother that is one thing but if he does she will never take your place
2007-06-06 11:31:32 · answer #5 · answered by SEAN R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is what do you think would be best for your son not what is best for you! my opinion is a boy needs his mother but he needs his father more! i know this first hand!
2007-06-06 11:12:56 · answer #6 · answered by notyochic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Clearly you're not fine with this, so why even contemplate it?
Your son will do just as well with you...if you need more money for him, tell his father to dig into his pockets.
2007-06-06 11:13:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I really cant answer that for you. You are the mom, sometimes you have to make difficult decisions.
2007-06-06 11:10:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not do this. What you should do is hit your ex up for more child support.
2007-06-06 11:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
why would you let him? i mean, whats wrong with the way things are?
2007-06-06 11:07:49 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋