I've been engaged for 18 months and recently moved in for a june 24 wedding. Mail came today addressed to him (I didn't open it) and the ex-wife's had beneficiary info on the address. They have been divorced for over 13 years and their kids are in their 30's. This just created HUGE mistrust...they've been divorced for 13 years and the EX hates me (grandkids can't even tell the EX when they come over and bake cookies with me without her getting super upset). How is best way to handle..feel like I need to run for my life!!!
2007-06-06 10:37:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe it was part of the divorce agreement. Speak openly about it.
2007-06-06 10:40:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see what the problem is. Ask your husband to change the beneficiary to you. This is especially important if you decide to have children or anything. They need to be financially protected. As well, if something did happen (god forbid) to your husband, it's important you have some financial stability as it will be costly for the funeral and burial, you're going to be emotionally distraught and need to take some time off work, etc. If he has a problem with it, suggest ensuring that HE is the beneficiary on all your important documents. Tit for tat. But he shouldn't have a problem with it really. It's just comomn sense for your current spouse to be the beneficiary.
2016-04-01 06:36:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As my grandmother used to tell me, don't be making a mountain out of mole hill. It could be he forgot after all those years. Most people, yes including me, don't really pay attention to that stuff and just kind of let it go without thinking about it. Just talk with him and let him know how you feel about the situation. Suggest that possibly he could name one of his children or grands as beneficiary instead of his ex-wife.
2007-06-06 10:49:08 · answer #3 · answered by J T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem will soon be solved. After you marry, he can change all the records to reflect that you will be his beneficiary. Present it as something you'd like both of you will do with all your information--personal, professional, work, legal, etc.
2007-06-06 11:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This merits a huge discussion between you and your husband. It can't really be an oversight after 13 yrs.
2007-06-06 10:49:16 · answer #5 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would talk to your husband and see what is all about
dont get worked up till you need to get worked up life is 2 short and he cant help his ex is a witch
and it may have slipped his mind about the whole benificary thing
2007-06-06 11:08:06 · answer #6 · answered by rage6996 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him to change it to you and see what he says. He may have gone all of this time without really thinking about changing it.
2007-06-06 10:54:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him about it, it could be because that was in the divorce settlement
2007-06-06 10:43:25 · answer #8 · answered by tpurtygrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahhaha i like the end part!
just talk to him about it.
ofcourse shes gonna hate you you took her man!
haha
just talk to him about it dont worry about her she sounds like a wentch
anywho!
gl and bw
2007-06-06 10:41:55 · answer #9 · answered by brit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him. Communication is key.
2007-06-06 10:51:59 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Sarah Bear ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋