Will I be in trouble with the law?

Question

I truly cant stand my life, as it is, anymore! Im going to carefully pack all my husbands belongings up, take them to his sons home and change the locks! I married him almost two years ago, im now 47, he is 69. I experienced some major life changing traumas three years ago and was about at rock bottom, when he just asked me to marry him out of the blue, I knew him a little, through a friend. He appeared to be so wise, kind and controlled. Well, within a matter of weeks it was obvious he was not a all the person i had thought he was, now he was a bully, punching my son, totally controlling, jealous beyond belief, trying to alienate me from my family, making me feel less than useless at everything i did. Because i have a sick grown up daughter, i often had to go off to care for her, so doing something about this mans behaviour towards my son and myself kept being put off. I have now applied to the courts for a divorce. My life is now truly hell. I cant make him leave because I signed him

onto my tenancy, so im going to lock him out! what will happen to me? will i be in trouble with the law?

Answer 1

No I don't believe you would be in trouble with the police if you change the locks. You are not causing damage, merely changing like for like. Who actually owns the property. Is it council owned? Housing association? or private owner?

The problem you may have is when your husband turns up expecting to enter the house, only to find he can't. Ideally have someone with you for support. If he then reacts badly you have someone to corroberate what he has done. If it gets out of hand you need to contact the police and let them deal with it. It could get quite messy but be strong.

If things are really as bad as you say then you are doing the right thing.... for you and your family. All the best and good luck.

Answer 2

Legally you can not do that since you both have legal right to the property. Now depending on the state you live in and how divoces are handled if you can prove your allegations then you may be entitled to more the 50% of your assets. The only way that you can keep the house is if you either inherited it or owned it prior to the marriage and your husband had not ever invested in the home. If you are really serious about ending the relationship and want to expedite the proceedings the best thing you can do is agree to a 50/50 split meaning you equally divide all assets. That being said I would recommend that you simply find a new place to live rather than create a situation which will create a confrontation which can quickly escalate and runs a high risk of a violent outcome. Just take your half and walk away do not get caught ih haggling over details.

Answer 3

Legally, no. If he is physically abusive, and you have documentation (pictures or eye-witness accounts of abuse/bruises), then lock him out AND report his abuse to the police. He can, and will probably try, to have himself put forcibly into your home again. His name is on your tenancy, so it gives him a legal right to try, but physical abuse (and I'm sure you are scared of being hurt in retaliation for your kicking him out) can often override that issue. If you file for divorce and your kid(s) still live with you, for whatever reason, the courts will usually recommend he find new residence. If you lived in your home before your marriage, this makes your case stronger for staying without him. Get a lawyer, talk to the police if you feel threatened, and good luck.

Answer 4

depends who's house it is.
if it's your you'll be ok, if it's in both of your names, you should be ok. if it's his then the police could get involved and you would probably be the one that would have to leave. although the police may get involved (as they do with domestic disputes) i don't think you would actually breaking any law unless you are with holding property from him that is rightfully his. although if you have a child that is at risk from this man, the police should be on your side. they always priorotise over the safety of children.

you should do something, for yourself and the sake of your child/children, you need to. all i can say is, if it feels right then do it and dont look back. you need to get this man out of your life, for the sake of your sanity. good luck!

Answer 5

No one can make you feel inferior without your permission !

What are you doing get out of it Kids come first mother instinct should tell you that. There's women's refuge you can go to go there Then surround yourself with your friends and family keep strong

how olds is your son he may just hit the old git back

Answer 6

Take a deep breath, you have a lawyer use him/her . and be guided He is violent. It will not get better, so get to hell out of it with your son. I assume you are in fear so it may be possible to get an injunction to prevent him contacting you. If living there. In UK there are refuges for battered women. Report him to the police when you have got yourself to a place of safety. Be strong There is life after this

Answer 7

You have every right to leave your husband. If the home is in your name, then you have every right to kick him out, if it is in his name then you don't. If it is a joint home then you can ask him to leave and fight for the home in court when you file for divorce.
NO you won't get in trouble with the law, there is no law saying you have to stay married. If there was there would be a lot of people in jail!!

Answer 8

Listen, why don't you better pack your stuff and leave?
Go and live with your mother or some relative until you get the divorce and can start again. You can cancel your DDM at your end so that they don't take any more money off your account to pay for the rent.

Answer 9

You could get an order of protection. This would keep him away.
I don't think you would be in trouble with the law, but who owns the house? If you or joint, I think you will be ok. But I don't know the law where you live.

Answer 10

If he is abusive, he is breaking the law, regardless of what the tennacy agreement states. When he comes round again, tell him to go away or you will call the police (this is really easy for me to say!!!). You cannot let him abuse you and your son, and it will only get worse.