Basically weve been together a little over a year. My mom is angry and unaccepting because my girlfriend had previously been married and had a divorce. I love her very much, and think that the past is the past. I just want to cultivate a relationship that is not built on the past but rather looks to the future. My Mom is remarried and her husband is the best thing that has ever happened to her. I feel like she is being hypocritical having left my biological father and marrying another. I really love my mom and want her to be in my life, but with her attitude it always ends up in a huge fight. I'm also fearful of my mom trying to break us apart. either through emotional strife, or victimizing and attacking her. If that were to happen I don't see myself being able to accept my mom as loving anymore. I realize that she just wants the best for me but I don't want her ideal life for me. My girlfriend is very loving and accepting of even my inconsistencies and quirks. Please Help!
2007-06-06 10:29:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all I guess this all depends on how old you are. So if you are of age, 18 or over then your mother really has no say in who you date, even though it would be better if she liked your gf. So tell her what u just told us and have a talk about it. Can u do that? Your mother may see things that you dont. Love really is blind and you can over look things that your mother won't. She is just trying to protect you from a bad realtionship. So I say talk to mom and date this girl and in time you will either love your gf more or you will see waht your mom sees.
2007-06-06 10:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by cari d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question is why did your girlfriend get a divorce perhaps that is the reason why she is not accepting your girlfriend.
If it was something the man did and you all are grown adults I would just tell her that you made the decision of whom you want to be with and she either accepts her or she doesn't have to join your life but remind her the things she may miss out on and leave it up to her. Put your cards on the table but keep it to the issue you don't have to remind her that she is being a big hypocrit. :~) Best Wishes.
2007-06-06 10:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old you are nor how old your girl friend is which has a bearing on the answer.
Your mother and father have been through this dilemma and I am sure are only trying to make life easier for you. If you are over 18 then it is pretty much up to you what you wish to do. If not then you need to try to understand their position and try to get them to understand yours.
2007-06-06 10:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off you need to stand up to your mom right now and tell her you're a grown man and that it is not about if she likes your gf or not! Let her know that your private relationship is NONE of her business and that you would hope that she comes to like, or at least be respectful of your gf. Tell her you love her very much but if she can't be respectful that you are not going to allow her in your life until she does. My mother-inlaw was horrible just like this and it wasn't until my husband stopped talking with her for over a year that she began to behave. she still doesn't like me, and neither one of us trusts the other, but she behaves now.
2007-06-06 10:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by wilfeistykitten2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, it has to be more than just that she has been married before...you need to sit down with your mom and ask her to be honest with you about what her real problem is.
2007-06-06 10:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother has been there and done that. Please don't be offended, but mother's want the BEST for their kids, and maybe she sees something you don't.
2007-06-06 10:33:19 · answer #6 · answered by jennifer k 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋