So I am 16 and about to be a juinor and my boyfriend just graduated. He is going to California to go to boot camp for Marines and I still have to stay in Texas and finish high school. We have only been dating two months but I have never felt this way about a guy before. He always says how when I graduate he is going to propose and that we are going to get married. I can really see myself marrying him but is it crazy to find you soul mate in high school and this young and especailly since we have only dated two months.
2007-06-06 10:29:13 · 33 answers · asked by steph 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He said that he would propose when i was like 21 and we would get married when we were 22. sorry didn't make that clear.
2007-06-06 10:34:52 · update #1
It's possible, but not probable. Young love is the best ever because you haven't been hurt by the lies or tainted with mistrust of people. I don't think it's crazy to find your soulmate in high school. But distance does bring forth challenges for both of you. I think you can stay true to him while you're in high school, but I'm not completely convinced that he'll be able to do the same while away due to the increased pressures of being a young adult in a war. Remember that he does love you, no matter what happens while the two of you are not in close proximity of each other. Also remember that it's not likely that he'll wait for you in the sex department until he can see you again while away. Don't take it personal. It's life. But I do think he loves you. Just don't make any promises that the two of you know you can't keep. Don't hold him to anything and don't let him hold you to anything until the two of you can be together everyday.
2007-06-14 05:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by Ky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was your age, I had a lot of attitude about this topic! I thought it would be impossible to find my husband in high school when there is an entire world of people out there. I left town for college for 4 years, then actually moved 3000 miles across the country for 3 more years, and guess what? On a visit back home, I ran into an old high school boyfriend, and we've now been married for amost 10 years! So I think the question is more about maturity, rather than if it is possible. Was I mature enough back then to marry him? Probably not. But after growing up a bit and having some life experience, I was. Marriage is very difficult at any age, but I can tell you I am so much different now than I was back in high school and even college. If you decide to get married, you have to commit to growing that relationship along with your own growth, otherwise you'll be a divorce statistic after a few short years.
You are really young and have a lot of life to live yet...don't rush things. Marriage always sounds so romantic and wonderful, but if you ask me, when you are 18 and out on your own, it may be even more fun to have an apartment with some friends and just live the life of a young single gal for awhile! When my marriage is frustrating and my kids are driving me nuts, I seriously rely on those memories of being single and free to get me through!!
Good luck, and don't rush into anything! :)
2007-06-14 08:31:28 · answer #2 · answered by answergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that is where I found my husband. (Married 14 years) but you are still very young, only been together 2 months. There will be alot of changes taking place for the both of you so don't make such plans just yet. You should concentrate on finishing high school because you will need your education first. Let him attend boot camp and get established with the Marines. If it is meant to be your relationship will withstand the distant between the two of you during this time.
2007-06-14 07:46:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my husband when I was 15 and married him when I was 18. We're now in our late 30s and still together...but it wasn't easy. You go through a lot of changes, and what if the changed you and the changed him don't get along? That's the hardest part. So you would just have to stick with it and don't let your differences split you apart. Just because a guy doesn't want to go out dancing when you do doesn't mean he doesn't love you. And if you don't like watching football, that doesn't mean that you don't love him. When you're dating, it's all about what you two have in common. When you're married, things in common are great, but you add onto that the day-to-day functioning that you have to endure. Who's going to do the cleaning? Who will do the yardwork? Will you start a career or stay home to take care of the home? Sooooo many things to think about. If you don't agree, then you can always compromise.
I think almost any two people can be married, but the more you have in common and the more that you agree on certain lifestyles, the easier it will be to deal with. There are very few problems in a marriage that can't be worked out. When I was in my 20s I wanted to be right all the time and wasn't concerned about finding a solution to problems...it was more important for me to be right about them! In my 30s I see that this caused me a lot of unnecessary heartache.
2007-06-14 05:21:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not planning to marry u til you're 22 you have plenty of time to find out if u two will work or not. You are young and its gonna be hard with him in the military and gone to boot camp, the training that comes after that and possibly deployment. It honestly may not last. I dated a guy in high school (for a year)who joined the military we broke up just before he left for iraq because he felt i was to young to spend a yr waiting for him to return. We are still good friends but he was right. You might want to enjoy datind while ur in high school, u dont know where he will be stationed, or if u will meet someone eles u really like. On the other hand i joined the military at 17 and ended up meeting my husband.The two of you havent been dating long though so its hard to say...just see if you can handle him leaving for boot camp for now and talk to him about it.Take it one step at a time and see how it works out. Good luck to you.
2007-06-10 19:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by shakursraven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not rush yourself. You have lots of time to get married. Marriage is a very serious committment and as young as you are it is not something that you should do in the near future. If you and your boyfriend get married soon then you will probably not last very long. Take your time!!! You may think that you know how you feel now but ask yourself in another year or two and see if you feel the same and everything in your relationship is going great. Alot can happen while your boyfriend is in the Marines. Remember the " Me so horny" girls. I recommend that you wait for a few years to see what happens
2007-06-06 10:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by unknown2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if yu both get married the odds are that you will eventually get a divorce. 99% of couples under the age of 17 end up breaking up. Why are you two worried about getting married at 16 anyway. There is so much to do in life other than getting married and having kids. Live a little first and you'll have a much happier marriage.
2007-06-10 18:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's possible. I married my high school sweetheart. We were married for almost 30 years. We recently divorced but considering we were married for almost 30 years, that's not too bad. Most marriages are lucky to make it past a couple years.
However, all circumstances are different. Be careful. Think things through before making any serious decisions. Don't jump into anything. Continue dating and see how it all plays out. If it's meant to be, then it will be. Good Luck!
2007-06-07 07:17:13 · answer #8 · answered by Sue W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
22 is still too young, marriage is not only about s*x, but it is a life long commitment, which will throw many difficulties in your life. You both have a hugh life ahead of you. I would advice to both to focus on your careers and enjoying rather, this will provide you an opportunity to grow as individuals and develop your own personalities.
Some people get married too early and as they grow older they change and are not the same people and that causes them to divorce. It is because they never gave themselves the time to grow as a person because they got married so soon. I hope this makes sense. good luck
2007-06-06 10:46:10 · answer #9 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy life, enjoy time as a teenager.... Long distance relationships are very hard but in my opinion can be worth the work! I met my husband while i was in high school... we were dating others and just found each other after i graduated. We dated for a year and then he joined the army. We dated long distance for 18 months before we got married.
Marriage/ relationships take alot of work and patience. Specially long distance ones... plus add in the miltary aspect... deployments, time apart,,,,
Follow your heart... see how things go. That's all i can say i think. Just be there for each other and see how things go. Sometimes LD relationships don't work but can't hurt but to try.
2007-06-14 06:02:55 · answer #10 · answered by Cornflwr33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋