My husband and I have been married for 3 years, and are both 23 years old. I know women mature faster than men, but I thought by 23 he would at least start acting like an adult. Sometimes I swear my husband is a 16 year old boy trapped in a man's body. How do I get my husband to start acting like the mature adult man I want to be married to?
2007-06-06 09:55:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry, you just can't change a man to be what you want him to be. If you want to train something, get a dog.
2007-06-06 10:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by Leslie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is not to pressure him. I'm 25 years old and the feeling of "growing up" hits a guy different from a woman. In a guys mind, its a flick of a switch, but finding that switch is a bit*h. Most guys that I know are afraid of the fact that growing up means they are the foundation of the family, their wife is their support and they need to be there for their kids. Have a family member (a Male) talk to him, someone that he respects, that could really help out.
2007-06-06 10:12:44 · answer #2 · answered by cam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did have have a head injury that caused him to act this way overnight???
I doubt it. Betcha he acted this way before you married him, and you fooled yourself into thinking that you could change him.
Sorry, my dear. You can't change him.
You should learn to accept his boyish charm. Be thankful he is not a stick in the mud.
Now if it is getting in the way of serious things, like holding a job or managing money, then maybe you need to sit down and have a serious talk. Otherwise, learn to accept and appreciate it.
None of us are flawless. The biggest hurdle in a relationship is to accept the partner, faults and all, no matter how infuriating they are.
Good luck!
2007-06-06 13:23:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trade him for the more mature model? Did you really think he would suddenly mature just because you married? You won't be able to do anything to "get" him to grow up. He's the only one to do that and it could take a while.
2007-06-06 10:01:47 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is still young, but children usually start making you grow up in a hurry :) I would say that the people he hangs around with are probably what influence his behavior. I know I being a male. But like I said he is young, unless it is threatening the marriage just talk to him about it.
2007-06-06 10:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
23 is still a baby. Don't expect him to mature until about 30. Mine is 29 and he still is not fully matured.
2007-06-06 10:00:36 · answer #6 · answered by orionsgirl76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he's not grown up by 23 I guess you'll just have to treat him like a little boy because he'll probably never grow up.
2007-06-06 10:01:22 · answer #7 · answered by eviechatter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha, good luck! me and my best friends are in our 30's and both married and discuss when the "men " are going to grow up,, it seems they never do, best to just deal with it, you can't change him. if he is a good man and treats you good then don't fret over the child like behavior. unless it has to do how he treats you or being responsible.
good luck! : )
2007-06-06 10:01:55 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will grow up in about 20 years - get used to it.
This answer is very serious - based on many years of experience with men & boys.
2007-06-06 09:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by molly 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Won't happen that's the way they are.
2007-06-06 10:02:07 · answer #10 · answered by cutiepie81289 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋