how far is harmless?
2007-06-06 09:03:59 · 38 answers · asked by stella s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
intention is 99% of cheating... there are even some who would say that simply looking is crossing the line. i'm not really one of those, lol, but it can vary from person to person.
i'm a friendly girl, and i've been accused by boyfriends in the past of flirting with other guys. i don't see it that way because i don't honestly intend anything by it, i'm just being my own friendly self... my fiancee understands that about me, and he is secure with himself and with me and our relationship enough to know that i'd never flirt to cheat.
maybe you should ask yourself (or your significant other, if that's who this question is about...) what they intend by that flirting. are they just trying to get attention from the opposite sex? this might seem harmless, but the reason behind it might not be. sometimes harmless flirting can be a precursor to a much more serious problem, and it CAN sometimes out a closet-cheater.
friendly is one thing... flirting can be another, and it can have a negative impact on relationships. find out what it is that drives this flirtation and you'll find your answer.
best of luck!! :)
2007-06-06 09:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by tracii 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, kissing is cheating. (As in romantic kissing, not when playing truth or dare, or snogging for a joke). Sex is DEFINITELY cheating!!
However, flirting can be seen as 'emotional cheating' if it goes on for a long time. For example, if you text each other every day, and discuss actually cheating in the future, or having feelings for them.
I think it very much comes down to what your other half thinks. For example, I'm bisexual and my boyfriend wouldn't consider me sleeping with another woman cheating, because it's the 'other side' of me as a person. However, I consider it cheating, so wouldn't do it.
To answer your question, flirting is only harmless if you have absolutely NO intention of taking it further. It's only completely harmless if you feel no attraction to the other person. It's slightly harmful if you are attracted to the other person, because it could lead to something more.
It's a really tough question! I think it all depends what's going on in your head. If you have no intention of physically cheating, the flirting is relatively harmless, but should be kept in check! Generally, if you wouldn't do it in front of your partner, you shouldn't be doing it at all.
xx Emmie
2007-06-06 09:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well fo real fo real why you flirting? The farthest that flirting should go is a little smile. If you got a boyfriend and you seen him all in some girls face how would you feel? when your in a committed relationship you shouldn't
1. Be all in another guys face (laughing,talking,etc.)
2. No hugging even if it's your "friend"
3.Touching
4.Don't direct any of your attention to nobody but your significant other if you know what's good for you!
because if you do the opposite of all the above then your man got the right to flirt and cheat on you.
But if he sees your not like that then he'll probably want more out of the relationship like long-term even marriage not even if y'all break up he'll always remember that girl was perfect she cared for me and I F'ed it up!!
2007-06-06 09:17:34 · answer #3 · answered by REPIN DA 804 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Puting yourself in a situation where there is a good chance you will cheat is a bad idea. I think harmless flirting is more making fun of someone in a playful way.
2007-06-06 09:11:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you trying to figure out just how far you can stretch your present relationship? In that case, you should ask your partner what the boundaries are - what would make him or her wince...
If you are trying to figure out if your partner is cheating, then if it is something that involves some level of intimacy with another person that causes you discomfort and which persists once you have made this clear, then that is cheating (assuming it is a behaviour that involves a third party).
2007-06-06 09:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by L B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watching a man you're having a relationship with flirting with other women can be very horny. Knowing that nothing will come of it and that he's all mine makes me desire him more. It can add spice to a relationship.
And if you're both flirts! Mind blowing!
If both partners understand this, then flirting is harmless.
2007-06-06 09:23:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have to know the flirter's true intentions.
if he or she knows that the flirting is only a social strategy,
and if they know they would never let it be more than social:
that's not cheating!
but if the one flirting knows secretly that they
will take an opportunity to advance to a relationship:
that comes to the edge of cheating and is not harmless.
2007-06-06 09:12:28 · answer #7 · answered by Lu 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talking about inappropriate things is not cheating, but uncalled for...
Any kissing or more than that is cheating.
There are things that aren't cheating, but are bad, like hanging all over someone else, hugging someone a lot (someone that is not your close friend), making insinuations toward someone.
There is a simple rule for this: If you are unsure whether or not it is cheating, it probably is and don't do it.
2007-06-06 09:08:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if someone is in a relationship then flirting is considered a form of cheating and none of it is harmless unless you're both single.
2007-06-06 09:07:18 · answer #9 · answered by wilfeistykitten2003 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think dining with or even sharing a drink with someone of the opposite sex is going down a slippery slope. Oh and don't accept a ride either from the opposite sex unless you're desperate. Might want to avoid getting drunk when your honey's not at the party too.
2007-06-06 09:17:07 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋