I am living the sad life of romeo and juliet....?
my love of my life is my romeo. out parents wont let us date because he is 18 and im 15. only three year difference. we are in love and plan to get married when i turn 18. but for now our parents keep hanging the jail factor over our heads. i tried for our sake to break up with him. and he said he wanted to kill himself. thats how much he loves me. but if we stay together he will go to jail because we have a no contact order with each other our parents put up. i dont know what to do. i could run away with him. or i could leave him. but im afraid he may hurt himself or end his life. i have thought about it to..killing myself. my life at home is awful, i hate my parents and sister. he has fallen in love with me and has given me hope for my future. i just dont know what to do anymore. we love each other so much. ...
we dont know if we should run away. but i dont know how i would finish school...
or if we should just end it...
2007-06-06 08:44:45 · 9 answers · asked by soccersweetie982005 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
These people obviously DONT know what your going through, as for me sweetie I do... When I was that age, I had to be in before dark, which is 5:30 in the winter... I have a super strict muslim dad, when he found out I was dating a black guy behind his back, we stopped talking for over a year. Listen, your parents DONT want you with him, and you obviously want to be with him... Continu going to school, keep on living the way you do, keep contact with him, dont blank him out of your life but tell him you want to just be friends untill your parents agree, you can never hate your parents, they are just trying to look out for you... and id he says he will kill himself, he sounds like someone who is trying to control you, so maybe you should back off for abit... Just tell him you need some time to think and think your stuff through before giving him your final answer, dont talk to him everyday cause if you do, he will influence your decision. And I said YOUR decision... No one elses.
2007-06-07 05:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your parents are trying to protect you and that doesn't mean they are bad people or parents. Your boyfriend is using I will kill myself card because he wants to contol you staying with him. If you two both truly love each other you can wait until your legal age to see him. Talking like you are right now about maybe running away or killing yourself doesn't make or will make things better at home or with your boyfriend. He is 3 years older than you and he should be the one acting more mature in this situation. Finish school and and then by that time if he and you two want to marry nothing can stand between you two. Right now your trying to make a place in the world, not take yourself out of it. You have a bright future ahead of you, so please be the more mature one in this relationship and do what you know needs to be done. I think you already do and that is why your asking about it. Good Luck in whatever you decide
2007-06-06 17:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by Krinta 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stay alive. Stay in school. Stay responsible. Mature behavior will convince your parents you are mature enough for a serious relationship. Be a good kid in every way you can think of--come home on time, pick up your shoes, turn down the music, wash the dishes. Don't whine, don't threaten, don't sneak. Advise Romeo to do the same. Maybe your parents will then allow their responsible daughter a responsible dating life.
2007-06-06 16:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by Red 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kill himself? That's how much he loves you? Are you kidding me? That's way too immature for marriage talk.
Jail factor? Just abstain from sex and crossing state lines and no ones goes to jail.
Trust me, honey, you won't love this man 15 years from now. I dated an 18 year old when I was 14. My mother hated it but complied ONLY if I were chaperoned on all dates. Perhaps your parents will agree to this MATURE approach to resolving the conflict. Anyway, as for me: We were in love - 18 years ago! Don't care if ever see him again now.
On the other hand, one of my best friends fell for a girl when he was 19 and she was 16. They married when she was 17 - and are on their 13 year of marriage!
2007-06-06 15:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by brassinpocket 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was in a very similar situation. I only realized many years later how young I was at that time. You really are very, very young. love is a complex emotional state of mind that really does require maturity, experience and independence. What is the rush? Don't you realize how young you are and how many options you have? The last thing I want to do is sound like I am preaching to you, but I have to tell you the truth, even though it may be difficult. Your parents may be wrong about many, many things but they are not wrong on this one. Don't do anything drastic and take your time in life. You both need some serious counseling, outside of your families. Go to your school or find a charity group that will listen to your problems and offer advice. You and he definitely need help on this one, so for your sake and his go find it. Many services are free, if you can't afford it. PLEASE go look and find help. God bless you.
2007-06-06 15:55:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Def don't do anything drastic like killing yourself or running away with him. You are very young and you more than likely have a distorted view of love and happiness because of your home life. If this guy really loves you then he wouldn't want you to have to choose between him and your family. If he loves you that much he will wait 3 yrs for u. Love has no time limit.
2007-06-06 16:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by Myzz P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you run away and get caught he's going to jail. If you truly love someone with all your heart you will let them go and if they really belonged to you they will come back. 3 years isn't that long of a wait.
2007-06-06 17:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by cutiepie81289 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You aren't worth that and neither is He.......Killing yourself to get your way is beyond retarded and what do you think your parents will learn????
You have no business dating an 18 year old......Be patient and if he really loves you he will wait for you......
2007-06-06 15:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is way to old for you, do school, have freinds, and dont worry about having a b-f. its way better. h/s dating is way hard
2007-06-06 15:52:17 · answer #9 · answered by tdude09 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋