I'm 16, she's 19. When she 16 she went through some bad days, peer pressure, bad friends, She messed up, got drunk w/ them and helped those trouble makers put graffiti on some walls and break some windows. She didnt realize what she was doing but my parents were realy harsh, she was punished for 5 months, grounded from everything, including those beautiful clothes she loved, and had to work as a janitor to pay for the damages. Those months were terrible to her, she suffered a lot but my parents were inflexible. Today I'm sure they went overboard. That time I was jealous of her and so during her punishment i teased her a few times, until my parents forbade me. She got extremely resentful of me and our parents, since them she's avoided us. She told me I was dead to her. Today she's in college, a very mature, great girl, I could learn so much w/ her, apologized a lot of times but nothing changed. Against my and my parents' will she's leaving homeand it'll be even harder to make up w/ her
2007-06-06 08:44:30 · 6 answers · asked by Samantha 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Seems I lost my sister's friendship forever and so did our parents. Blood is not so thick. And I apologized so many times..
2007-06-06 08:46:02 · update #1
If your sister is still unable to forgive you for something you did when you were 13, then she's not as mature as you think she is. Getting drunk and vandalizing property at 16 is pretty serious. I'm not so sure your parents were too harsh on her. What you describe sounds like a fair punishment to me. You shouldn't have teased your sister, but like her you made a mistake. Ask her forgiveness, but if she is unable to give it then there isn't anything you can do about it. Maybe in a few years she will really grow up and realize that her parents punished her for a reason and that you were just a kid and she will finally forgive you all.
2007-06-06 09:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This experience befell 3 years in the past! Your sister ought to think of herself fortunate that she have been given to do her punishment at homestead fairly than a juvenile center. Had she long gone there she could have had the comparable punishments settle for somewhat worse! Sounds to me like she remains grasping onto the previous fairly than shifting on. till she strikes on you and your mom and father could have a frustrating time rebuilding a dating together with her. no longer in elementary terms this yet you have been 13 on the time, jealous and immature. My suggestion is which you maintain the doors of communication open with your sister. permit her understand which you're sorry and could constantly love her and whilst she is able to allow you in you would be there. attempt to grant her some area (perhaps attempt to call or write as quickly as in awhile). perhaps you and your loved ones ought to get some family contributors counseling. optimistically, your sister will see that the project desires to be stored interior the previous and are available around.
2016-12-12 13:24:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sister and i fight all the time. never anything as harsh as that tho. sometimes she goes days without talking to me. then i always feel bad. so i just treat her the way you should treat a sister. with love and respect. my sister is older than me too and i dont think she realizes how much i do love her and how much i look up to her. the same with my brother too but thats a whole nother story, lol. your sister might not know it but just keep telling her that you love her and are sorry for what you did. maybe over time she'll come around. i hope she does because a sister/sister relationship is a very special one. good luck.
2007-06-06 09:05:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your sister doesn't realize how much you care. I know that u say you sorry but a lot of times thats not enough u need to show your sorry. Give her hugs and buy her flowers show her u care and someday she'll really need you and you'll have the chance to shine and show her how much you really care.
2007-06-06 10:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by pancakes. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sry that happened but if she's not listenin then it's hard 4 u to do anything like u have tried and u might need to just wait until she gets over it cuz sooner or later she'll want the relationship back
2007-06-06 08:57:52 · answer #5 · answered by iheartearl 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Pray to God to soften her heart and forgive you
2007-06-09 02:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by tanya 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋