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Every time I read someones questions the answer would be get the book what to expect when you're expecting. Got it today, it is at WalMart, and thank you all for your kind words, wisdom, dealing with emotional things. Thank You . Question, what would you do or how would you act if your family and b/f/husband didnt talk about the baby or even realize there is going to be one. I am 3 3/4 wks preggy, and knowone is mentioning the baby. Its too early to buy clothes. How would you react? Be pissed off or wait to see if they come around. Feels like I'm alone in this except for yahoo pregnancy community. Mwaaaaaaa xoxox Thanks

Answer 1

usually people don't tell others until the 3 month mark because the chance of miscarriage drops dramatically. if your hubby is ignoring it...talk to him and have him read the chapter called "fathers are expectant, too" he might still be in shock - it takes a bit to get adjusted to the fact he's going to be a daddy even if you were trying to conceive.

hey - also when you're further along get what to expect the first year...it has some good pre-birth info in it too.

relax, congrats, and good luck!

Answer 2

Well, CONGRADS to ya on the baby. ;-) The book is awesome isn't it? I am a firm believer in that book. They also have more books in what to expect. The one "What to expect the first years" is really good also. I know how you feel when noone seems to even care about the baby. But it is only because, your not showing yet, they havent heard the heartbeat, or seen the ultra sound pics, it really is too early. Maybe you could buy the BeBe Sounds fetal heartbeat monitor so that you can hear the babies heartbeat at home. I am sure they carry them at walmart. However I got mine at Kmart, it was $20.00 and I got it out of the baby section by the monitors. Maybe this will help hubby get a little more intrested. Trust me, when you start showing, you will get more attention on the baby than you want. Not only from family and friends, but in public, you will always have someone smiling at you asking when you are due. It gets aggravating sometimes, trust me. ;-) Well congrads on baby and I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 3

When you are pregnant and from now on you just have to get a thick skin, people will forever be giving you advice that is SOOOOO irritating.
My sister tells me that people treat you the way you let them treat you and the older I get the more I understand and believe it.
If you want to buy clothes, just buy them, and as for the guy, I was forever trying to get my husband more into the pregnancy, never worked. But he is great dad and got involved right after they were born, so yours might too.
Trust your instincts and ignore the comments, you will feel better if you can find a way to not let it eat at you, I speak from experience, my kids are 6 and 8 and I wish I would have taken this attitude a lot sooner.
Congratulations by the way!!!

Oh and there is also the "What To Expect the First Year" and "What to Expect the Toddler Years" that I used a lot also.

Answer 4

Congrats on baby to be....I agree the book "what to expect when you are expecting" Is great and a must read for all pregnant women. It prepared be 100% for my pregnancies.
As for your issue...You have to realize that right now the only person that is going preggo crazy right now is you. For you, it is real...For others..not quite yet. Don't get me wrong, I am sure that they are all happy for you, but the baby thing doesn't revolve yet around their worlds only yours. Give it time, as soon as you start to show, and once you have the Ultrasound pics...that's when it becomes more real for others....especially the daddy. Don't be pissed off and expect that everyone will constantly talk about your pregnancy, live your life and enjoy your pregnancy, and everyone will give you some pregnancy attention at some point.

Answer 5

Wait and see. I know a lot of people who don't really like to talk about the pregnancy or get too attached to the idea of being pregnant until after the first trimester is over. I'm sure once your husband hears the baby's heartbeat or sees the ultrasound it will be more real to him and he'll probably be more excited.

Answer 6

to not be talking about the baby is not good, early bonding is important and if the father has not bonded right away with the thought of baby he may never fully.

I would start saving up for the big items, crib, stroller, car seats...ect and make him talk about it with you, find out where he is, very direct questions really help, men are not very good at expressing feelings but they normally don't avoid direct questions either.

for your sake I hope all works out well with you and the baby, and if it helps at all I am glad your having a baby.

ps. how i would act if my hubby did not want to talk about babies is surprised he bribed me with a new van for me to have our 3rd baby (Im preggy as well) he's happier than I am
having babies is very hard on my body and emotions plus I have a one year old I kinda wanted to wait a little longer to get pregant again.

Answer 7

I loved that book when I was pregnant. It's a good guide and helps you understand what is going on inside.

Trust me, no one is as excited about your baby as you are! I think sometimes outsiders kind of forget until you start showing. I don't think it was really "real" for my husband until we went for the ultrasound and he got to see the baby. In the six years I've known him I had never seen anything render him speechless until that moment!

They'll all come around soon. Congratulation & Enjoy!!

Answer 8

Congrats on your pregnancy. I can understand where you are coming from. I am in the middle of my second pregnancy. My husband never talks about our baby-to-be and he didn't during my first pregnancy either. He did go to all the exams with me and was happy during both ultrasounds. But he never talked about my pregnancy, very rarely did he want (even now) to feel the baby kick. But as soon as my daughter was born his father instincts kicked in. Maybe some men don't realize that pregnancy is important to acknowledge. Good Luck with your little one!! And I hope your Husbands, father instincts kick in too!

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Answer 10

Have you told your family and everyone? Could it be that they are trying to protect you? You aren't very far along and though it's easy to get excited, things could go wrong. I have had a lot of people say it's just best to wait until you are a few months along to make the announcement. And still, until you start showing it might not be real for those close to you. Good luck and thanks for the book advice.