All I do is gossip. Can I still have a real conversation?

Question

i feel as if i have nothing else to say.
all i do is gossip about other people's lives.
i do admit i am a mean and cruel person but i don't know how to help it!
i don't gossip about celebrities, however.
i know i have a problem, but don't know how to change it.
i don't think i can have a real social life or conversation without someone's name popping up.

without catty remarks and answers, can you tell me how to stop gossiping about everyone maliciously?

i'm not religious so i'm not going to pray.
i don't need a job, i get money elsewhere.
i don't like gum. lol.
someone was gossiping today and i changed the subject ;p

Answer 1

Whenever you catch yourself gossiping about someone, stop and tell the person you are talking with that your are sorry for your nasty remarks, that you are now in GA (gossipers anonymous) and are trying hard to quit.

Answer 2

It's a matter of catching yourself in the act and then eventaully before it happens. When you hear yourself say someone elses name, stop and try to change the subject. Your friends must gossip a lot too if that is all you ever talk about. Try to think of interesting topics that don't involve other people, and try to talk about yourself and the person that you are conversing with. That's an easy way to start.

Answer 3

surround yourself with people who will not gossip. Won't you feel out of place if they just walk away or say nothing?
My sister in law only gossips- just yesterday she called someone and told them about my husband's injury within 4 minutes of hanging up on the phone. She has no life and no friends. We do not tell her anything of importance and try to avoid her.
Find something productive to do - get a job, or volunteer.
Talk about your dreams, ideas and ideals. Little people talk about other people. Read some books and discuss those.

Answer 4

someone's name will always pop up in a convo, just brush it off and think of something else. Think something positive about this person, does it make you feel better when u talk about these people? cause if so, then it will eat alive in the long run, you'll dig a hole for yourself and burry yourself if you dont change your habit. Everytime you think of saying something rude, then put a piece of bubble gum in your mouth, and maybe the more you chew, the less you'll run your jaw. Good Luck =D

Answer 5

I decided that I was going to stop gossiping about a year ago, I hardly speak at all now. Just don't spread around nasty things.

Answer 6

try and do something meaningfully with yourself get ajob if

you dont have one. get involved in some creative activities I.think you have abad crust on people .this is not good for you .you should try to love and care for people and not to gossip on people i think you need more positive vibes,positive people to be around.pray and ask god to change your entire behiviour.good luck

Answer 7

Hang out with people who do not gossip.

Read books & such and - talk about that instead.

Make your life more interesting so that you would rather talk about what is going on with you instead of someone else.

Answer 8

big people talk about ideas
average people talk about thinngs
small people talk about other people
BE ONE
X-)