Lays on the floor in front of TV. Sometimes wearing a T-shirt only and plays with himself for extended periods of time. Up to an hour plus, this just started. He is also walking around the house, go get a cookie or glass milk (no one else is here), seeming to be very proud of his own little man. He believes babies are made by French kissing! I have always answered his questions honestly and don't know where he got this. No problems at school. I have talked to him about it. No abuse involved, he just says it feels good. So I have been ignoring it. Is this okay, normal? PS he has never liked to wear clothes.
2007-06-06 08:18:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Perfectly normal. Kids don't view this as sexual, they just know touching yourself feels good, like your son says. And we know ourselves that stimulation there DOES feel good. Unfortunately, its mortifying as a parent when your child does this in front of you or, worse, in public. And you don't want to teach your kid that its acceptable to do this. Ignoring it does just that.
The best thing to do is to tell your child that that is something we do in private. (If you haven't explained the concept of privacy, now is the time do so.) Private is when you are alone, in a place such as the bathroom or your bedroom. Keep reinforcing to him that touching yourself is not appropriate when other eyes are upon you, including YOURS and he'll get it. It sounds like he already knows its not appropriate in the school setting.
It also sounds like he doesn't realize that its not appropriate in front of mommy either. That's normal because he still has a hard time seperating mommy from himself...
Let him keep thinking kissing is how babies are made, haha. There's no need yet for him to be so informed.
Don't give up or get frustrated, he'll get it.
2007-06-06 08:36:54 · answer #1 · answered by divineblue_tigerlily 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think he should definately not be walking around in just a shirt. He needs to be wearing clothes. Touching himself is something he should do alone in the bedroom or bathroom. I would gently tell him. Definately don't yell or scold him, you may frighten him....watch the movie See no evil and you'll understand why I say dont' scare him about it.
Alisha
2007-06-06 15:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by God: The Failed Hypothesis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that touching himself is a private event that needs to be done in his room or in the bathroom.
Do you think this will be normal behavior in a fourteen year old? How about when he is sixteen?
Make it clear now that he is not to play with himself in common areas of the house or you will have a much bigger problem when he gets older.
2007-06-06 15:23:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try asking his doctor, my son is 5 and started the same thing. I talk to his doctor and he said that this is normal, exploreing himself he said. He also said not to scold him on it, it could make him ashamed of himself. Just try to explain to him that touching himself should be done in his bedroom, other other places that are private. Good luck
2007-06-06 15:25:52 · answer #4 · answered by secrete 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would explain to him that he should not touch himself in public rooms of the house, he should be in his room, and he must wear clothes when he is among other people, including you. In this way he may not embarass himself at school or another public place.
2007-06-06 15:24:52 · answer #5 · answered by Maria b 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
This is perfect normal behavior from a child. You just need to make sure he knows that it is a private matter, and needs to be done in private, not in public places. Just make sure that you don't tell him that it is not allowed at all, this will only make things worse.
2007-06-06 15:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by Christen G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is one of the harder things to discuss with your child, for me at least. You don't want them to feel "bad" or "dirty" about it but you also don't want to watch it!
Both of my older children have gone through this. We have,at seperate times, talked about it with both of them and explained that it's okay and normal but that there is a time and place for it. Set acceptable places and times (not when other people are around, not at school,ect.) with him and you will both feel more comfortable.
2007-06-06 15:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by Eva 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That' perfectly normal.They just touch themselves for no reason it is nothing sexual really at least not at that age.He has no idea what he is doing just exploring.I saw a 3 year old doing this at church last week she just walked around with her hand in her skirt.
2007-06-06 16:28:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF THIS IS EVEN REAL: Then yes, it is normal. Just sit down and talk to him. Tell him what it is and if he wants to do it, then that's fine but do it privately.
2007-06-06 15:24:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
thats gross. take him to a counselor. he has to stop.
2007-06-07 13:27:46 · answer #10 · answered by Hey Love...♥ 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋