is anyone out there a christian with an intelligible answer?

Question

i have no job, no family, no money to pay my debts, husband is a jerk, and i have an adorable son, but i also have a great sadness because i do not know what the answer is. i would like to move so bad, and i have no money to move with. the world seems if it has come to an end, except for the fact that i have my beautiful son. anyone have any ideas that would be useful?

Answer 1

Are you a member of a church? Do you know any people who attend church? I would strongly suggest going to see a pastor and explaining your situation. There are programs designed for people in your predicament. You can get a place to live and assistance with finding a job, daycare, etc. You'll also have a support system of people to talk to so you won't feel so depressed. And if you want a Christian penpal online, feel free to email me. [e-mail].

Answer 2

That's a little harsh, isn't it Sherry? You are asking for intelligible answers only, from presumably educated Christian people, when YOU are the one who has made bad choices and now must live with them. You won't like to read this, but I sense an underlying ungratitude that you would do well to lose. Are you not healthy? Is your son not a gift from God? Is there not at least the potential for a better life, with a little effort and luck? Why don't you look at the positive, instead of calling your husband a jerk and viewing life negatively? I am thinking that your husband goes to work and brings home his pay for you and the boy. It may not be much, but he is trying because he loves you and accepts responsibility for the young life he has created. And you are sitting at home unemployed, whiling away the hours on a computer (you can't be that poor), complaining to the world how you are dissatisfied with your lot. What kind of picture does that paint of you? I feel sorry for you, Sherry. Somewhere along the line you forgot what was important and became selfish and self centered. It is my hope that you will regain the spark of optimism, for the sake of your son if not for yourself. You owe that child the best you can give him. And you are not going to give him anything but grief with an attitude like that.

Answer 3

You are looking at a mountain, so step back and divide it into small hills. Get a job. Problem 1 down the tubes. Stop spending money and pay your debts 1 dollar at a time...you will never pay off debts if you keep creating new ones. Save some money each week, even if it is no more than 10.00....eventually, you will have some money and no debts.
The added benefit here is that you will become self confident, and your unhappiness will go away. You may even find you like your husband...stranger things have happened. BUT, as long as you want to wallow in self pity and do nothing about it, nothing willl change in your life. I believe there is a saying, "God helps those who help themselves."

Answer 4

stop looking at what you do not have and look to what you do have. What you do have is more than enough to get what you do not have. IE. No Job, but you have the means and the skills to get up and apply and obtain a job, No family yet you have a beautiful son, family is who we make it not who we want necessarily, No money to pay debts goes with finding a job and pay them off slowly while getting yourself where you want to be. Jerk Husband show him what you need by supplying your needs through your own effort and he will see God shining in such a way that he'll step up and be better or he'll step aside because he doesn't like the look of himself. Moving doesn't mean you have to change where you lay your head at first it means changing where you lie your trust for your day and provisions. Trust in yourself and you'll see God in a way you will never settle for "NO" again.

Answer 5

Some say work it out. Some say leave. I say pray about it. Let the Lord guide you in this. He will not abandon you.
Pray for your husband (that he will change), pray for peace, and pray that the Lord shows you the path that he wants you to take.
I don't know how bad your husband is. If there is abuse you need to get out asap because he will ruin your self esteem and teach your child that it is okay to do whatever he is doing. Like I said I don't know what he is like. If it is salvageable you should try to work it out.
You want to move so bad. Why? Because of your husband? Because you feel stuck? The grass isn't always greener so I suggest doing some self examination at this point to figure out why. If it is the latter then you need to figure out what will make you happy. Do you have any hobbies? Are you stuck at home all the time cooking, cleaning and taking care of the baby and you don't get any time for yourself? Maybe you need to make a deal with a friend that one day a week you will watch her child and then she will watch yours on a different day and you can have some time to do whatever it is that will make you happy.

Answer 6

Get a job. Save your money and get out of debt. It is wonder to have a child. But you must be responsible for that child.
What is your reason you do not have a job. I worked two jobs while I was pregnant with both of my children and went back to work when my second child was 8 days old, because my ex husband had gotten fired for stealing. So, I know how hard life can get. God is there for us , but he wants us to help ourselves too!!!!! God has seen me thur some hard times. I was divorced after 37 years of marriage to a liar, a thief and a cheat. I lost my job of 20years the plant closed. Now, the job I had for one year , I lost due to cut backs. So, I am out looking for a job at 60. God is not going to hand me a job on a silver platter . I will have to go looking. God has seen me thur all my troubles. But he expects you to work and be responsible . Pray and look for a job. Good luck and God Bless

Answer 7

As a Catholic I can tell you the first palce you need to go is your church and speak with your reverand. The next place you need to seek out advice and guidance isthe local department of social services - if you are being abused and are afraid that the police will not do anything. You have a small child who you obviously love and care for - I am sure that you could find enough change in the sofa for a bus ride downtown to get the help you need. You can also pull out the phone book and find resources that specifically assist women with children in gettin gout of terrible situations.

Answer 8

To be honest, I'm not sure what answer you're looking for here.

I'm no doctor, but I have been depressed before and wonder if you've considered that possibility?

You have to find that inner strength and find ways to make life more fulfilling for you. Can you work, even if it's a few hours a week to help with your debts? Can you talk with your husband about what's going on for you to call him a "jerk"?

Perhaps there is someone at your church that can help you through this... some volunteer work you can do to help you find whatever answer you're looking for?

Answer 9

Do you want the quick solution, or the more viable solution? I have to assume your husband is abusive or you wouldn't be so distraught.

Quick solution: pack a bag for you and your son and go to a shelter. They will give you help and you can apply for welfare.

Realistic solution: Go to college while you're still married. Endure the marriage long enough to graduate. Get a job. If you still want to leave, then do so. If you cannot handle the bills, file bankruptcy. Make a fresh start.

Answer 10

You own half of everything.

Tell your husband you are unhappy and then change your life. It is that simple.

Do the right thing. ALL THE TIME, no matter how hard it is, and things will turn out ok in the end.

Please understand before thinking about divorce that you and your husband are connected forever because of your child, and he has as much right to raise your child as you do.

Now go change your life. Remember that no one wins when the lawyers get involved, and only your child loses.

Good luck.