and wonder what it looks like and what he's thinking during... guys thoughts?
2007-06-06 07:59:30 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I love it! Just sitting back and watching her........... knowing she is doing it to pleasure me! It is the ultimate way to feel their affection....... that they would do anything for you.
I also love doing it for her (just as much)! I want her to feel that way too!
2007-06-06 08:09:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Karen I completely understand what and how you feel. That is how I was about 4years ago. I always had a weight problem to and my ex boyfriend made it worse putting me down with his remarks and my self confidence was quite low. I needed a few months to get comfortable in bed with my present hubby and first time ever it was so so dark...it was unbelievable.Plenty of times we had sex in the darkness and never day time but slowly with his praise and assurance I got used to it. Now I walk around the house naked....and I am not slim!:) I think you should feel really proud of yourself for losing the weight and give yourself and this guy a chance. Also..it sounds to me that you really care about him and maybe that scares you a bit...or you are afraid of something more than casual sex... Send me an e-mail if you feel like talking...xx
2016-05-18 02:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always feel self concious too, when doing it (until i hear that he is really really likeing it) and when receiving it(only at the beginning before he really gets going, then i stop thinking all together.)
he insists he loves doing it for me though. he even says he likes it when the smell lingers on his fingers slightly... now that i think about it he rarely washes afterwards. so that makes me feel better, like i am not so gross he needs to wash himself when finished. also he says that he loves the way i taste.
but giving it, i feel self conscious about weather or not i am doing a good job and if he is really enjoying himself
but once he is making noises and moving like he just cant take it no more, thats when i really get turned on.
all that said, i think it is important to talk to eachother. like tell eachother how much you like giving and receiving it and assuring them that both experiences are pleasurable and why they are pleasurable. smell, taste, touch... the noises and movements you make are a good indication to the giver of what a good job they are doing.
and the giver should assure the receiver how perfect they think their (the receiver) body is.
2007-06-06 08:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by zero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your doing him or him doing you? If you are self conscious while he is doing you, you are doing him NO FAVORS! He has his eyes closed, so he can't tell you much about the looks, if you really want to know, they invented mirrors long ago. And, if you are worried about what he is thinking, he is doing a lousy job. If you really want to drive him wild, then let him drive YOU wild! Stop with the stupid analysis and get.....unreal! If it feels great, then let him know with sounds. If he is not doing it right, then let him know...with words. The guy is trying to put you in heaven, and you are worrying about what it looks like? I have to ask you, do you ever feel passion? good luck
2007-06-06 08:06:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My wife was as well for a long time, but she finally just accepted the fact that I see her as beautiful, love the way she smells, tastes and if I did not enjoy it, I would not even do it. So relax, if he does not like it or want to do it, he won't.
2007-06-06 08:10:20 · answer #5 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I'm no guy..
but the last thing on my mind when I'm getting oral done to me is, gee, I hope he's not self-conscious right now.
2007-06-06 08:06:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is he complaining while you are doing that to him? If not, then don't worry about it. We are very visual creatures and like the way it looks.
Besides, if we actually saw what we looked like while doing any kind of sexual acts we'd probably never do it again.
2007-06-06 08:03:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
The guys love going down on us and looking at us when we are enjoying it.
2007-06-06 08:13:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys love it. They are like snowflakes, no 2 are the same. As long as you like it he will like it. Relax kick back and enjoy it.
2007-06-06 08:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax and enjoy the fact your pleasing him. Hopefully for your sake he returns the favor. From my perspective it looks great. One of the biggest turnons for myself is when she looks up at me with my #!(^ in her mouth.
2007-06-06 08:07:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋