myspace page?

Question

Ive been married for 20yrs and recently discovered that my hubby has a myspace page and has himself listed as single.There are no messages whatsoever on his page to or from, however I just cant believe he would take the time to do this and list himself single.Im soo mad Im ready to leave him, do you think im overreacting or is this a hint of other deceptions?please help asap!!??

thank you for your answers, theres nothing else on his page ..nothing.I check his email on occasion, which he knows and there was something on there about a myspace page, thats how I discovered it.

Answer 1

yes you are

Answer 2

Ok, as an avid MySpacer and a married woman, I have to answer this question. When you first create a MySpace page, the page lists very basic things to describe the person creating the page, such as being single etc. Unless the creator goes in and physically changes the profile information to reflect his true status, it will remain that way until changed. If, as you say, there is NOTHING on his page (i.e. no pictures, no descriptions, no friends, etc.) than your hubby has probably JUST created the page and hasn't taken an opportunity to change everything to reflect him as a married man and a person. I've seen this happen LOADS of times with my buddies and their women flip out and cause a fight. Spying on your partner, regardless if they are aware of it or not, is not a cool thing to do. You will eventually find SOMETHING, no matter how small or large, that is going to hurt you and you're going to blow your top. This will do nothing but cause big trouble, provided the "problem" is an unfounded accusation on your part. If your guy is talking dirty to a bunch of different hot girls, then yeah I'm all for kicking his tail! But, if there's no activity and his page is blank, then for your own sake leave it alone! No good can come from making unfounded accusations. Trust me! Have more faith in your man! Hope this helps!

Answer 3

Ok the fact that he has a my-space without you knowing that's no big deal. I do this and my husband does not know about it. This is the only thing in my marriage that is not ours. I like that. It reminds me that I am still an individual with individual needs. So maybe that is his my-space intentions. As for him listing himself as 'single'. Well you have every reason to be sooo mad. That is not on, no matter what anyone says. I'd be p!ssed off to say the least if my husband listed himself as single. You need to confront him if you haven't already and get all the cards on the table. Be honest and expect honesty. That is wrong and NO you are not overreacting. As for it being a hint of other deceptions, who knows. Investigate. I would, I am one who likes to have cold hard facts before I go in for the confrontation. Good luck with this, you deserve respect. :) I was just reading through some of the other answers, and maybe it did set automatically. You need to get the answers from your hubby.

Answer 4

if there is nothing on the page at all like messages or a background or anything, i wouldnt be TOO concerned....but talk to him about it you've been married 20 years....you obviously should have a pretty open line of communicaiton. It may have been that a friend asked him to get on myspace and maybe he doesnt really know what hes doing. Is he a computer guy?? When my friends first told me to get on myspace my page was blank with no pics, no friends, messages, etc. for a long time....he may have just quickly set it up and didnt do anything else with it...who knows??? But seriously ASK HIM!!! :)

Answer 5

#1 myspace's standard settings for status is single. he probably hasnt really even taken the time to change anything.

#2 just becuase there are no messages in the inbox or the sent box doesnt mean he hasn/t already deleted what was there, if there was any.

#3 TALK TO HIM. bring it up casually. tell him your were checking out what all the hype was about myspace and found his page. check back to his page and see when the last time he was on there. and dont get angry with him for having a myspace and not telling you if you have one and he doesnt know.

i would think that being married 20 years you would know to tlak to him about your feelings and things that bother you. i mean, hello he is your husband. i've been with my fiance for a year and half and we both tlak to each other about everything

Answer 6

Funny thing happened one day I was on here and someone asked just about the same question so I tried to see if my hubby had one and low and behold it came up as Single and don't want kids etc. He even had a friend named Tom but no activity on the account. We been married 8 years with 2 kids. So I decided to ask him about it, actually I let him have it pretty bad, when I calmed down and was ready to listen I found out he had it because he was going to communicate with a co-worker who left and moved with his wife and kid to Kentucky but then he never used it. Just so you know the single thing and don't want kids in his profile are automatically put there unless he goes in and changes them. IT is the standard profile answer. You also automatically get Tom as a friend. So before you go freaking out (the way I did at first) talk to him. But I will be honest I made him delete the account because I don't feel there is a reason for him to be on myspace. But that is just my opinion.

Answer 7

This is very deceptive and shows complete disrespect and sneakiness of your husband. It seems he is trying to fulfill some kind of need that you can't seem to fill, according to him, and he is looking elsewhere. Putting himself as single shows his desire to be so. I would sit him down and have a good long talk with him and find out just what is going on in his head. Why would he do such a thing? If he continues to be so deceptive and disrespectful my advice would be to leave the creep. No man has the right to treat a woman he is suppose to love and lives in marriage with like this. Find out what you need to and act accordingly. Good luck!
IGNORE the ignorant things Mr. Dryer has to say. He is just a gay idiot that wants to plant negative ideas in your head about your husband being gay. These kind are the reason I cant stand them!

Answer 8

If there is really nothing eles on his page...nothing at all, chances are he didnt complete his profile. When u make a myspace page if you dont fill out the profile completely it automatically says u are single and dont want kids. If you havent found any msgs chances are there arent any msgs because even if u delete them they stay in ur trash for up to 14 days. I Hope you get my answer in time because he could be innocent this same thing happened to one of my co-workers. He was upset that his wife would even think he'd do something like that on purpose and because he was new to myspace he couldnt figure it out himself.

Answer 9

You might be overreacting. I've been there too...I recently found out that my hubby had a friendster account I didn't know of. When I asked him about it he told me one of his workmates did it for him. I didn't make a big deal out of it and I'm glad I reacted that way. I don't think my 10 year old marriage is worth losing over a friendster or myspace account.

Also, I don't try to look into his e-mail accounts just so he knows I trust him and values his privacy as well.

Answer 10

WAIT DONT PANIC!!!!

Myspace defaults to single status and it's easily overlooked. Just look at the content of his myspace and see if you and/or your family is included. Read the content not just that little option. If he doesn't then there may be something up. If he does then tell him he might want to add it. Click on his pics, click on his videos, read the comments from people posting on his page. That should give you an idea as to if anything is going on. It's doubtful that in this situation there is, or at least it doesn't sound it.

Answer 11

If your ready to leave him over a myspace page stating he is single, you might want to look at what the real problems in your marriage are. Fact is many married people actually put they are single, not so much to find others, but to show individualism toward their page. Would it hurt for him to put married, no. Could it hurt for it to say single, yes it hurts you, so ask him in a calm and rational way why? Let him know it bothers you that it says single and ask if he is willing to change it to married. If he say he wants it to say single, now you may have a reason to start an interogation, till then calm down and don't jump to far ahead of yourself.