My best friend's sister, and my friend, is getting into all sorts of things that she shouldn't be, just falling into the wrong crowd. She started talking to me (she's only a year younger than us) about it and people freaking out about her, and I want to know what a good way to talk to her is without telling her what to do or scolding her.
She's a friend, but she's also my best friend's little sister, and my best friend is worried.
How is the best way to help both?
2007-06-06 07:08:35 · 11 answers · asked by KM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Speak from your heart like you'll always be there for her. Even if you wont, atleast make it believable!
2007-06-06 07:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is not your job to reprimand her or to scold her. If you think she is getting herself into trouble or hanging around with the wrong crowd then your best solution is to tell her parents. If you don't think her parents will do anything about it or if you are afraid to tell them, then you should talk to your parents or the school counselor, so they can inform her parents. I know it might sound like if you will snitch on her, but believe me, you will be helping her out in the long run.
Remember that you are doing it because you care, and nothing is wrong when it is coming from the heart.
Good Luck
2007-06-06 07:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by Life Is Amazing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would sit her down and talk to her let her know how the two of you feel about her and about what she is doing. Saying we all love you and care about you and don't like the things she is doing. Tell her there are people who want to see her go further in life and if she does what she is doing no one will be able to see that happen. Either way you tell her it will sound scolding but just tell her how much she means to you guys.
2007-06-06 07:24:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very difficult situation, uhmmm
1) Invite her for the weekend to a good places, just for having fun, once there you must start a casual conversation, and talk about the situation, be clear and objetive, no put pressure on her, just talk to her on a relax way,
2) Other option is, show her with "examples" what could happen to her if she decides continuing what she's doing now.
2007-06-06 07:19:13 · answer #4 · answered by Yoyo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by seeking to understand her point of view and validating her right to make her own life choices. Then, empower her with insight that it's not about "right vs. wrong." It's more about choices and outcomes and that if she can focus on her own desired outcomes, she can better see how she's in the best position to affect those outcomes by making choices that are "right" for her. Hope that helps.
2007-06-06 07:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
♥Well if they're sisters then get your best friend to talk to her instead of you. They need eachother
♥Just make her see what she's doing or explain it to her by making a scenario up
♥If she's fallin into the wrong crowds then get a group of friends you know to hang out with her so she gets attached to them
2007-06-06 07:12:46 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Saммч ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The three of you should talk it out and hopefully your friend's sister will realize that her sister and you care about her and will try to work on her issues. Don't tell her what to do but give her suggestions on what she could do.
2007-06-06 07:15:33 · answer #7 · answered by Greg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look it's not easy but that's great of u that u are trying to help... the first thing that u guys should do is stop her from hanging out with whoever is hanging out and the next to tell her that for now she thinks that it si cool but later she would regerat it
2007-06-06 07:15:27 · answer #8 · answered by kajal c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down, by yourselves. And just tell her what you think. Don't yell, or be sarcastic. Just, be straight up and tell her exactly whats on your mind.
2007-06-06 07:13:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think she'll listen to you really. do it the smart 'adult' way and try to get her interested in a better crowd of people.
2007-06-06 07:13:06 · answer #10 · answered by rayhanna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋