Men and Porn... What is it?

Question

What is the deal with men and porn? I mean I can understand a teenager or a single man but a married man with as much sex as he could ever want? Why? I just want to understand... :) I dont think its cheating but Ido find it disrespectful...but if I could understand better maybe I would get over the bad feelings about it. Any takers?

I get kinky in the bedroom, and I want sex more than he does so trust me he can have it whenever he wants.. lol

Answer 1

Men are very visual creatures...it's not disrespectful and it doesn't have anything to do with not getting enough sex (well, not always anyway)...they simply enjoy looking at sex/nudity. It's how they are wired and our society (US esp) makes it more interesting because it's so taboo...anything people aren't supposed to do, say, see, or own is something that MANY are going to want to do, say, see, or own. That's just human nature.

As long as it's not an addiction...I don't mind guys I'm with looking at porn. Heck, I've got a small collection myself and sometimes if I'm not in the mood for sex, that'll get me there. ☺

Answer 2

well,
sex is a biological need, as i am sure you already know
but in todays society, porn is depicting sex in ways that it will never happen.
All the women are airbrushed, which in turn leads guys to idealize women

and another thing
if a man has ever told you that you wouldnt understand, he is probbably right
men and women have different sex drives
it is almost impossible for one sex to understand what the other one thinks.

More often than not, men turn to porn because they watched it before they actually had sex, and the real deal does not stand up to what porn had depicted.

If you are a married man, it is very disrespectful, however, this might have been a 10-15 year addiction. and it is chemically addictive, by the way. It actually alters the way men think

Also, porn is everywhere.
On billboards, On the roofs of taxis, in bathrooms
It is very hard to simply drive downtown and not see some type of porn, whether it be the Miller Lite girls, or advertising mens clubs.

It is easily acessed as well. There are more porn sites on the web than all other sites combined.
It is a Multi-billion dollar industry
On one side, yes it is very wrong and disrespectful, but in our defense it is extremly hard to avoid. While this is not an excuse, it may help you understand why some men are addicted.

Hope that helps

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Well this is a very touchy subject for men and women, and we will never see eye-to-eye on it. Men watch and look at porn because it is about a fantasy they we know that there is no way that we will ever be with the women of porn. Not that a married man or one who is in an exclusive relationship, like myself, is unhappy with there relationship it is the fact that it is something different and it doesn't involve physical contact with another women. It is a simple fact that in porn videos that we get to see things that would not happen in our own sex life. Also porn keeps a lot of men from cheating on their significant others when a dry spell in the bedroom occurs. Another thing is that it is kind of a forbidden fruit and that aspect of porn is intriguing because we are taught from a young age to not have porn and every person who is told that they can't have some thing makes them want it even more. My advice to you is to talk to your man about it and find out what he enjoys about porn specifically and it may lead to some new things in your love life that would be good for both of you.

Answer 5

Not that anyone would believe this, but . . . personally, I don't find it all that appealing. Sex for the sake of sex is rather gross as far as I'm concerned. Yeah, I've seen it more than a few times and it really seems degrading. I cannot imagine that the people involved actually enjoy it.

Sure, I can appreciate an attractive woman with minimal clothing, but I don't thrive on that. Quite honestly, I look at all the so-called pretty people in entertainment and just don't get it. I guess that's what being in love does for ya.

I DO, however, thrive on the love of my life and her genuine beauty and the quality of the physical and emotional relationship we share. I would take 10 minutes with her over a lifetime of porn.

To your specific situation, it IS an addiction and it does need to be addressed. There will come a time when he cannot perform without porn being present. You and he both deserve better. At the very least, he likes thinking that he's getting away with something, but given your apparent knowledge of it, I doubt that's the case.

Answer 6

Well, sometimes guys dont really care about the sex, they just want to release what is going on...you know a sort of relief to the tension that builds up. Alot of women hold out and or dont have sex as frequently as most men would need it to feel less anxious about it.

Then there is just that men are usually much more visually stimulated. I find that having porn on doesn't bother me so much if we are having sex together because he just wants the extra visual stimulation. I would rather he look at pictures in mag's rather than sleeping with other women.

Answer 7

For about a billion years the males of all species were polygamous. It is the reason we exist as a species. About 1000 years ago an upstart religion said that you had to be monogamous under threat of being boiled in oil. It has not worked and it never will. It is biologically a disaster. Variety is something guys need biologically. Net porn, a topless bar or an affair. It is the way guys are. You wanted to understand it, but I have absolutely no doubt that you will disregard everything I have said here because it is not what you wanted to hear. What you want to hear and the truth of the matter are vary different things. Should you be interested I have studied it in 6 different countries on 3 different continents.

Answer 8

This is one of the many reasons why I filed for a divorce, he would get up at 3 am and go to the porn sights, and when he come home there he gos again, I'm not a unattractive lady, and he told me if you do not like it leave the room. I'm sorry the pain it to much and this and other things brought on the big D. I do understand what you are going though, and it will not get any better with time trust me on this.

Answer 9

Wow! Some real interesting points of view in the question.
"Married men get as much sex as they could ever want". Sorry ,Honey, but not my experience. Married men get as much sex as their wives feel like. Which, after the early time (rarely years by the way) is not nearly enough to keep a man's thoughts from turning, turning, turning!

Cheating? You don't thin it is but put it in those terms anyway? Of course it's not cheating! It's called fantasizing! And some men use it to enliven their sexual relationships with their wife and thus revitalize their marriages.

Women fantasize as well, naturally, though most don't seem to need the visual stimulus of porn to assist them. Maybe men just aren't imaginative enough? Give us a break! We need all the help we can get to keep up with you girls!

Answer 10

Well don't you just hit the spot !!
I am a man and I will try to answer your problem. First you have to realise that the average male thinks about sex every 15 seconds, so it is a major part of his life. You also have to realise that men love sex. It is one of the most enjoyable acts that anyone can do, its like you want to be a part of the lady that you are with, you want to be one with her. The need and want for sex doesn't go away just because you are married or old or whatever and it has nothing to do with how much you get. Men love the female body in all it's many and varied styles and textures, the gentle swell of a breast, the dimpled globes of a well rounded butt, the sweet sensual aroma that only a woman can give.
GOD IT'S GREAT TO BE A MAN !!!!

Answer 11

Pornography is a lot more complex than that. There are different types, styles, eras...but the real issue is why people can't seem to accept it as a form of entertainment. We can go and see a movie where someone is getting their eyeballs gouged out or their arms torn off, but somehow watching sex or sensual circumstances is bad?

Try reading the books: "The Other Hollywood", "Against Love", and the Fantasy series by Nancy Friday and you'll see that you could be asking a simplification of the wrong question.