ok..i cant seem to orgasm its a very haunting fact in my mind im 21 and im in a relationship of 7 months! i thought id give it time and see if things improved.. i do think its me..
im dwelling on it .. cant seem to focus on anything else..
am i strange..is there something wrong with me..
can you give me some info on faking orgasms if you can i would really appreciate it!! thank you
2007-06-06 06:03:07 · 8 answers · asked by cinderella 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I would seriously urge you not to go this route...faking an orgasm is tantamount to lying; the guy you're with will be PISSED if he finds out you're faking.
Try getting some books (Joy of Sex, Ultimate Guide to Sex, Sex & Loving) and learn how to pleasure yourself then take those techniques to the bedroom with you.
BTW, only about 20% of all women can achieve orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone, so if your guy isn't doing anything to get your turned on, or you're not getting any clitoral stimulation before or during sex, then there's little chance you'll have an orgasm. So learn how to achieve an orgasm, show him how to do it, and things will improve....
2007-06-06 06:10:59 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you MUST learn to relax....I came out of a bad marriage before this one (beatings, etc, nasty!) and I found that if at first I took a bath (you can make it sexy by having him rub you or get in with you) or shower, thought of sexy things for a long while, let hubby and I massage each other and such then it started happening again
i dont know if you do any say *ahem* alone activity, but you really need to know yourself and find out what (images, words, feelings, the infamous G spot) makes you POP....
sex, like anything else, takes practice...focus your mind on how good everything feels (not just down there but his skin, hands, etc) and how much you love him and you will learn not to focus on worrying about an orgasm
do kegels and get to know yourself
meditate...it teaches you to take your mind off crazy thoughts you have and not dwell on them
read books about orgasm, clitoris, G spot (look you would read how to grow azaleas or how to put on the latest makeup, why not this?)
good luck to you in your relationship
2007-06-06 06:10:58 · answer #2 · answered by soulflower 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
watch any movie with a sex scene and you will learn quickly how to fake an orgasm. But you don't need to. I think you are relying on the man to provide you with an orgasm, and honey that isn't his job. Your orgasm is your responsibility, if having intercourse doesn't do it for you, you aren't alone, most women are more successful at achieving orgasm thru masturbation or using a vibrator.
2007-06-06 06:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some women literally cannot orgasm. Some women require multiple types of stimulation simultaneously TO orgasm. Try encouraging him to do the latter...that might help.
As far as faking goes, the only way to really do it is to get really excited at one point, have that excitement swell, and clench your muscles down there, like you're trying to stop urinating. That will make him feel like you orgasmed.
Good luck!
2007-06-06 06:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by Esma 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good sex takes practice! Masturbe so you know your body and know what you like. Also, you will need to try different positions to align your body with his so he is hitting the right spots! I suggest cosmo to get some ideas. Most of all, relax and let it happen!
2007-06-06 06:08:56 · answer #5 · answered by Nancy B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can tell when a woman is faking an orgasm but not a man since he will ejaculate.
2007-06-06 06:10:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
if your sexually involved already, foreplay, or more foreplay might need be involved. Or, it might be him not exciting you enough or properly, or he might not be for you if he can't stimulate you the way you need to be.
2007-06-06 06:14:47 · answer #7 · answered by bird 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
um get a life
2007-06-06 06:06:02 · answer #8 · answered by lovejuicycouture 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋