during sex with my bf..
he..put his hands on my boobs and and move it in circular movements and it is really pain..i mean it is only for a while but i cannot stand it..
i don wanna tell it to him because i am afraid that he wouldn't be 'playful' during sex anymore..
any tricks to avoid that movement when he is going to do it?
2007-06-06 05:57:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
when he does that move his hand to your crotch so he'll play with your clit instead.
I don't enjoy my breasts being touched all that much either..but I'm getting use to it I suppose..
2007-06-06 06:00:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be open with your partner, and simply explain that that particular motion causes you pain. He will understand. He's probably doing it thinking you're enjoying the feeling! You must tell him it is not pleasurable for you, but you can offer him alternatives. There are many erogenous zones around the body; you could ask him to explore with his hands or lips to find new pleasurable areas. Then next time, he can concentrate his efforts there, instead of inflicting pain! :)
By the by, how hard is he pushing your breasts?? You shouldn't really be feeling pain like that, unless he's really squashing them something brutal. Do they hurt even when lightly squeezed? You might want to get it checked out, just to be sure.
2007-06-06 06:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think many women feel they shouldn't say anything to their partner about or during sex.
If you are mature enough to know what you like, and don't like, you need to tell him.
Just because you say something makes you feel good, it doesn't mean you are "easy, or a whore", it makes you a woman. It also means you are more in tune with your body.
The same applies to him, it's O.K. to ask if he likes something or not.
Some men don't realize that some women have very sensitive breasts, just tell him it's like you touching the tip of his penis. He should get the idea then!
A good partner, will NEVER do anything that is painful during sex.
Ask if you could both try something else.
2007-06-06 07:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by JSB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another way to be playful. If it hurts then you must not be enjoying it. Whats the point of being playful if your not enjoying it. You should do a self breast exam to check for knots. Your boobs should hurt that much unless your pregnant. Good Luck!
2007-06-06 06:02:07 · answer #4 · answered by lil_guicho216 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest with him and tell him that it's painful for you. I mean, if you were doing something to him that was painful but he didn't tell you, would you appreciate that? It's so important to communicate during sex and learn what eachother's turn-ons and turn-offs are, what feels good and what hurts. As you learn those things about eachother, sex just gets better and better.
2007-06-06 06:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid to voice your likes and dislikes in the bedroom. You don't hesitate to tell him something isn't right anyplace else in the house; the bedroom should be no different. In fact, you should be MORE assertive there....it's YOUR body he's hurting. The next time he starts in on whatever he does that hurts you just kindly grab his wrists and say "you're hurting me; stop please" and he will. Maybe help him find something to do that won't cause you pain, maybe switch positions or something. Maybe let him touch your breasts while you're on top. But do NOT let him continue to hurt you -- intentionally or not.
2007-06-06 06:14:28 · answer #6 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha yeah my guy does that, he even bites sometimes...but different strokes for different folks! If it starts to hurt though, I just flat out say 'OW' shove his head back and make him pay for it.. guess we're kind of different.
A sensitive appoach to your situation would be to maybe take his hands and put them somewhere else, perhaps around your waist or butt and tell him that having his hands around you turns you on. He'd probably get the hint without you hurting his feelings.
Good luck hun
2007-06-06 06:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key to good sex, you need to let him know what you like or what you don't like and vise versa so you can both have what you want. otherwise, it will never get fixed!
2007-06-06 06:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by kca_cheercoach 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your BF gets pissed by telling him that hurts, it is time for a new BF.
2007-06-06 06:25:21 · answer #9 · answered by uisignorant 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey plz tell him he doesnt know u dont enjoy that , and he is trying to make u enjoy the wrong way its ur right to tell him and his to know.
2007-06-06 12:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by poujmak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋