What exactly have the McCann's done to make you hate them!?

Question

At the risk of receiving a lot of angry responses and dozens of 'I'm bored of this' comments... I'll ask this one question...

The McCann parents left their children alone in a holiday apartment while they ate at a restaurant 50 yards away in what they considered to be an idillic, family resort and that was safe.
My garden at home is 120yards long. If I go out into the garden when they are sleeping - am I guilty of neglect?
As I said before in one of my previous posts - the McCanns didn't sit Madeline on the pavement with a notice around her saying 'please take me' - they had the children in bed, close by, in what was considered a safe area.
I do not condone leaving children alone at all - but what I am saying is, put it into perspective. The guilty person our hate should be aimed at is the sicko who took advantage of the situation and snatched Madeline in the first place.
Why be venegeful of two parents who have lost their child simply because they are not emotional wrecks?

Answer 1

They just did what most people hate to admit they do themselves. It makes people feel guilty I think.

Answer 2

I think that most people feel frustration towards the McCanns as opposed to actually hating them. Frustration that they left the little ones in the first place (I take your point about your garden but that is a little different..that is your home, the children are used to it and know where to find you if they were to wake up - would you leave your children in a hotel room abroad while you dined out and presume it was safe simply because the distance was no further than your back garden?) People are frustrated that the McCanns seem to have been aleviated of all blame - OF COURSE the real blame lies with the abductor, but the parents must also take responsibility for providing the opportunity to the sicko who took her. Not to mention the private jets to meet the pope - people feel this is a waste of time and money and something that simply isnt available to all the other thousands of missing children in the world.

Answer 3

I don't hate the McCann's. I hate how they are behaving. I hate the fact that they lied to police and most of all, I hate the way they haven't once said "We made a mistake and it is destroying us inside because of our utter stupidity. We just want Madeleine home safe and will never abandon our kids again!" No parent is perfect but they generally feel guilty when they don't, at least try, to do the best for their kids! From police evidence so far, there isn't even any proof that there was an "abductor"!!!

Answer 4

I certainly don't hate the Mccann's. I am, however appalled that they regularly left three young children alone whilst they went out with their mates.
Their behaviour since Madeleine has been missing is quite shocking to me. Not once have they admitted that they were wrong to leave their kids. Instead they have sought to justify their neglect, by commenting that "Thousands" of other parents also leave their kids home alone. That is a disgrace, it doesn't matter how many people do it, it is wrong.
If they had said, "We got it wrong, we are sorry", then i think i would have had a little more sympathy for them.
Also they seem to be chasing a celebrity lifestyle, add the question about the money going into the fund, and it leaves me with something i am very uncomfortable with.

Answer 5

Firstly, I don't hate the McCanns.

Secondly, in todays world there are hundreds of horrible people waiting for an oportunity to take children, steal from you, hurt you, rape you, blah blah blah. People need to learn not to leave themselves or their children in a vunerable situation which makes it easy for these awful people to pounce.

I don't think anywhere in the world is totally idillic and safe. I never thought that before this happened and Madeleine being taken has only confirmed what I already knew. I am surprised that people are so shocked that this happened.

Pondlife like whoever took Madeleine, spend their whole life waiting for an opportunity like the one that the McCanns handed them on a plate.

Yes these people are awful, but they exist and are always going to exist we have a responsibility, especially to our children to look after them.

I'm not being venegeful of the parents, just so frustrated with them.

Answer 6

They lost a little girl by going out and leaving her alone. Wherever Maddy is, alive or dead I'm sure she isn't having a fun time at the moment and the McCanns should realise that due to going out for dinner they have perhaps lost their child for good. They deny that they are responsible and blame everyone but themselves. If you did go into your 120yard garden and had your child abducted I would expect you to feel some remorse for leaving them alone.

Answer 7

it is not acceptable to leave such young children on their own especially in an unknown and strange environment. it is a terrible thing that has happened to Madelaine and i hope and pray that she is returned to her parents, but a small portion of blame has to belong to them and as a parent i am sure they are paying for that mistake dearly. they cant go back and change what they have done ,however it should now act as a warning to other parents who are doing the same thing and i can guarantee that parents all over holiday destinations are still doing the same thing with the thought that it would never happen to them. it can and does happen and our children should be accounted for every minute of the day and night especially in foreign countries.

Answer 8

i dont hate them,how can i when i dont even know them?
but what they did was just stupid and maddy is paying the price for their actions.
what if there had have been a fire how would they have got the kids out?say one of the kids have of got sick a lot can happen in a half hour...everyone knows it just takes a second for an accident to happen.they should have taken the kids with them or use the babysitting service, i have been on loads of trips and my kids come out with me every night and i do see loads of other mums and dads doing the same.
so why didnt they?after all it was a family trip isnt that what they said?

Answer 9

Even if your garden is large, it is likely more enclosed and certainly not a public space. You would also likely have direct line of sight of the rear entry point. The McCanns were not in their garden, they were in a FOREIGN COUNTRY THEY HAD NEVER VISITED BEFORE! Why take that risk with your most precious assets?! They would probably have never considered leaving money and passports lying about in an unlocked room! They did not have line of sight and the times they even bothered checking the children are very vague.

I don't hate them, I hate what they did to that poor innocent child, as a parent I am disgusted with them. My vitriol is fueled entirely by the haunting thought of Madeleine waking up to find a stranger bundling her out of the apartment, or wandering out only to be snatched. I imagine my children in that situation. What she has gone through or is going through is beyond horrific and it is the parents fault as they NEEDLESSLY exposed her to this risk for their own selfish pleasures. I find it so distrurbing and depressing that so many people have such low morals they can defend such actions.

Answer 10

So I take it that when you're having a meal right at the bottom of your garden you leave your kids in a ground floor bedroom with the front door unlocked?
And I assume that you do it every day so that people that walk past or live around can see just how long you leave them alone for?
Oh and get your facts right. The room wasn't 50yards away, and they could not see the bedroom from where they were eating. And as for them saying they checked on the kids regurarly, I just don't believe it.

Answer 11

I really wish that people wouldn't keep comparing "being at the bottom of my garden whilst my child is in bed" with leaving a child in a strange property, in a strange country, with the patio doors left wide open and whilst dining in a restaurant that was actually further than 50 yards away (they lied about that)! You can say what you want about "idillic, family resort" there is no such thing anywhere in the world! It is the 21st century, you cannot trust anyone anywhere unless you know them! Fact:- Leaving your child sleeping whilst you go to the bottom of your garden is NOT illegal! Leaving your child alone in a house for an hour plus at a time is! Fact:- If you are in your garden and your child is asleep and like most "normal" people your doors are shut, that the likely hood of a stranger walking in is pretty slim when you are in the garden! Their apartment was out of eyesight and the patio door was left open! I think there are many people supporting them but more against. My reason for being against them is that it was simple child neglect for totally selfish reasons in my opinion! Sure they are hurting, and I wouldn't wish the loss of a child on anyone, however horrible, but at the end of the day, if they hadn't have left her then she wouldn't be missing would she? Its as simple as that!