I loved him than he does this to me? HELP HELP HELP?

Question

i got cheated on buy my bf i called him to nights ago a girl anwer said she was his gf. than cryed for two ******* days than he calls me and ask if we can meet and talk and work thing out we where going out for two years than calls aging plz baba anwer your phone case i naver anwered it i am trying so hard i dont no wat to say i no i got to get over him but it so hard he wants to be togther and all i want is to be happy friends dont mom doesn"t help dad's died sis are ***** i am 17 and help i loved so much amd does this to me is that love or not and than he tells his friends he still loves me than goes out with this girl and calls me and ask how i am feeling i all most killed me self for him i loved him to so much and he does this **** to me. god dam i am going miss him

Answer 1

I'm going to tell you somethings that you probably don't want to hear right about now but I hope you listen to what I'm going to say anyway.
Alot of us girls/women have had a guy do this to us in one form or another and it can be devestating to say the least. Some women seem to deal with loosing a man much better than others. I for a long time fell into the same boat that your in right now. Loved him so much don't know what I'm going to do or how I'm going to live without him. I know that feeling and what your going through all too well.
I'm much older than you and I understand sometimes it's hard to listen to the advice that an older person wants to give you. Maybe the reason that you don't like to listen is because it's something you have to learn on your own about yourself and other people.
So many times I felt horrible about something a guy did to me and thought it was the end of the world.
There's a very good reason why your feeling as lousy as you are about this is because you have low self esteem. You care more about this idiot guy that if he loved or cared anything about you would have NEVER done this to you....Why you ask because you don't blantenly go out and do this to someone you so call love.
You need to love yourself first, respect yourself first. You are the ONLY one in this world that has to live YOUR life, you need to protect yourself from all the idiots out there that say they care but really don't.
By taking this person back, or staying with him your showing him alot about yourself to him, one of them is how much garbage you'll put up with, how much abuse you'll tolerate from him, and how much you care for him and how little your showing him you care for yourself. Honest to God thats what it show's, not just to him but to everyone. So tell him to kiss your ass that he isn't good enough for you to love that you want to be with someone thats going to appreciate you for who you are. Say goodbye. And I swear sweetie there are alot of good guys out there....but sometimes we have to do some changing within ourselves before we can really see them. And by the way. Someone very close to me killed themselves when I was young and as I grew older realized that there was nothing and no one on this planet worth killing yourself over. When times are tough and life seems like it really sucks you will eventually get over it. Sometimes when your in love and you break up with someone you think you love you kinda go through a morning period (like when someone actually dies). It's something that you just have to go and get through and eventually as the days and weeks go by you deal with the loss better and better.
You have so much of your life in front of you....sometimes and this doesn't matter how old you are things along the way are going to suck. Life is a journey of experiences. It would be wonderful if all the experiences were happy ones, but there not. But you can save yourself alot of heartache down the road if you learn from the experiences so that you don't repeat them over and over again.
I hope something I said helps you out....I know how it feels, but you have to be strong and stand up for yourself and show them you won't let'em abuse you.....that you care about yourself more than that.

Answer 2

I feel your pain sis. Don't let this man have so much control. It is obvious he is a loser if he cheated. You deserve better. You are young and have a whole life ahead of you. The best thing you can do right now is find a hobby, hand with friends and go out on many dates to find out what you want from a man. Dont settle for less. You have to kiss a few toads to find prince charming. In my experience the good guys that would make good boyfriends and husbands are sitting right in front of us while we keep running after the losers. Focus your energy on positive things, pick up a summer job, volunteer at a homeless shelter, get involved at a hospital. What you will realize is life is not so bad after all and God blessing you with life and health is reason enoughto LIVE.

Answer 3

Ok, I do not think that this guy loves you. When someone loves you they would never cheat on you or hurt you. He wants you and the other girl. I think you need to cut all ties with this guy and move on. It will be hard but you deserve better than that. You are very young and there are many fish in the sea. It is not the end of the world if this relationship is ending. This guy is not worth your time and you should find someone who cares and respects you more than that!!! I've been cheated on by a boyfriend and learned that he never really cared for me, so i moved on. Well, good luck and just move on!!!

Answer 4

Don't fall for his I miss you crap and love you. If he truly loved you he wouldn't have cheated on you and risked losing you. They say once a cheater always a cheater. Plus he's young and just cares about get laid. Let him go honey you'll be better off. You will probably never be able to trust him again and you would always be a wreck wondering what he's doing and where he is, don't do that to yourself, he's proven he's not worth it.
There are many other boys out there you'll find a new guy. You loved him but you don't deserve that kind of treatment. Let him go, don't take him back or fall for his manipulation. He wants his cake and eat it to.
Your better then that.
Good luck. You'll get through this. We all have been through this, you'll be okay and it will make you stronger.
Sorry sweetie!!!

Answer 5

First of all calm down, I could barely understand your post.
There is not a man in the world worth killing yourself over, you sound like a beautiful, young woman remember you don't need a man who is going to treat you bad or cheat on you, first learn to love yourself and then if you find that you still want to be with this guy go for it. I can speak from experience, my husband cheated on me, I started dating someone else and we are back together. We needed counseling and now we are madly in love again. People make mistakes, how we deal with them is the true test of character.

One question why is this chick answering his phone???

Good Luck

Answer 6

You gotta hook up with somebody new. Be glad you found out what a jerk this guy is now, rather than a couple of years down the road, and know you are better off not having him in your life.

Answer 7

He's playing the field and isn't ready to be committed to one girl. You sound like a very lonely person. You need to back away from him and maybe be friends, but not in a romantic way. He sounds like sex is his biggest interest.

Answer 8

Ur only 17... u will have more relationships. The right guy will come along, just dont rush into things too quickly.

Answer 9

Try your veryvery best to get over him. He's a jerk! Don't ever marry a man you can't trust! If he did that to you he doesn't deserve you girl. Find a man thats not gonna fool around on you.

Answer 10

Love is love