how do you boost your self esteem?

Question

how do you boost your self esteem when every girl around you is soo better loking

i dont really have money to get a make over and to go to gyms

ive been trying to get a job but there are not alot of jobs in milwaukee and getting a job is so competitive here.

Answer 1

Sit down and make up two lists. List the things that you consider bad about yourself (physical and otherwise). Then make up a list of your good qualities.

Take the bad list and figure out which ones you can change like:

Are you too loud when you talk?
Do you laugh too loud when someone makes a joke?
Are you overly critical of others?
Are you sarcastic and negative rather than leaning on the positive side?
Do you need to lose weight?
Do you have a bad complexion?
Do you come across as a know-it-all?
Do you try to control others around you?

Now figure out which ones you can work to change and start working on them one at a time. One of my problems was I had very crooked teeth so when I got a good job, I went and got braces so I wouldn't be so self conscious about my smile.

Now look at your good qualities and work to make those better.

If you have a good complexion, go somewhere and take a class on make-up application so you learn what works best for you.

If you wear glasses, get contacts.

If you need to lose weight, join a gym and start working out and go somewhere to get nutritional information (I like Weight Watchers the best)

Get your hair done in a new style that you are comfortable with and something that is flattering.

Buy some new clothes and change your style a little ~ make yourself look like a lady with class which will help you feel more confidant.

Be positive about yourself but not cocky or overbearing, thinking you are better than others.

Be a friend to everyone and be a good listener and try to be witty (but don't force it ~ it comes naturally in time :) Help others to relax when they are around you.

Don't follow the crowd just to be popular, be you and be natural and respect your beliefs ~ don't compromise them for anyone else.

And remember, beauty is only skin deep. The real gem is what's inside :)

Answer 2

See if your depression is serious enough that it requires treatment by a specialist. Having said that, there are several ways to validly boost self-esteem to a healthy range. Accomplishment and achievement are two. By setting realistic goals to achieve things that are genuinely of interest to you, then going for those goals, you've taken the first step toward reducing depression and building self-esteem. If your goal-setting is realistic, and you remain focused and disciplined, you have a good chance of reaching your goals. While you may not reach all your goals (unless you've set them too low), you'll certainly make achievements that build self-confidence and experience. This has a good chance of working. If you think you're an ugly person, you should be very specific about what you think is ugly. Write these things down along with the reasons why you THINK these things make you ugly. Write down the things about yourself you think are attractive. This you can have others help you with. You might also ask them what they think of some of the things you think are ugly - without telling them you think these things are ugly. There may be ways to improve some things. For example, if you're overweight, you could start a calorie-counting mission and reduce daily caloric intake. You could also start a moderate exercise and dieting program with the help of books on the subject. Whether overweight or not, you get to point. This is a good chance for goal-setting and achievement as well. Good luck!

Answer 3

It is only from lack of maturity that stems this kind of comparing. Most important is your peers who do you consider "friends" carefully at your relationships. If at any point you feel put down by anyone cut the ties now develop bonds on common intersets and talent. Do not let fall behind obsessing outside appearance. When your thirty that competion does not exist. In the meantime you can try these to improve appearance anything that replace glasses for contact lenses, wax eyebrows or pluck it makes an amazing in appearance. Experiment with make up department store lines are more expensive but offer complete make overs free of charge and how to apply make properly. I used to a departstorevisual merchandise manager and receivied so much make up I had to give it away. Just some ideas have fun experiementing

Answer 4

The fact that they are better looking is in your head, everyone has imperfections and insecurities.

Boost your self esteem by working out, or doing something you have always wanted to do. The sense of accomplishment is a total rush!

If the problem is more related to looks, go to a professional makeup artist and have them teach you how to highlight your beautiful features!

Answer 5

The truth is, you count just as much as everybody else. No more no less. You are just as good as everybody. You have your own set of unique talents to bring to your daily experiences. It's your good opportunity to express yourself and bless everyone with it. It has nothing to do with good looks. Did you ever see handicapped people struggle to make it through the day, and with a smile on their face? Nobody is perfect, nobody has it all. But we all have something and now you go and find your gifts and realize your self worth through living them. As a human being, you've got so much potential to discover. Start today.

Answer 6

I love the first answer about working out and stuff... That's a great way to do it long term. I always feel better when I go get my hair and nails done then shopping... After that.. a night out with my close friends to vent a little. Works for me every time. Also, keeping in mind your special and fantastic in your own way.

Answer 7

You could make it your aim this day to begin to love yourself. The more you do, the more your good and positive traits will shine and rise above whatever it is you have been feeding your brain with your internal dialog, which until you love yourself wasn't very encouraging to say the least. Remember that it is one of the greatest commandments in the only book claiming divine inspiration on earth as it quotes :
And the second commandment is this: "...that you love your neighbor as yourself." (Matthew 22: 39) Notice how you must love others as you love Yourself! and this is from Christ's mouth himself... It makes perfect sense, as it is not conducive to loving anyone else properly unless we can do just that, is it? And the more you do this in the way of God's love which is described at 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 and Galatians 5: 21, 22 (in my opinion anyway! as it helps to cultivate all these fruits of God's very own spirit, which He freely gives to all who ask in the name of His son Jesus Christ). I'll let you much on this as I hope and pray that the peace of God that excels all thought will be with you from this moment on as you watch yourself bloom into the beautiful "creature" that He made you. Keep in mind that right now, even though no one is "perfect", there are much we can do to help ourselves by eating well, by eating fresh fruits and vegetables, by drinking 8 glasses of fresh water daily, etc.. Take care of yourself, put the true God first in your life and be happy!

Answer 8

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