Do you work harder at the new relationship? Why? or Why not? Do you end up putting up with stuff you never would have simply because you do not want to admit you made a mistake?
2007-06-06 04:22:57 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I wouldn't cheat in the first place.
2007-06-06 04:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some may say you made your bed now lay in it...I think everyone makes mistakes and admitting is the best thing to do, it may not get you back what you lost but it shows you do have some morals left. Putting up with crap hm I don't believe it is ever good to, in the end when you've had enough you will A/ lash out at that person. B/ repeat your same mistake. C Just join a loony ben because you took it for to long lol..M point is The circle will keep going around until lesson is learned, and you admit, repent... Other wise hang on for a long ride... Good Luck..
~Angel~
2007-06-06 11:31:11 · answer #2 · answered by ~Angel~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think you would work harder at the new relationship because of the wreckage that has come from the last one. Anyone that has a conscience (which would come into question for cheating in the first place) I would think would work harder to keep from making the same mistakes twice. Bottom line is that if you TRULY love your spouse....you would've never done it in the first place.
2007-06-06 11:46:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously missing your wife which is normal... and being that you cheated and probably caused the break up, makes you feel worse... In the future you have to try harder and not cheat on the person you are with... That's the only way you will feel a little bit better about yourself... The grass is not always greener on the other side... Good Luck
2007-06-06 11:36:29 · answer #4 · answered by Oula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think not, actually, because usually cheaters get into the "relationship" thinking it magically is better than the one they already have even though they barely know the person and certainly don't have much history with them.
The cheater usually is believing some pretty fantastical things about the person they chose to cheat wtih and when they find out they are wrong they usually just dump them. After all, if a cheater wast eh type to "work harder" on anything, they would have done so with their marriage. rather than cheating.
2007-06-06 13:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by Cassandra G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, without getting after you for cheating, you should work harder at your next relationship if you don't want to repeat the cheating. Whether that work comes from creating the happiness you're missing in from your current husband or from just choosing a better partner, yes you should work harder in your next relationship, if you don't want to put the work into your current one.
2007-06-06 11:35:32 · answer #6 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good ? From my experience, what I've seen & heard from others. Some actully work harder with new relationships. But when you cheat you're only cheating yourself. We can all go out & find someone to have sex with, but why walk away from true love. Because that's what marriage is. It's a cold world when some people will put their sexully needs above being loved.
2007-06-06 11:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you are cheating--you need to stop and start therapy with your spouse. But yeah, in the beginning everything is new and exciting. It's like that in every new relationship whether it's cheating or just starting a new relationship. I have never cheated on anyone but I have been cheated on before. The guy that I had been dating for about a year cheated on me with this girl that we were friends with and I told him that I hoped he would be happy knowing that he had started their relationship like that. He married her about three months after we split and they were divorced in about six months. That Karma is a B*tch!! And I met my husband about three weeks after Neil and I split up and we'll be married for nine years in July!!
2007-06-06 11:45:47 · answer #8 · answered by steeler_chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that all of the questions today seem like they are being asked by my ex wife?
Yeah, you work harder at it and take more BS, because you are trying to defeat failing again. However, if you would just allow the proper time to heal before jumping in another relationship ............. You stand a better chance of being successful next time around.
2007-06-06 11:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you cheat and leave your spouse for another, of course that person will not work even harder. why not? the only person who would do what you mentioned is the hurt party who feels they must have done something wrong.
2007-06-06 11:29:34 · answer #10 · answered by Jahpson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure because If I cheated I don't think I would ever leave my husband for something that I got on the side
2007-06-06 11:32:31 · answer #11 · answered by mrsknowitall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋