When are you too young or too old?

Question

Hi, just wondering about ppl's views on this, when do u think u r too young to have a baby (+ i don't mean the obvious) i'm 20 and think i would be too young, even tho me + my fiance have our own place and r financially stable. and if u spend too long thinking ur too young, when will you be too old? I know thats a bit of a confusing question sorry!

Answer 1

There's no wrong age. You're ready when you meet the following conditions:

1) You have an active menstrual cycle (IE not pre-pubescent and not menopausal).
2) You are financially secure.
3) You are married, or have a committed partner (all children need two parents).
4) You feel that you are ready.

My recommendation: If you want to have children, and the other aspects are ready, then marry your fiance, and let nature take its course if you get my drift.

Answer 2

i think you are too young when you haven't done things that you couldn't do with a baby - what those things are is up to you. I am 28 and have a 1yr old and it has been amazing - however, I spent many years travelling and working in latin america and I think that if I hadn't done that I might feel tied down. I guess it depends on what type of person you are. is your fiance ready? you might want to wait a year after you're married so that you have time to really strengthen your relationship before you have a little one - the 1st year can be straining on a relationship because of sleep deprivation.
also, remember, there is not perfect time to have a baby. you will never be completely ready so don't wait too long because once past 40 it gets harder to conceive naturally (though didn't a 62 yr old just have twins?)

Answer 3

i personally think too young is when you are still at school, i would say 18+ is a good age providing you have completed education and got a good job. babies dont ruin your life unless you let them so its up to you as a person when youre ready. i think too old is when you are old enough to be a grandmother personally. to me in your 20s is a ideal age for me, i dont think i could have children in my 30s definately not over 35 anyway. whenever you feel ready then go for it, just because your stable enough to have a child doesnt necessarily mean you should. and also feeling too young shouldnt stop you from having a baby if thats what you want, age is just a number at the end of the day!

Answer 4

OK. First of I'd like to respond to answers that say, 'Dont have a child if your living with parents' Me and my partner live with his mum. OK its not the best, however there is plenty of space for us and a child when the time is right. We find that financially, for his mum and us at the moment it is more stable. Not to mention that his mum and dad has recently split up, so being there is great support for everyone. Like I said, we get on, there is space, and our family network would be very close.

Secondly, there is no age range when your ready for children. Obviously so long as the woman is ovulating and having a cycle, both of the consenting people are over the age of 16, then it is legal. A womans peek ferile time to conceive is around the age of 22. We know that it slowly decreases as you age, and that by the time your 30 your chances have supposedly gone down by half. Yet it is possible for a woman to fall pregnant at any point before she reaches menopause.

There are a lot of relationship and stability factors that need to be considered, but ulitmately its up to you two.

Answer 5

20 is the ideal age to have a baby not to young or to old financially you are stable have a good relationship but on the down side you would have to give up work unless your self employed you have only made a small commitement to each all that could change think long and hard about this i dont want to put you off i cant say much i had my son when i was 20 i was married still am good luck whatever you decide to do

Answer 6

I believe in at least being out of your mom/dad's house and able to take care of yourself. Some people can't do that until they are well into their 20's.
I'd prefer at the very lease to be 21 or 22 and no older than 37. Mainly because you are legally aloud to do everything at 21 you get the chance to go out and do all those grown up things, which for some people, it's not enticing. As for over 37, think about the age. Your kid graduates and you are old enough to eat off the senior menu at Denny's. Bit too weird to me.
Also, I am not saying that 16 year olds can't raise children, my guys ex has been doing a fantastic job of raising their son for 7 years, as well as her and her husbands son and soon to be daughter. I just think it's in the best interest of all those included to wait it out if possible.

Answer 7

When a woman is at a place where she can support a child (financially, emotionally, and physically) and is ready for the responsibility, then it's okay that she have one. That age will vary but it's almost never below the age of legal adulthood...and typically much older.

Max age? That's a preference but you occasionally hear of women having kids in their 50s (it's rare, but occurs) and I think it's extremely selfish for someone to have a child and be a senior citizen by the time they are grown. I'm 42 and my Mom turned 70 last year...I can't imagine her turning 70 shortly after I got out of high school. I'd feel robbed of all the fun years we could have had together but she was too old, or died of old age, because she decided to give birth late in life.

My 2¢

Answer 8

i don't think 20 is too young!

you have a baby when you READY! obviously 15, 16, 17 etc. is too young but i had my son at 18, i too thought that was too young but now I'm 21 and my son is three and we couldn't be more happy, I'm married to my son's father, we own our own home, we are financially stable and are now trying for baby #2

however my sister is 23, she is no way ready for a baby, she like to party every weeken, her and her boyfriend own their own home and have money but she would def not be able to cope with a baby!

there's no right or wrong age, it's just if your ready or not!

Answer 9

I was 18 when I had my first and I don't think that is too young, I will be able to enjoy my children more and run around with them, and by the time they are old enough to look after themselves I will still be young enough and have more money to enjoy my life. I am now 22 and have 3 boys. I think maybe 45 is beginning to push it, you are not as fit as you once were and you should be relaxing and enjoying life by then. I definately do not agree with people getting IVF after they have reached menopause thats natures way of telling you, you're too old.

Answer 10

I think you are too young if you still live with mommy and daddy and have no responsiblities... If you are financially stable, EMOTIONALLY stable, have your own place, and are well off to where.... you can pay your bills, go shopping, and still have extra money... you are ready to have a baby... I am 20 in this situation, 11 wks pregnant with a great job, my own place, car... and a future ahead of me.

late 30's & on is too old... risking your child having a birth defect because of your age is not a good thing.