I dont want to have sex with my husband?

Question

I just dont want to have sex with him. A while back I met a man that I fell head over heals for. He is so much like me I feel like we are almost ment to be together. I am right now with my ex husband. I thought it might work if we tried it again but its not, and now I think I met the one I was ment to be with. And I dont want any thing to do with my husband now. Even the thought of doing anything with him like makes me sick . Soo what should I do ?????????? Please help me

Answer 1

I can truly relate to you, I went through a similar situation, I ended up leaving. Me and the other guy are together but not together, we haven't made a formal commitment but we are working on it. I think if you no longer want a relationship with your husband you should definately leave. If you have good feelings about the other guy go for it.

Answer 2

it is pretty obvious you do not know what you want and are looking in someone else's pond for the right fish. When you said that he is so much like you...that should make you think twice. Most people can not stand to be with someone that is just like them, way to many conflicts and so few ways that they will complement each other. The only thing you should do is tell the poor current/ex that he deserves better and that you are not ready to be married and then leave. You will leave this next guy too, so maybe you should tell him that up front.

Answer 3

Get out of that relationship!! Your not being fair to your ex-husband and your not being fair to yourself. If you don't love your ex anymore, no amount of trying to convince yourself to love him will work. Your only prolonging the eventual end of this relationship. Your ex deserves the truth. If there are children involved, you still shouldn't stay together just for that reason. You'll only end up fighting and resenting eachother and your kids would see that. Get out of it, and give yourself some time to be alone. I know that you said you've met someone else, just tell him you need some time to find yourself, and take things slow. You don't want to jump into another relationship just to find the same thing happen! You need to take time to heal and make sure that being with someone else is really what you want, not just some form of trying to make yourself feel better. The classic "rebound" relationship. Good luck!

Answer 4

You are messed up. Having an emotionally divided heart not only screws you up but both of these poor men you are involved with. STOP. Don't be with either until you get grounded in your own skin by yourself otherwise it will end up the same way. Tell the ex (or husband) it is not workign for you. Don't give a reason; just tell him it isn't. Tell the other guy that you will not be ready for a relationship. If you don't you will end up hurting everyone.

Answer 5

Um...I think the answer is clear - he's your EX for a reason. Obviously it didn't work out the 1st time around and it doesn't sound like your heart is really in it to give it another go. So....to be fair to everyone involved, I would end it NOW. It's not fair for you to hold on to him if you truly don't love him anymore. He should be out there trying to find HIS soulmate - someone to love him like a wife should. And for you - it's time for you to move on as well. Maybe with the other guy...maybe not. It's always a BAD time to start new r'ships when you've just ended another. I strongly believe people need to give themselves a little time to get over things and to get themselves in a place emotionally where they'd even be ready for a new r'ship.

Goodluck sweetie.

Answer 6

Ex's are ex's for a reason. Stop playing games with your ex husband and end the relationship. As for this new guy, he may seem perfect for you now, but remember, you're in an unsatifactory relationship, any man but your husband is looking good to you right now. End your relationship, learn what it's like to be single again, don't jump right into another relationship.

Answer 7

If he's already your ex, I don't see the problem. If there was at some point, hope that you could fix your marriage, explain to him that you don't think it's the right thing for you, and that you're interested in someone else. The hard part is over - you've already ended the marriage. Now break away, start fresh and move forward!

Answer 8

You don't want to have sex with your husband or your ex-husband (although you left your husband to try again with him) and now you have met another man you're falling for?

I don't think you should get married again, just keep with each man until you get bored with him or find someone else.

Answer 9

Just leave your Ex-husband, there is a reason why he is your ex. There is no need to keep trying to make something happen and it doesn't work. Thats like trying to make a fire with one stick ( you need 2).

If you think this guy is for you then you need to pursue him. You only live once. Yes, it my hurt to leave your ex-husband but do it now before you start to become depressed.

Answer 10

Since you think you have met your prince charming and that the grass is greener on the other side what are you waiting for?? It's not fair what you are doing to your ex. Does he know he makes you sick?? Don't toy with his emotions! Go be with the other guy and let your ex start to get over this!