why people appreciate women's outer looks than her inner beauty?

Question

I have observed this alot and also talked to diffrent people even my female co-workers. They almost agree with me. Few days back i got the chance to see the Miss Universe contest, but i didnt see any depth in that competition also. I think every human being is made by God with different speciality but why women is considered to look and to expose herself so she can get appreciation.

Answer 1

I just like to look and women. I do not like to think of them as objects, but I like to observe and enjoy the beauty of every woman. I find that women who are very beautiful but are not very nice do not look attractive to me at all.

Answer 2

It all comes down to how we interpret the world.

We all have 3 main senses that we use to communicate with - visual, auditory and physical. Although we all use all three senses all the time, we each have a preferred primary sense that we use first & foremost and a secondary backup sense.

The majority of men 30+ are physical first, visual second. Hence many men do not listen. This is changing somewhat with the video generation, who are becoming visual first, physical second - the not listening still applies. The majority of women are visual first, auditory second. Hence many women find it difficult to engage physically.

To answer your question, a man finds a woman attractive, based on how she makes him feel and how she looks. A woman finds a man attractive based on how he looks and what he says.

A man will not easily find inner beauty unless he is an artist type - auditory first - and that's about 15% of guys. Otherwise, he's concerned about looks and body. Women will b*tch about how other women look, using an ettiquette that us guys don't understand and are not meant to. Women view women as competition, and inner beauty doesn't count when trying to get a mate - as noted above.

Answer 3

because thats how instincts works.
Look at animals, how they behave when looking for a partner, and study what a animal male and female are "looking" for in their mate. Its for sure not at all the "inner beauty"

The funny thing is, that in animals world the male put himself in scene to attrackt a female.
In humans words, female put herself in scene (make-up, sexy cloth, etc) to attracked a guy.

Fact is, that the first few seconds of an impression are very important. Those few moments will decide if you are going to make "contact"
No contact, no inner beauty can be discovered.

Also, many people are judging from looks.
Like when you go for a job interview. You try to look good to get a first good impression. You would not go in your soccer cloths, but also not in a mini skirt looking like a whore coming from her night shift.

Look matters, live with it.
Inner beauty matter as well, but is on second place.
Inner beauty will take over the first place, when people hit an older age, where sex does not matter any more.

Answer 4

Some women can get by on looks alone, but many can't. If I was so picky to only go out with extremely beautiful women I would still be a virgin. I appreciate all women in all shapes and sizes, and looks "really" aren't that important to me, especially at my age. If a woman can carry on an intelligent conversation, and make me laugh I am a happy camper! Unfortunately most people aren't like me and they avoid an average woman because she isn't perfect; that just leaves more women for me to enjoy! I'll flirt with just about any woman if just to make their day!

Answer 5

It's natural for us to recognize something physically attractive and be repulsed by something that is not. Even very young children will recognize beautiful things and be drawn toward them without even realizing it. It's our programming. What we end up being attracted to over time is often a result of conditioning, through things like tv, advertising, music, etc. It's a first response mechanism. But if you become more spiritually mature you recognize things beyond the eye and natural world. You sense a different kind of unseen beauty. It's a matter of what part of you is gaining ascendancy through the years, and this will decide what you will naturally gravitate toward.

Answer 6

People appreciate a woman's outer looks when that is all that they know of the woman. Some woman accentuate and emphasize their outer beauty, through the way that they carry themselves, and their convesation "everyone wants me", "guys want me" "girls want me" " i know i'm fine" " i know i'm the *" "she doesn't look as good as me" and so on and so forth. You always hear them talk about themselves, but never in relation to anything other than their own attractiveness and desirability. They're self-consumed, absorbed by themselves and can't seem to relate to people in a selfless, alturistic way.

Listen to 5 songs on the radio, any 5 songs, on pop radio, or the top 40 stations. At any time 4 of those songs will be about a woman's sensuality, either men talking about it, disrespecting it, admiring it, appreciating it or whatever, or some girl talking about what she is and why everyone wants her. There is little substance to be found. Turn on the TV set, you see an empty shell of a woman who is defined in that way. This is how we relate to woman on a daily basis, so it shouldn't surprise anyone to see women act that out in their day to day lives.

Obviously, if a woman is just that fine, a dime, or whatever, regardless of how hard she tries to play that down, and show us who she truly is, a lot of us won't want to pay any attention to that, or will find a way to relate to it in a physical way. But your regular, average girl, who isn't necessarily the best looking in the bunch, but isn't ugly either, we'll start to see her differently depending on how she carries herself and what she talks about. And if a woman isn't remotely attractive whatsoever that's all we're preoccupied with; we expect her to be smarter, more intelligent and more versatile than every other girl in the room. So we come to the table with our prejudices, and generally, if we aren't that amused by a woman's attractiveness, we tend to find other things to appreciate her with by default. A big part of the problem is how we're conditioned to relate to women in the first place. You can put the most attractive woman in the room next to the ugliest you've ever seen, and the attractive woman can be a PhD in psychology or computer science or whatever and the ugly woman can have her associates or simply have a high IQ and you'll swear that the uglier woman is smarter, or more accomplished, when that obviously is not the case.

Answer 7

Human beings always want to look for those things which they dont have...Men dont have something which women have

women are designed for looks and attraction while men with physical power to do physical work and appreciate the beauty of women. But most of the women know even if they are doing things naturally ..men take it is exposure which their problem !

Answer 8

Mostly women with low self esteem feel like they have to be exposed to be noticed. There are ways to be sexy without being down right tacky. I guess it just depend on how you were raised. I was raised old school, and was always told that women should be seen and not heard. When you walk into a room you should be able to turn head whether you are wearing a bathing suit or a business suit.

Answer 9

Its a simple fact of attraction. No man has ever caught eyes with a woman across a hazey bar or night club and thought to him self wow she has a great personality, its more likely that he is looking at her chest. A persons physical apperance is the first impression that you give people, men or women. If you know a person and know their personality they can grown on you and you can gain apriciation for a person. But is much faster and simpler to allow your physical apperance to tell the story for you. That but its also possibe for a person to be beautiful or handsome and thier most complex thoughts are (inhale,exhale,inhale,exhale,inhale). Thats why physical apperance is only the initital attraction the rest of a persons attraction comes from thier personality.

Answer 10

Hi there,
In my opinion there are two lines of thought in your question firstly.
Is it wrong for a female just because she was made by God initially, to want to look and feel attractive i think not!!.
And lastly we live in a world whereby looks and image are very significant, and for me females looking good is a measure of how they wish to be perceived by the world not how they are..
Your point within your question being a case in point!!
Live and let live is my Motto..
Miss Universe is not meant to have any "Depth" that's the whole point of it!!
Good luck in life with that attitude you will need it and to quote the good book " judge not and you shall not be judged".
Since where quoting the Good book and it"s teaching"s.