every few days she has a new bruise in place that people just dont normally bruise like the face....or broken somthing like nose or toe
2007-06-06 02:45:36 · 16 answers · asked by Lydia K 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If I where you I would first talk with your co-woker about what you think is going on with her, and let her know that you are there as a friend and you are concerned about her, and that you just want to help. And slow understand where she is coming from, and understand why she choices to stay. Next talk with your co-worker about telling someone that can help save her life, and talk with her about get out of the situation that she is in. But remember its not as easy as it looks and she may refuse to talk at first and even leave the person that is beating her. But what you need to do is record every burise you see by writting it down and keeping tack. and ask her how she got the bruise, and then later on that day see if her story changes about how she got the bruise. I will keep your co-worker and you in my prayers. God Bless. And I have to say you are a great friend to be concern.
2007-06-06 02:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by Callie B. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A situation like this is extremely hard to deal with because its hard to verify it. Maybe you should gently ask her where she is getting all her bruises. If she doesnt want to admit to it or you dont want to ask the best thing to do is possibly talk to the police. They will at least check it out. Or if there are children involved call social services.
Hope this helps!
2007-06-06 12:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by NCIS ♥ Addict 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should talk to her/him. Maybe s/he will tell you everything if you ask because normally, people being abused won't say or afraid to say, till someone forces them to tell. Try to persuade him/her into talking to you. If s/he doesn't want to tell, observe for a few days and then do what you think is right, whether to report to someone (police). But, if you continue seeing bruises here and there, you really should act! Good luck.
2007-06-06 09:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could invite her to lunch with you one day and tell her that you are worried about her and want to help. Getting to know her a bit better and developing a trusting relationship with her will allow her to open up to you maybe. I think it;s great that you took notice and want to help. So many people turn their heads and look the other way. It sounds like she could use a friend and someone to boost her self esteem. You may want to look into womens shelters in your area so that you can offer her some advise on where to go and how to get out of her situation. Good luck to both of you.
2007-06-06 10:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Document everything anonymously. Someday those notes may be of help to her. Leave info wothout her knowing - engage her so she'll eventually open up to you, however it may take some time - try to listen to her conversations on sly if she is talking to her S. O. on the phone - look for more signs than just bruises.
2007-06-06 10:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by jenmas39 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly,not a whole lot can be done until your friend gets tired of it and tells the cops herself.It will come down to a court battle and she'd have to testify as to what he's done to her (if he says hes innocent).A womans testimony in court will likely win,but her chances will increase by like 1000% if she calls paramedics next time shes injured.From there,the police automatically get involved and they take pics for court.Then the court issues restraining orders and can relocate her safely.BUT....SHE has to be the one who does it all.
2007-06-06 09:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by knuttery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a pretty hopeless situation I'm afraid. I admire your desire to help her but it is entirely up to her to do something about it. You could not report it to any authority without hard facts and even then she would have to verify what you say. You might tell a boss or supervisor your suspicions. Some companies have family counselors available (mine does) and those professionals could coax it out of her and help her decide to do something about it.
2007-06-06 10:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by Robert P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is possible she has sensitive skin or fragile bones. but more than likely that isnt the case. and really theres nothing you can do. it would be rude to just go up to her and ask, esp if that isnt the case. but i know you dont just want to sit around and look at her like that.
if she does drugs, it's possible she does that s**t to herself(ive known ppl to do that, and have seen what you're describing due to it.)
i'd say just be nice to her, and talk to her about anything and everything, this way if what you think is the case, she'll know she can turn to you for advice and a person to talk to.
2007-06-06 09:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by greenlaces1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would report it to the boss.They usually have the ways and means of dealing with this
If he's approachable tell him or her that you would like to talk in private regarding a coworker
Good Luck and I hope your friend will be OK
2007-06-06 10:00:05 · answer #9 · answered by banjaxed 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you ought to find a way to verify it before you do anything. From what you said it doesn't necessarily have to be abuse. If you do verify it, encourage the person to do something about it.
2007-06-06 09:48:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋