My boyfriend and I have been together for 2yrs and living together for 1yr. Lately I've been really frustrated with having to pay bills and such. I've been feeling like I should move back home. But I feel it'd be wrong to bail out on him and just leave him stuck with an apartment alone. I love him so much but have you ever felt like your missing something in your life? That there are other things your supposed to be doing? I kind of feel that way.. and I feel guilty for feeling that way. I'm happy WITH him... But I'm not fully satisfied with my lifestyle.
Idk what to do. I don't want to leave him.. but I feel somewhat empty.
2007-06-06 02:03:58 · 19 answers · asked by CrazyBeautiful 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm tired of not having money... because all of it goes to bills.
Should I suck it up.. pay my bills and save what I have left over and enjoy my relationship and the fact I made the decision to move out... or what?
2007-06-06 02:06:25 · update #1
i dont think you should leave him. you are in it together and your going to pay bills sooner or later. wouldn't you rather have him by your side?? I live with mine too and i always get fustrated but you just have to remember that things will change and you are not always going to be living that lifestyle. Things are always hard in the beginning so dont quit!
In the end it will strengthen you and your relationship.
2007-06-06 02:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're frustrated with your lifestyle, make some lifestyle changes. Have your BF take care of the bills. Maybe get a new job, or a 2nd job. Also make sure to live within your means. This will help you later on when you can afford better things, you will have the money (and/or the credit) to finance a bigger lifestyle.
Most importantly, sit down & think about what you want out of life. Your life's goals don't have to be achieved today but always make sure your actions & decisions move you closer to your goal. Share these goals with your BF to make sure you are on the same page.
Think about what you want & then talk it through. Communication is the biggest part of any relationship.
2007-06-06 02:09:21 · answer #2 · answered by retropink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you might have made a mistake. Paying bills really stink when you really don't have to. You need to speak to your bf and explain it to him. When things are fixed with him you need to move back home and save as much money before you move out again in 2-5 years later. It's tough since you have the freedom to do whatever you want but it might be the right decision. If you bf does love you he will understand, I am pretty sure that is pretty easy for a guy to find a roomate if he wanted to. Stay at home for as long as you can, I did saved some money. Now married with a child, smartest thing someone young can do. Good luck.
2007-06-06 02:12:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jamezy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the good news is that you realize that there is a problem prior to a more serious commitment. You need to take care of your self first and figure out what you really want. I think the best way to deal with your situation is to take a mini vacation on your own or just take a break from your relationship for about two weeks, try to figure out what you really want during that time. If you still feel the same way after two weeks then you may want to alter your plans. You only live once, and if your not totally happy you cant possibly make someone else happy. Good Luck
2007-06-06 02:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by Tutto Bene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you move home does not mean you will have more money. Starting out in life can be a struggle but if this is the man you want to be with then it is something you have to go through together. Work on paying off the bills you have and when you get one paid off then use that money to help pay off another one, don't go and make a new bill just because you got that one paid off. Money and financial problems are the main reason for divorce and relationships not working out. If you are feeling that something is missing and you associate it with bills and things like that then what you are wanting is to have all the finer things and the extra things in life. At the end of you life none of those things will matter, what will matter is how you lived your life and who you lived it with. You see your parents and all they have and you want to be like that, but it takes time and lots of work to build yourself up. If he really is the man you want to be with then stick with him and talk to him. Set up budget to build and pay off. You will have to sacrifice now in order to have later. If you have now you will have to sacrifice later. Now one question is, is your lifestyle the way it is because of him or because you all wanted more and went into debt to get it? If you are thinking of moving out on him then you might rethink if he is really giving you all you want in the relationship, no financially but mentally. When you figure out that the person you are with is more important then what you have, then you will fill that empty spot with the joys you get from being with someone.
2007-06-06 02:36:05 · answer #5 · answered by Will 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave just yet. Give yourself space from him and try to figure out what it is that you truly want from life and then go out and get it. Buy a notebook and go somewhere were you can think without being disturbed. Write out everything that you are thinking. Then make a list of the things that you would like to change. Go down this list and figure out how you can change these things and do it. If he's a part of the things you want to change then move out. If you just want a couple of days by yourself to relax and think then save up and take a little weekend road trip by yourself. It really does make a world of difference.
2007-06-06 02:28:48 · answer #6 · answered by nm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact is you are now looking at this situation with clearer eyes. yep, ther eis no marraige and is there ever going to be doubt it. and you are there and do you realize if something happens to him he can just leave yu with nothing. in fact his folsk family could come get his 1/2. no will see what i mean. it could be worse then this but slowly i see you are right leave him go home and do some growing up and find a new love that is true and get on the right track.
2007-06-09 18:20:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, on behalf of your boyfriend, I have to say it's lucky for him that you found out you weren't ready to grow up yet. So, you're unhappy because he's not supporting you and making your life wonderful? Well, let the poor guy find someone who will appreciate him, and you can put this down as 'The One' that was taken from you, so you can use it against future unsatisfactory boyfriends. Good Luck!
2007-06-06 02:20:12 · answer #8 · answered by John R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to your problem, allot of people can. The thing you have to accept is that if you are ever going to accomplish your goals in life, you have to start some where. It is hard and seems like it will never get better, but it will. Hang in there, give it a chance and see what happens.
2007-06-06 02:11:02 · answer #9 · answered by Jim C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is physically and mentally handicapped, I advice you not to leave him. If i were your boyfriend, i would never let you pay bills and such with your own income
2007-06-06 02:09:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋