my sister in law gave birth to triplets 10 days ago and since then everyone has been ignoring me. my brother and sister in law have not even called to see how i am.
2007-06-04 23:33:24 · 24 answers · asked by angelcakez4 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
they always call me to see how i am, why should i call them
2007-06-04 23:40:01 · update #1
they always call me to see how i am, why should i call them
2007-06-04 23:40:02 · update #2
for those of you who ask, i'm 25
2007-06-04 23:46:56 · update #3
plus i think it was very selfish of them to have babies when they know i want them too. its not fair
2007-06-04 23:58:19 · update #4
plus they live really near me, they can visit
2007-06-04 23:59:07 · update #5
just please grow up - looking after triplets is a lot of work so just try and hep them in any way. if you really cannot wait for them to call you call them
2007-06-05 21:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by Hannah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when I had my twins everyone forgot my sistes birthday, which was 3 days later, she did not even bat an eyelid, she is older than me and also wants babies, but yes i had them first, and she is still the most supportive sister anyone could have. She wasn't jealous, she was over the moon about being any aunty to twins, you are an aunty to triplets, that doesnt happen every day, now jump off that high horse and go give your sister in law a hand, she needs it! And your kindness wont go unoticed by your family.
P.S she will probably need more help with the dishes and cleaning more than the babes.
2007-06-05 09:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I'm sorry, no offense, but I would expect this from a child, not a 25 year old. When I had a baby, ONE BABY, I was exhausted, and people came to VISIT ME. I didn't go to them until I was feeling better, and had time to figure out how to do things with a baby, let alone 3 babies! 10 days ago...!! Are you for real? Why don't u go see her???? Babies are a gift, and all family wants to be there to share that. I can see if it was a year ago, but gee whiz she only had them 10 days ago, you can expect her not to be overwhelmed. And, no I'm sorry to say that you are NOT the first person on her mind at this very moment.
2007-06-05 10:36:35 · answer #3 · answered by KatiesMommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are selfish! You sound about 10 not 25! Your sister in-law has just had triplets, how hard that can be! Why don't you get off your backside and stop feeling sorry for yourself and visit them! You say you think they are ignoring you, maybe they feel the same way about you!!!
2007-06-05 08:47:02 · answer #4 · answered by Proud Mummy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid to say i totally agree with everyone YOU should make the effort to go see them or at least call! Everyone is NOT ignoring you BUT their priorities have changed they now have THREE BABIES to care for & everyone will be trying to help them & make their life as easy as possible.
I have 4 children aged between 2 & 11 & it sometimes takes me up to an hour just to get them al sorted to go out!
JUST think about it for a minute would you really want them to come round with 3 screeming, smelly, hungry babies to look after, IF you were to go there you could leave when you have had enough!
Although once your there you may just find you enjoy it! Being the doting aunty people will notice & appreciate the effort you have made!!!!
2007-06-05 08:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry- alot of ppl get this whenits only been a single birth, nevermind triplets. they have theyre hands so full right now i can imagine they dont know up from down. with lack of sleep, and caring for 3 babies, they probably even forget to eat. once the babies are on a schedule, they will start to take an interest in the world again. in the meantime, maybe there is something you can help them with? even if its just helping out with some of the housework there
2007-06-05 06:48:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem as if you are very spoiled......you should be very happy for your brother and his wife......freedom of visiting when you have triplets must be a very hard job when my brother and his wife had there first child all attention goes to them but its not about who's getting what attention.....this is your nieces or nephews or both.....love them dont be jealous of them they are children you are not.......mayb your sister-in-law and brother may need you more now than ever to help them or even to babysit and let them get a wee break even if its just to go to your local restaurant...im sure they have there hands full! try and be a little more supportive and think more about other people than yourself...it could end up quiet rewarding babies will come to you when you are ready and not before that.......learn from these babies and get prepared for when its your turn!!! best of luck!x
2007-06-05 07:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by Bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so selfish! This is probably the biggest event in their lives, apart from that do you realise how much work a newborn is, never mind three. Instead of being so self pitying why don,t you offer to help out with this life changing event , then you can spend time with your brother, sister in law and your new nieces/nephews.
2007-06-05 06:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by lynsey m 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are u nuts or what? They have got triplets. Tending to 1 child is a full time job. I don't know how they are coping with it?
ANd secondly, its no there time to ask how you are. Its ur turn to ask how they are and if they need any help.
Its not selfish of them to have kids just bcoz u dont have them.
Actually its selfish of you to think like that. You just want urself to be happy not others.
Me first is not a good attitude.
Grow up.
2007-06-05 10:24:24 · answer #9 · answered by fragnantrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its you thats being selfish. She has just had triplets, she needs all the help and attention she can get. Its hard enough to grab a shower or a bite to eat let alone anythink else. Maybe you should call to see how they are. I am sure they are not ignoring you.
2007-06-05 07:32:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
... i cant believe you're being so selfish. "they can come visit me"... THEY HAVE TRIPLETS. thats THREE babies to lug around!!!!! do you realize how LONG that take to get ready to leave the house? i have ONE baby and some days dont leave the house because its a lot of trouble... "they know i want kids..." ok... you cant tell them you cant have children because i cant. im sorry if you're physically not able or perhaps dont have a partner to have babies with, but H ELL NO dont tell them they cant have kids because you cant?!?! you should want them to be as happy as possible if you really loved them. also, take their babies as a chance to enjoy a baby's company anyways! "they always called me why should i call them" ... these people are caring for three newborns at the same time. you obviously havent been around newborns before, but to try and soothe three of them at the same time?! i wouldnt be able to BREATHE let alone be worried about calling my sulky sister in law. you should be being supportive of them in this tough period. go to their house, offer some help. wouldnt yo uwant support if yo uwere in their position. i cant even believe how ridiculous this is... im sorry but... i just cant wrap my head around this... i take it you were spoiled as a child, unfortunately
2007-06-05 07:15:20 · answer #11 · answered by raspberry 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋