we always fight, argue in so many yhings these days, no sex within 2weeks..sometime once a month....he complained bout me, i complained bout him, ...what can i do in order to survive these relationship, i want to keep it, but dont know how...pls send advice pls...
2007-06-04 23:16:35 · 5 answers · asked by Cristita C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just stop. Stop the whining and bickering. You have a lot of control here, more than you think. My guess is that you argue just to argue and to be right (both of you). Otherwise you would have stated a specific problem. Unless there is a REAL problem that needs to be worked out just don't argue with him. When there is a real problem you need to sort it out in a positive manner.
Pick you battles.
Learn how to fight fare.
PS-Like others have said...he's not your hubby. He's your live in boyfriend.
2007-06-05 00:03:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first year is rough, how long did you date before moving in? You are both are edgey, youll learn when you are married that if you are compatible and are meant to be you will learn to fight, and eventually agree to disagree. I pick and chose my battles. After time if you love for real, you wont sweat the petty stuff, its part of actually caring and knowing eachother, we dont even argue anymore in my home. Either you are meant to be are you arent , i lived with a guy once, and when we both got to the point where we argued about everything i realized those things arent even that serious to me, i was just tired and fed up with him and didnt want to be with him anymore,i was just in a comfort zone with this guy. When i married my now hubby, i realized those things really dont bother me, i just really love my hubby and didnt love that other guy, i didnt even want to talk to that other guy he picked fights, i picked fights we just irked eachother and when you stop having sex, then its really down hill, we just wanted to be left alone. Sorry I know you want to work it out but maybe the answer is one of you move out and you date.........
2007-06-05 08:18:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without the wedding, you don't have a husband. Therefore, you don't need a divorce to move on. Good communication skills are key to having a successful relationship. Without them, the relationship cannot survive.
2007-06-05 09:00:50 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never ever marry with the first person you live with.
Look, lets be frank,
I got married to a PURE VIRGIN, she never even kisssed another boy!!!
We marry, and move in together, befor we move in, everyone telling us what life will be like...Blah Blah Blah
We marry, and split up, in under 6 months!!
Americans are the trend setters, go out and screw everthing you see, and then when you get sick of it, find someone else sick of it, and the rest is history!!!
Trust me...I did that, and now I never, ever argue and fight with my wife!!!!
We are the happiest couple (even after 5 years on 2nd June)
I know!!!
You would not believe it if you see it!!
Trust me!
2007-06-05 06:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
without marriage vows hes not ur hubby. maybe ure not compatible. ask him why no sex and why so many fights. talk it out. communication is key.
2007-06-05 06:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by ~mz. freaky_shye~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋