I did all that and listened and talked about what she wanted to do together and I agreed to do it.
Now things aren't the way we thought they would be. I can not find a job where we moved to and have tried and keep trying nothing.
While I am not working and she is, I do everything around the house, everything, take care of 2 kids and walking them to school everyday, make them breakfast, give baths, getting dressed, all of it. Keeping them quite when she is sleeping.
I get mad when I wash and fold her clothes put them on the bed for her to put away and she complains when I ask her to.
I get mad because she will stay up late drinking beer and not doing anything else, she says she can not go to sleep and beer helps her to.
I said if you can not sleep then why not pick up a dust rag and wipe something down once in while or fold some clothes or something, she said that is being an old lady.
My money from selling everything is about gone and she says I work so why should I do any
2007-06-04 22:45:04 · 10 answers · asked by life is good and bad 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Time you went back to college, get a qualification to help you get a job (or go self employed) and get your self respect back.
2007-06-04 22:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now do this while having a job....then you will know what most women do.
You don't have a job so the house is you job. Just like if the roles were reversed. She is working a full day (lets hope), it does not take 8 hours to clean a house and get the kids up and ready to school. So, unless you are going to her work and helping her out, you need to put in your share.
2007-06-05 00:17:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you understand the word "partnership"?
you have done everything asked, and this is where you are
she does not appreciate what you are doing re the house kids etc
time for you to get a job, no matter how low paid or menial, to prove a point. she will need to step up to the plate and be involved. right now all you are is a housekeeper and a babysitter to her. a stay at home parent is not an easy job by any means but you are getting nothing in return from her, you dont seem to have a relationship anymore. Define your role, assert yourself as a viable part of this-in her eyes. at the moment you are allowing this to happen, i feel for you, and i'm on your side, but until you make a stance she will never change. once she sees how hard it is to juggle a house/career and kids she will need to focus on how each of you contribute instead of just doing as she pleases and leaving everything else to you. she wont respect you until you respect yourself, time for action my friend. then you can give up the menial job and return to acceptable home working and life, or attain a more suitable job, good luck
2007-06-04 23:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like a "old style" man role.
I would explain to her how important it is to you for her to help once in awhile and help you out that you are supporting her in everyway you can and being a stay at home dad plus looking for a job is full-time employment, tell her how you feel about being at home and how you do want to work to but sometimes you are just too tired to do anything else but what she doesn't help out doing. Ask her how it's going to be if and when you do find a job?
2007-06-04 22:50:12 · answer #4 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple of things - now you know how most women live and secondly if she needs to drink to get to sleep she has a problem.
If she is earning - whats the problem - why has all your money gone - go and train do to something else - how about child care
2007-06-04 22:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by Redhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now you know what its like to be a married woman?when things work out for you may be with another woman since this one cannot stand by you and support you,DONT treat her like that.its always good to be in the other person's shoe or the other side.learn your lesson before that special woman comes and remember to treat her well.you can also use your experience to advice other men on this issue.all the best
2007-06-04 22:59:40 · answer #6 · answered by onel2k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're living what 90% of women have gone through in life. This is how most men treat women who are stay at home moms....and even some who work. It feels shitty doesn't it?
2007-06-04 23:37:25 · answer #7 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you traded you lifestyle in to
become a " House Hubby ".
Are you sure your plan wasn't her plan?
Get yourself back on track, and get
some of your power back. To start
this you need another job.
Maybe move again to find one.
2007-06-04 23:03:04 · answer #8 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now you know what it's like for all women!
2007-06-04 22:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not married - ruuuuuuuuuuunnnnnnnnnnn!!!!!
2007-06-04 23:05:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋