My husband was a field worker & spent most of my time with my sister who was helping me not only as a sister but also as a servant. we fight whenever he comes for a vacation. this experience makes me worried whenever he plans to come home. i expect him half hearted. i love him to come & spend some time with us but we end up with fight. this makes me sick of stress and felt the pain morethan 3 times. it was my sister who was helping me to survive even our families don't know about us. He is fond of sex. whatever i may feel he needs it. if i say no for a day he will not give me a space. now i felt that as if sex is work than love. this makes me sick whenever i think of his needs. by the time we fight he insulted me badly & beaten me. he also told me that i have wasted his time. i was shocked to hear all that. I think that not only beating even insulting your love is not necessary. so i told him i need a divorce but he still claims that he needs me & wants my sister out.
2007-06-04 22:09:00 · 3 answers · asked by elsabeth a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Number one dear lady: Once in a beating is enough, go to the police and file a complaint against him, get a restraining order and make sure he gets it where ever he is. The first time he lays hands on you should be the last.
You sound like your past any counseling or, do you think it would help. I don't think so at this point.
I am against divorce but, this beating stuff and, your unwillingness for his sexual advances and the way you feel. It sounds like it's all over.
If you think there's going to be a problem or, your afraid, then pack your bags and leave, see an attorney, you can go to a shelter if necessary. He sounds like he's raping you, there is a law against that you know, weather your married or not, there's still protection for you but, you have to get it.
Go to the nearest welfare office and tell them what's going on, they'll jump right in.
2007-06-04 22:38:13 · answer #1 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to leave him and end the violence. It is not only about what he wants but about what you want as well. Get out while you can and find a better life.
2007-06-05 06:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to consider ONLY your needs in this...he has ruined his chances of getting what HE wants. Once he beat you, it's over! Divorce!!
2007-06-05 07:06:46 · answer #3 · answered by coffee56man 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋