I married a pig... eek! What to do?

Question

I have been married less than a year. My husband started treating me like a maid, and all he does is burp fart and boss me around. Obviously this does not turn ladies on, and I let him know it. He complains that I'm not "affectionate" any more so I have to explain he needs to act like a gentleman, but this just makes him pissed off. I could care less but I am so sick of him complaing about not getting any when it's his own damn fault. Seriously, is there hope?

He refuses couseling and although animals who are gross can still do it is touching, it's not that he so nasty, it's a respect thing, like he'll fart on a silk throw pillow just to piss me off. Thanks, I think I'll just kick his A@@! :)

Answer 1

The sad thing is that most guys let themselves go after they get married. They don't think they need to keep the relationship fresh and sexy anymore. A lot of guys think like this.

I would say have a conversation with him about this. Don't sound mean or argumentative, just present it in a light way. Some women use sex as a tool for punishment or reward. This is very destructive. Why don't you fu ck his brains out, then have this light candid conversation with him. Tell him that you love having sex with him, but some things you could do without because it can sometimes be a turn-off. He should get the point.

Answer 2

I know just what you mean. We've been married 30+ years.
My wife got it in her head that I should be with her in the delivery room when my sons were born. I grew up in a small town and have seem farm animals deliver but none of it was quite as gross as seeing your spouse ripped apart and all that blood and liquid.Obviously this does not turn a guy on and I let her know it. She tells me that I'm not as affectionate
as I was before and I have to explain that she needs to act like a Lady. That just made her pissed off. I couldn't care less but I am sick of her complaining that she's not getting any when its her own damn fault.
Seriously, eeeeeeewwwwwwww. How do I get the image of wife as farm animal out of my head.

Answer 3

Well: you can try marriage counseling. If that doesn't appeal to you then the only other option is a separation to see if that works out, if so then you can get a divorce within a year.

Some people change after they get married, they seem to think the chase of the game is over, now you settle back and relax. How far from the truth this is, when they realize the beginning is just starting, they don't know what to do.

sometimes counseling helps, it shakes them up into realizing what they did at the church and who they're responsible for.
Then they come to their senses and wake up. Maybe this will work, I don't like to see divorces but.? Try it.

Answer 4

If he's going to be disgusting and make you unhappy for whatever reason, you can't accept this. He's being so selfish and so immature if he doesn't know that this is the stupidest way to act with his wife.

Threaten that this will stop today. If he continues to think he's going to get away with disrespecting you like that, then your going to have to take it to the next level. Threaten that he's turning you off and that is why you will not be affectionate, because you can't! Your going to fall out of love with him if he's making you sick.

Never back off on this one. Make sure you get what you want, because this is such nonsense and he is certainly capable of solving this nonsense.

It's not like your asking him to get a better job! Good Luck

Answer 5

Jeez woman! Burping and farting are natural body functions, like you don't do it! My husband and I have farting contests, but he always wins 'cause he is one stinky man! Lighten up.

As for his bossing you around or treating you like a maid, tell him to stop. Tell him no, I won't do that for you. Sometimes I forget and ask my husband to do things for me all day long and he does because he just can't say no to me. It's terrible though, so I tell him to tell me no. When he does, I just get up off my lazy butt and do things myself. But asking first is second nature. I was a spoiled kid with siblings haha.

Telling him to act like a gentleman is ridiculous! It's like your mom telling you to act like a lady! Annoying, hellooo!

It's not just his fault. It's your fault too. You married him, a person not some superhuman who doesn't ever fart or burp!

Answer 6

Makes me just wonder how people even "reproduced" before the invention of soap and toothpaste. Those days, people's diet (in Europe) was heavy on meat so air from the mouth and the butt smelled about the same!! And all the animals in the world don't brush their teeth after their meals and rarely bathe, yet they have no problems with intimacy.

And just how the Eskimos and African tribes do this?

It's all in humans' head, then.

Answer 7

??? Seems a bit late to ask for opinions. It has already been purchased. Wear it and be happy. Don't look back. Don't second guess your choices. Stop looking at wedding gowns now. Wear this one, and be happy. During your wedding planning . . . when you make a decision, stick with it! The wedding gown decision has been made, and obviously your groom likes this gown. That is all that matters. Now it is time for you to move on to the next wedding decision. Don't look back.

Answer 8

Yo, all men and women are equal, if you hubby behave like a pig, u start to behave pigsy too ya, just careless about anything, don't cook, don't swept, don't wash and stop his bossing around. Let see how he feels.

If that is the way he wanted, a pig family, he get it right on.

Answer 9

i've been going through the same thing with my fiance!!! He says im not all that loving to him..and im cold..and then i say,if you take a shower or brush your teeth then of course i will be more affectionate! but then he says im being mean...and he doesn't like how im a clean freak...

ahh men..i think we need to like hold back on the sex until they see how serious we are!

Answer 10

I can understand why you are not attracted to that behavior and put off by his advances. Seek counseling together. It may help.