2007-06-04 21:48:55 · 9 answers · asked by Jack 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have had a similar problem with lies with my wife and it continues today.
You can not stop her from lying, face it. She wants to, she will.
Someone posted, you have to make her feel like she can trust you and does not have to lie, worried about your reaction.
If your not told a lie, then there would not be a problem with a reaction is my thinking.
I have told her about what Dr. Phil says; Once the trust is broken in a relationship it takes a lot of hard work to get it back. He says the other person's life has to become an open book, telephone, email, everything. He says; a person who has nothing to hide, hides nothing.
If she wants the relationship with you she has to try and repair it if it can be. She has to be honest in everything if she wants to have you.
If you can not trust the person your sharing your life with, it hurts I know.
One of my brothers gave me some advise and I try to use it. It goes; don't think with your heart and don't think with your penis, think what is right.
Hope this helps the thought process your going through now.
2007-06-04 22:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by life is good and bad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to EARN back the trust. It is not easy but can be done. She should tell you why she did (what she did) and apologize very sincerely.
Once that is done you must be patient with her and in time the trust will come back.
2007-06-05 11:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard to answer a question wit no details ... what did she lie about and trust is a big thing and its up to u trust her or not but in many cases if it had to do with cheating.... one saying " once a cheater always a cheater " so good luck
2007-06-05 04:53:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really? U mean you haven't told white lies for convenience? Such as when she asks if you love her or is she still beautiful? I thought only women hold such unreal expectations.
So you rather have her tell you that you are dumb, fat, bald, and uncultured to your face?
2007-06-05 04:56:28 · answer #4 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all no one is perfect... second.. u can change,, her.. she lies cause she is afraid of the way you would react... get her to trust your reactions.. the way you judge..
encourage her to say the truth.. she can change.. lying isnt incurable
2007-06-05 05:01:00 · answer #5 · answered by who ?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust has to be earned...give her a chance..if you truly love her
2007-06-05 05:10:25 · answer #6 · answered by murphy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why you want ,not trust her
2007-06-05 04:59:00 · answer #7 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What else is involved?
2007-06-05 05:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by getting rid of her.
2007-06-05 04:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋