Zero Idea about birth control and intercourse!!Help us please!?

Question

Hello All!We are newly married and both me and my wife are virgins.We havent had sex as of yet and the main reason is we are still in the dark and a bit scared of the birth control method.We are bit shy to ask anyone either.My questions are:
1.Will it be tough to insert my penis inside my wifes vagina at first as her hymen is still intact and will it bleed?Is she going to get hurt a lot?
2.We have no idea abt the birth control pills.Is my wife suppose to take it everyday even though we didnt have sex?Her period stopped about 5 days ago and we are planning to have sex tomorrow night.
3.Is she suppose to take pills when she's in her period?

Please Help,Thanx!

Answer 1

1. Not really, it might and no she won't hurt a lot. Use lubrication and foreplay.
2. Yes, she needs to take her pills at the exact same time everyday even if she is not having sex.
3. It depends on what kind of pill she is on. Some pills yes, those are 'mini pills', some pills no 21 day packs and in 28 day packs there are placebo pills which are optional.

I suggest that you talk to your doctor about these questions and possibly use condoms for now. Visit www.plannedparenthood.org for more information about sex, birth control and pregnancy. Good luck!

Answer 2

She shouldnt be drinking anything if you havent had sex yet. It might make her sterile and Im sure you want kids in the long run. Yes you should be gentle the first few times. Since she is a virgin it might a bit a painful for her. She might bleed and she might not. I would recommend u use condoms until she has been evaluated by a doctor. There are different kinds of birth control. As embarrassed as both of u are u need to talk a real doctor. I think u can do it over the phone. But get help from an expert.

Answer 3

ok her going on the birth control before consulting a doctor was kind of a bad idea since it seams y'all did not read the instructions carefully or fully. why i say so is because u don't seam to know what the effects are, and how she should take it and for how long.

since u have Internet look it up.

otherwise yes if will hurt a bit for her, but if u go slow she should not bleed, or not bleed that much. make sure she is aroused properly/fully then things ought to be all good

Answer 4

It will probably hurt your wife a little, be very slow and gentle. She may bleed a little, but then she may not. There are various types of contraception, you should talk to your doctor as to which is best for the both of you. oh yeah and try to relax. I think most people are nervous about the first time they have sex, it's normal!

Answer 5

Don't panic and don't worry! Sex is natural and you will find out. It doesn't hurt always and it doesn't bleed always! It depends in the physiology of each woman.
But ask for professional help if you feel so insecure!
First time sex can bee uncomfortable, strange, and painful BUT what matters is the sex that follows!!!!
After the few first times you gradually learn and you and your partner will enjoy every moment of it!!

Answer 6

Yes, the first time will be tough, and she will probably bleed alittle.

Take the pill according tot he doctor's instructions.

By the way, drinking will not affect her being able to have children at all!!

Answer 7

Okay, Mister, What's up? How can you be married to a Canadian for two years with kids and seeking a divorce and then be newly married virgins. What's your game?

Answer 8

Your last question says you're married to a Canadian and have a three year old son and are seeking a divorce. Creepy.
THIS GUY IS A PERV.

Answer 9

Go to the doctor, both of you, he'll teach you all you need to know. Meanwhile, use condoms!