my wife and i have been together for seven years we have three children one together. we have fought really bad since january around the first of march i found out threw her ansers on here that she had been cheating on me since january with along distant guy that live at least 5 hours away ive been really miserable not getting to see my kids anymore or not as much she was the love of my life. i just wanted to know what would be the chances of her coming back to me i was just kinda hoping that this could be some sort of a mid life thing because we have been under alot of stress over kids jobs money and every day life. it just seems that we were so good together. she was realy stressed out like myself
2007-06-04 21:24:34 · 16 answers · asked by feller 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you and her need to get together and talk it out....I mean talk calmly....Dont judge until you know what really happened and why it happened...Im not trying to excuse her cheating by any means but sit down and listen to her and then make a mutual decision as what should happen....Dont do it over the phone or via email do it in person without the kids of course....Good luck....
2007-06-04 21:30:25 · answer #1 · answered by Maria A 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask yourself these questions first: number one: could you take her back, knowing she cheated on you, where is she living now, under what conditions, is she dating again, probably sleeping with someone? all these first then, could it ever be the same?
I can answer most of them for you, weather you want to admit it or not. Your life with her will never be the same again, I've been there. There will be suspicion every time she goes to the store or isn't around for awhile.
You will be interested in what she's been doing. how the other guy treated her, what they did together, all of these should be questioned first.
Do you think you could take her back and start over, it's going to be hard if she will come back that is.
Maybe it's best to get over it, start life over and look for someone else.
2007-06-05 05:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry for your sad times.. Spouses cheat often, it is common and I am sure there will always be some expert reason or another.. the fact is this! It happened, you found out and now you are trying to pull yourself together... Don't dwell on it!!! Don't blame yourself, Don't tear yourself up over it! You can't change the past... It is very painful and it will always be painful.. I know this myself... Don't dwell on what happened or try to find out answers for why, and avoid trying to find out details!! they will only make you feel worse... The important things are this.. It was not your fault! no matter what!! Spouses who cheat, have chose to cheat! They are not forced to act on it, and are guilty alone for taking the actions.... You did nothing to cause it... Now important thing is, you!!! You need to get with her to talk about seeing the kids, not a blame game and DO NOT let the cheating conversation come up in the talk... keep it kind, and even toned.. talk to her about seeing the children and that you want to work things out to see them.. Do NOT discuss how you two got where you are now... because how is not important, it is done! You are living in the now and continue working on ahead... Try to work out a healthy friendhsip with her.. your anger is what is stopping this, and your pride! It is ok... it is human nature to feel these things.. Your kids need you, work out the friendship for them... beyond the denial and in time you will become numb to this, that too passes and you will be OK! Take up a hobby, meet some new people.. it helps! Trust me =) Good luck to you and chin up.. you will be ok!
2007-06-05 04:41:04 · answer #3 · answered by julianachants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you this, but please believe me when I say that you can never trust her again, she will cheat again. Once a cheat, always a cheat.
I know you love her and the good in you tells you to rise above the pain, put your pride aside and just forgive her and keep loving her the way you always have, but please listen to me.
You need to stop loving her, leave her and find true love somewhere else. It's your only shot at being happy again. The same thing happend to me. I tried to make things work, but she didn't love me the same and I had to learn to understand that. Eventually, I did fall out of love with her and met the woman of my dreams, she is the one :)
Don't worry, don't be scared, just take your time, do good/healthy things for yourself and your kids, stay friends with your wife if you can to make things good for the kids and rediscover yourself again. When you do and when you're healthy, you'll attract a healthy woman or perhaps you'll spot her out of a crowd and fall deeply in love like I did :D
2007-06-05 04:44:18 · answer #4 · answered by saranwrapher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fighting and stress does not give your partner the right to cheat on you. Cheating is a character problem. You can talk it out with her, but to me. It tells her that it's ok to break the trust, your heart and your home and you'll still want her. Think long and hard before you want to go back to her. You wasn't that good together, otherwise she wouldn't have betrayed you. Sorry.
2007-06-05 04:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still want her and is willing to forgive her for it, then ask her if she too is willing to give this relationship another chance. Suggest you try counselling and if possible spend more time together, maybe a weekend getaway. Leave the kids at home :)
All the best!
2007-06-05 04:32:56 · answer #6 · answered by snoringcouchprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stress doesn't make it okay for someone to cheat on you! i mean you didn't cheat and you were stressed so how does that make it okay that she did it? it doesn't. you have to ask yourself about the future if you decide to go back with her. questions like can you be sure that she won't cheat on you again if another stressful moment arises? is she still communicating with this man? will she sleep with someone else in the near future? how is this cheating situation going to effect your children?
there are a lot of questions you need to analyze before you decide to make amends with her.
2007-06-05 04:29:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She said you have a very small c ock and she wanted something that would feel really big inside of her and she just wanted to suck a huge one for a change. I wanted to help her so I did. Sorry, but she gives such great head that I couldn't help it. She also said she love doggie style but with your little wiener she couldn't feel it.
2007-06-05 08:08:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she is stressed out doenst mean she is able to cheat on you. You and her took vows through good and bad. Does that mean that everytime she gets stressed out or you two have problems it will be ok for her to cheat.
2007-06-05 04:33:02 · answer #9 · answered by MZ. Latina 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well talk to her calmly about it.. give her options as to how u can work things out... maybe counselling ..or a holiday.. or something similar..
but i doubt she would be interested.. i wont raise your hopes too high.. but try to keep this marriage alive... if u cant then the easiest thing for you would be to let go
2007-06-05 04:52:09 · answer #10 · answered by who ?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋