MY boyfriend is thinking of becoming a priest. We have been going out for 4 years. We love each other, despite some minor problems that may occur, that we always get over them. My personal point of view is that having sex with a priest is a "bad" thing to do, because a priest should stay focused on his spiritual work. What would you do if you were me?
2007-06-04 21:23:06 · 19 answers · asked by AM1706 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
wats best is that u let him decide..if he wanted to be priest let him be,,everything has its purpose watever happen its for the good of the two of you..and if u really love him set him free and be happy for him
2007-06-04 21:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by cheekyangel_0023 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What denomination is he? If he is thinking of becoming a Catholic priest, he will be expected to vow chastity. He will also be asked if he is homosexual and if he says 'yes', that will probably disqualify him from the priesthood according to the latest instructions from Rome.
If he is thinking of becoming an Anglican (Episcopalian) priest and your Diocese allows gay priests, you will have to get married, so unless you are somewhere you can do that things will be difficult, as priests are not supposed to live 'in sin' (that is, unchastely).
I'm not sure what kind of rules apply to other religious persuasions, but I would suggest that if you are gay men, you will have significant difficulty having an openly loving relationship if your partner is a priest.
Of course, there ARE gay priests, but in the major denominations they must mostly live a closeted life, and cannot ever be openly gay at risk of being disciplined and perhaps expelled from the priesthood.
Given that, I wonder what his motivation for joining the priesthood would be? I am NOT suggesting he is insincere or frivolous, but if he is wanting to take priestly vows, he must be aware that certain things will be forbidden to him.
Honestly, it seems to me that your relationship has more hurdles to cross than just whether you think priests should focus on their spiritual work.
Best wishes with your situation :-)
2007-06-05 04:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by thing55000 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he is Roman Catholic then yeah, he's f'ing up. If he is something other than that, then maybe he's doing okay, there are a lot of liberal churches out there.
But as a Christian, I know that I am saved, whether homosexual or not. And there is a time for spiritual things and a time for other things.
So i guess by saying that he is a "Priest" then he has the rules of his "religion" to follow. If you tell on him he won't be a priest for long!
2007-06-05 05:51:32 · answer #3 · answered by Christian Sinner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I could stay with him.
First of all, all of the men that I've dated have shared my religious views to some extent. I'm atheist and all of the men that I've dated are secular in one way or another. If my partner came out and told me he was going to become a priest, I don't think I would be able to grasp that. Mostly because I don't think I could let the relationship get that far without us discussing his passion to become a priest.
If anything I would take it as though he had been hiding his "calling" from me the entire time we had been dating.
It would be like he was "coming out of the closet" to me as being religious.
2007-06-05 11:15:35 · answer #4 · answered by gopher646 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, tough stuff. It probably depends on which religion he is exactly. I couldn't recommend staying and having sex with a catholic priest for example... to many lies out there. I think if he really loves you, he won't betray you nor himself nor god. And believe me, I'm not a religious person, this statement is more out of respect for religions in general.
2007-06-05 05:41:16 · answer #5 · answered by Dubai-one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, this is assuming you are a girl because your avatar is a dude.
if a girl, then why go into the catholic priesthood which is full of corruption and adheres to many tennants that are not scriptural (eg. transubstantiation). Why not be a preacher/pastor if he loves Father that much. Why not just go into the ministry as virtually any other denomination other than catholic. That is the only one that says that its clergymen are not allowed to be married. Every other denomination of the Christian faith do what Paul said to do. If you can, don't marry, but if that is where your heart is, and you do not feel you can "withstand" the temptation to have sex/be with a woman physically, then get married and be with the woman you love.
Some people are able to do that, be by themselves that is, and most are not. Most want the company of a person of the opposite sex and live their lives TOGETHER in the ministry.
2007-06-05 04:39:38 · answer #6 · answered by jasonallen347 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Procreation is a part of life. Life cannot exist without procreation. However, God tells us that procreation should take place only between man and wife. Many priests are ordinary family men who indulge in ordinary family activities. The concept of celibacy is something that man came up with all by himself believing it to be a means by which to create a favorable impression with God. Sex itself is not regarded as sinful because it is an essential part of the continuation of the human race. If you are married to your boyfriend, you can enjoy a perfectly normal sex life - but having sex outside of marriage will conflict with the path he has chosen to take
2007-06-05 04:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Complicated... it all depends on ur boyfriend..
Is he going to be spiritual and not involve in relationship with you anymore? Is he ok if you are still dating even if he is a priest?
2007-06-05 04:28:14 · answer #8 · answered by Lv M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years is a long time but if he wants to be a priest for the rest of his life that is a long time to not hav sex i dont want to be rude but i dont think it will work out u might end up cheeting on him because of a lonely night and hell end up hating u
i dono i couldnt last
good luck
2007-06-05 04:29:16 · answer #9 · answered by frosty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, if he's becoming a priest, HE should have the dignity to not have sex because of his chosen occupation.
2007-06-05 04:27:43 · answer #10 · answered by Wings 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋