The reason I am asking cause some folks leap into dating after a divorce so am pondering If I am to cautious here cause I left in 1999 and we were finally divorced on August 17,2000. I like being alone maybe I am really strange and my past partner is right that "NO man will ever be good enough for me."
thanks for your time and answers.
2007-06-04 21:17:44 · 9 answers · asked by ღ♥ღLaurieღ♥ღ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think by asking this question, it is something you're considering on some level and could be close to an decision. I think you should start slow with just having a few dates and see how you feel. Be sure to let the guy know that you just want to start by going and not be too serious to start with. You may find that you don't want anyone else ever again, but you might surprise yourself.
2007-06-04 21:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by Roger S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem with dating after a divorce is that you tend to be too vulnerable at that stage. You're hurting too much and you're lonely so anyone who comes along who is the least bit kind will seem like a gift from heaven. That often leads to a relationship that usually ends in disaster when your loneliness is gone and you're not hurting any more.
The problem now is to know when it's time to start dating again. There's nothing wrong with dating right away if you're careful and are aware of your vulnerability but many people aren't and hence the advice to wait.
Generally once you're not desperately lonely any more, that is, you are comfortable with living alone, and once you've pretty well stopped hurting all the time, you're ready to start over. For some that might be a few weeks or months, for others it can be years. So that's the measure usually.
I think in your case you've waited long enough, perhaps even too long. So go for it.
2007-06-05 09:33:41 · answer #2 · answered by Shutterbug 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have four daughters and have gone through this with two of them. They tell us the same thing "I want to be alone for awhile, do it on my own, blah, blah"
One had a boyfriend waiting in the bushes around the corner.
The other one started dating the next night so?
I guess it's up to the individual. I don't believe anyone should be alone.
2007-06-04 22:58:15 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whenever u find the right man, the one u can depend on and everything just feel right.
just make sure u won't fall into the old or even worst mistakes.
but, if u choose not to involve with any man, it's your choice, whatever u like.
2007-06-04 21:34:37 · answer #4 · answered by ordinary1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your comfortable where you are at why change it. You only start dating when you feel comfortable enough. It is all about your timing and never about anyone elses opinion. Only you know what is good for you.
2007-06-04 21:21:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why wait get out there and enjoy your freedom . You deserve it . probably you were unhappy for yrs Nows your chance to fiind that right person .Im not talking about partying and getting dead drunk . Im talking about dating thats all .
2007-06-04 21:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by wishingstar5555 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I haven't practice in this line but i think if no any things prevent man need women .
the nature of male alwayes need femail
think no mor dayes you stay without your wife becouse of kindness betw.you and her
2007-06-04 21:47:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's your personal choice. Whatever works for you.
2007-06-04 21:20:24 · answer #8 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe its up to you......Do you feel ready to get back on the dating train.....Are you emotionally ready for it.....
2007-06-04 21:22:21 · answer #9 · answered by Maria A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋